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Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery
November 18th, 2010
01:20 PM ET

Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery

A New Jersey pastor is asking married  members at his church to delete their Facebook accounts because he says it encourages adultery.

The Rev. Cedric Miller of Neptune  made the demand after 20 couples at his church ran into difficulties after a spouse reunited with an old love interest, the Los Angeles Times reported in an article.

The article, which quotes an Associated Press story, says Miller had asked married couples in his church to share their Facebook passwords with spouses, but couples still ran into problems.

Miller, pastor at the Living Word Christian Fellowship church, says he’s now demanding that 50 married church leaders delete their Facebook accounts or resign.

Anthea Butler, a columnist with Religion Dispatches magazine, says Miller is invoking an old theme in fundamentalist and conservative churches: that any new media - like movies, television and radio - is  sinful.

What is interesting to me is that the conservative Christian cry used to be stop watching porn on the internet, or  your kids would be pimped out on the internet by perverts. Now, social media has become the latest “sinful” activity.

Still, Butler in her column entitled, “Facebook: Internet Highway to Hell,” says she could sympathize with the pastor.

So I am not surprised that the pastor is demanding all of his leadership cease and desist from Facebook. After all, looking up an old flame or your teenage dream à la Katy Perry is just the first step down the road to perdition - especially if your home life isn’t exactly what it used to be.

- CNN Writer

Filed under: Ethics • News media • Pastors

soundoff (346 Responses)
  1. LoveFacebook&mySpouse

    Facebook does not encourage adultery. Sites like ashleymadison.com do. I can't even believe there is site like that. What is the world coming to these days?

    November 18, 2010 at 8:05 pm |
    • charles stevens

      I never heard of it before, but WOW! Thanks for the advert!!

      November 18, 2010 at 9:39 pm |
  2. Religion is ....

    Sorry, but the Pastor is really worried about a lack of control, and turning to what amounts to modern day witch burning (ie blame the internet). Just an example of people living in the past .

    November 18, 2010 at 8:03 pm |
  3. longtimer

    Anthea Butler hit it exactly on the head–just the latest in a long line of ridiculous statements by self-absorbed pastors infatuated with their own importance. I'm not bashing churches or Christianity–I am a Christian myself. The problem is the messengers, not the message. BTW, King David's disastrous adultery stemmed from his watching his general's wife take a bath–so bathing is just as sinful as Facebook. C'mon, "pastor," gonna make your staff stop taking showers?

    November 18, 2010 at 8:03 pm |
  4. tony

    Guns don't kill people on their own. But they make it a heck of a lot easier, especially for weaklings and cowards and snipers. So having no access to guns would cut down the number of killings considerably. Technology does change the rules and makes all sort of previously unlikely encounters much more possible and easy.

    November 18, 2010 at 8:02 pm |
    • charles stevens

      Non sequitur, and an unsupported statement based upon your own personal prejudices.
      Try again.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:36 pm |
    • eggs

      you show either obtuseness or a lack of curiosity at is statement charles

      November 18, 2010 at 9:39 pm |
    • Sniperrr

      All three of you please remain still as I adjust for windage and elevation.................

      November 18, 2010 at 10:11 pm |
    • eggs

      snip, you should change your name to creeper...

      November 18, 2010 at 10:12 pm |
  5. Trevor

    The Internet, the telephone, and the automobile also facilitate adultery. That's why I live in a cave.

    November 18, 2010 at 8:01 pm |
    • David

      A cave with internet. ;D

      November 18, 2010 at 10:49 pm |
  6. Mattmchugh

    Interestingly, this pastor is part correct, and part psychotic. Up to us to figure out which is which.

    – mm

    November 18, 2010 at 8:00 pm |
  7. SamHouston

    Just like Church encourages pedophalia.

    November 18, 2010 at 7:57 pm |
    • charles stevens

      If there was a 'Like' button for your comment, I would click it.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:24 pm |
    • hungrydog

      HAHAHA! That was the most clever response yet!

      November 19, 2010 at 3:01 am |
    • EMEKA

      no one is claiming that such things as you experienced do not happen in churches but at least churches still preach the Word and warn you of the consequences of your action...I do not see facebook doing that on general terms...usage is the problem.

      Some of you talk like you are angry with God and or the church....I wonder which of you will be happy letting some other take your spouse away from you.

      November 19, 2010 at 7:05 am |
  8. Single

    I think it actually discourages...because now you can log on and see if someone is actually married...i am single and i never want to be in a relationship with someone who is married, dating or in a relationship of any kind with someone else....and now i'll know whether they are or not.

    November 18, 2010 at 7:50 pm |
  9. Wisdom for life

    Probably better to offer helpful guidance on use of technology. I posted some guidelines in response to a graduate study suggesting facebook is for narcissistic people. See: http://thinkpoint.wordpress.com/2010/09/10/facebook-is-for-narcissistic-people/

    November 18, 2010 at 6:07 pm |
    • WebEvangelist

      I agree Steve, & you shared some great practical guidelines in your blog. I also had a few thoughts of practical guidelines for Christians online found at http://webevangelist.blogspot.com

      November 18, 2010 at 11:27 pm |
  10. eggs

    you do sound kind of like a lonely pathetic loser reality...

    November 18, 2010 at 5:09 pm |
    • Reality

      Hardly just adding some biology, still seeing 20/20, safe, inexpensive se-x to the discussion.

      November 18, 2010 at 11:52 pm |
  11. Reality

    Mast-urbation is a lot easier and cheaper and no kids to worry about and no STDs either!!!

    November 18, 2010 at 5:07 pm |
    • Sum Dude

      @Reality – you can say masturbation here. I'll put it in the "allowed" section for you. 😛

      November 18, 2010 at 5:40 pm |
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      November 18, 2010 at 11:28 pm |
  12. Minister's Ex

    My ex-husband, a married church employee, did not need Facebook (which hadn't been invented yet) to commit adultery. Perhaps we should forbid married people to attend church, since that's where he found his partners (multiple and sometimes simultaneous). Personally, I am in contact with a couple old boyfriends, and we honor their marriages. We share news and birthday greetings, as I would with any other old friend, but do not flirt, and I am perfectly happy to have their wives read every word we write to each other if she wants.

    I did NOT join Facebook to meet a man, and limit my "friends" to people I already know.

    November 18, 2010 at 4:24 pm |
    • eggs

      weird

      November 18, 2010 at 4:28 pm |
    • Facebooklover

      I am so sorry that you have endured such a terrible situation, and yet this is a GREAT example of how the social networks on the internet cannot be to blame. It can happen anywhere, if the person chooses that direction. It is all a matter of respect, honesty, faithfulness, committment and loyalty to your spouse. It doesn't and shouldn't matter WHO you meet, reconnect with, etc., unless YOU are looking for something outside your marriage, then you can only blame yourself for looking. Again, I am truly sorry you have been faced with this situation in your life.

      November 18, 2010 at 5:56 pm |
    • Julian

      Sounds like quite a church... where is it?

      November 18, 2010 at 9:53 pm |
    • Dan

      Dear Minister's Ex,

      I don't know what your relationship with the Lord was like before this happened. But, I hope that you will not allow ANY man or woman on this planet to lead you away from God. The bible warns us that in the last days, the love of most would grow cold because of lawlessness. Please keep seeking God and don't give up on Jesus. He will never leave you or forsake you. There are genuine disciples of Jesus Christ here today. Pray and ask God to send the right people into your life. And, please forgive your ex. God will not forgive you unless you forgive everyone from your heart.

      November 18, 2010 at 10:02 pm |
    • C T

      @Dan
      In what world should she need God to currently forgive her? Her husband cheated on her and she has made a choice to use FB to connect with old friends that may have been flames and respects their current relationships. If anything God should be forgiving her for 'testing' her by giving her crap and no reward until she is dead.

      November 19, 2010 at 12:51 am |
    • EMEKA

      @minister Ex.
      I really feel for you just keeping focusing on Jesus He is the restorer of our soul don't give up.

      However, no one is claiming that such things as you experienced do not happen in churches but at least churches still preach the Word and warn you of the consequences of your action...I do not see facebook doing that on general terms...

      November 19, 2010 at 6:49 am |
    • Lynn

      @EMIKA – There are plenty of pages on FB which support Christianity. You can "Like" these pages or join groups and get daily scriptures and other related info. Just sign in and search for your interests and you'd be amazed what you find.

      November 19, 2010 at 9:32 am |
  13. Candy

    This is crazy, I mean there are temptations online everywhere that can lead families to be torn apart, it's not just facebook. The key to this is, if people are divorcing it's obviously because they are unhappy with there marriage for some reason or nother. If thier unhappy they are going to leave sooner or later anyhow. I if your happy with your marriage and truely in love then there is no temptation strong enough to break the marriage. Facebook, Myspace or whatever, it's not the sites fault that people make the choices they make. Blame the ones that are to blame, not the internet.

    November 18, 2010 at 3:40 pm |
    • Facebooklover

      I totally agree with you Candy!

      November 18, 2010 at 5:48 pm |
    • EMEKA

      @Candy//Catie
      It is tempting to 'look' for people from the past. If you dont have access to them you arent going to work so hard at finding them. However, Facebook does make it very easy to connect with people perhaps you shouldnt be connecting with. I see the Pastors point of view. Society has lost its moral compas and he is just trying to get his parish to stay on track. God bless him.
      THIS IS JUST IT CANNOT BE PUT IN ANYWAY BETTER THAN YOU HAVE SAID IT CATIE not minding the compas...compass..lol

      November 19, 2010 at 6:11 am |
  14. Melika

    I personally think it is admirable for the Pastor to stand up and speak up to try and protect marriages. It is the Shepherd's job to look after his flock..and he is doing just that.

    We are all vulnerable to sin (because we are human), but it is wise to not put yourself in a situation that could lead to trouble, and in this case (cause problems in your marriage). Connecting with old "flames" is not wise and/or healthy for any marriage.

    In a world where so many are compromising what is right in effort to not offend anyone, I think it's refreshing to see a leader who is not afraid to speak up and lead.

    November 18, 2010 at 3:33 pm |
    • Minister's Ex

      Re-connecting with old flames can be very good for a marriage. A good friend did just that and was reminded why the ex was an ex. No more starry-eyed daydreams about the fantasy of how wonderful it would be to get back with the ex, who was still just as big a jerk as when they called it off the first time. Having disabused the notion that the ex was better than the spouse, the marriage is more solid than it was because my friend knows the temptation is NOT better than the reality.

      November 18, 2010 at 4:39 pm |
    • eggs

      it doesnt sound like you're qualified to give advice on what is good for a marriage... just saying.

      November 18, 2010 at 4:40 pm |
    • Facebooklover

      Connecting with old flames is a "choice" you have on FB, doesn't mean you "have" to connect with old flames. FB is such a GREAT resource for so many other connections. You can start a support group of friends for someone in need, or have a quilting group, where you all keep track of your achievements, and post pictures, etc. FB isn't just an avenue to "hookup" with old or even new people, but it is a fun social avenue for those looking to reconnect with old or new friends and keep in touch... even more so with family's that live a far distance from each other. If a person chooses to hook up with an old flame from their past, they would be willing to hook up with someone new with their present, because they are either not happy in their present situation and are looking, or they are just not faithful. I just don't see how FB can be the "reason" for adultery... it is however an "excuse." And a lot of people will try and blame their failing/failed marriage on an excuse, than to think they did anything wrong. We as humans, make the choice, FB doesn't make it for the humans.

      November 18, 2010 at 5:46 pm |
    • Non FB User

      Few question the utility of a phone in one's home, yet we can find aid as well as temptation on the other end of the line. The technology does not change the root cause of marital instability, nor has this community leader addressed it in his direction. This appears to be less a case of tending the flock, and more a tactic to, dually, suppress individual expression by restricting access to social media and to solidify control of the congregation by facing off against an external foe.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:04 pm |
    • Jeff

      I am still friends with my ex-flames. At no point do I feel the need to stray from my wife. They are exes for a reason. FB isn't the problem. People are the problem.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:26 pm |
    • Tracey

      I gotta agree with Jeff. I have several exes on Facebook. I am not tempted by any of them. My father, however, up and left my mother after 40 years for an old flame. He was looking to exit his relationship, I'm not. The computer isn't the culprit here.

      November 19, 2010 at 12:14 am |
    • WE

      @ Nonfbuser: That is the most ridiculous comment I have read on this post; you clearly are not a fb user as your sn suggests or you have spent your life as a hermit crab.

      If you know that you don't know
      than you know;
      If you don't know that you don't know
      then do you not only not know but you are unaware of your very ignorance!
      Gulli!

      November 19, 2010 at 12:48 am |
    • EMEKA

      @Melika, this is the sanest post I have read on this topic. if anything will offend your partner better do away with it.

      November 19, 2010 at 6:03 am |
    • thinker

      Wow! I think you hit the nail on the head with this sheperd and flock stuff! Let me get it straight, are you saying that the preacher is nothing but a Goat hearder and the people who follow his ignorant ramblings are as dumb as sheep who cannot think for them selves? Wow, im glad is was your analogy and not mine.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:14 am |
    • Simple said and done

      The true problem isn't someone "friending" an ex, but the jealousy of the parter (on both you and the ex).

      November 23, 2010 at 12:51 pm |
  15. Carl Burbank

    I live 1200 miles from my family and friends. Iam marry and my wife and I have a great relationship. We trust each other and have each other pass words. If these people are having problems with marriages. It was going to happen anyway. What I think Rev. Cedric Miller should have a strong marriage counseling class in his chuch. Have a strong sermon on what on marriage,

    November 18, 2010 at 2:25 pm |
    • charles stevens

      I disagree. What these people need to do is remove themselves from an environment that teaches them that whatever bad things they might do don't really matter because the sky fairy will forgive them and wash away all their wrongs by bleeding all over them.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:21 pm |
    • Nynaeve

      OMG Carl....that was priceless...tee hee hee!

      November 18, 2010 at 10:00 pm |
    • Nynaeve

      Oh sorry...I meant Charles. But Carl is on the mark too.

      November 18, 2010 at 10:01 pm |
    • Enlighten

      If you trust each other why do you have each others password's,...........oh yeah so you can check on each other.

      December 27, 2010 at 1:55 pm |
  16. roscoe beauregard

    joe mcdonald had this posted yesterday, as I am of the SABINE state of mind...few grasp or know about our own personal heriticks(sic)...and seeing this posted on CNN, trying to reenter my facebook account, as I am a swamp bovine writer...(google)roscoebeauregard.blogspot.com swampbovine proze-ack with a muscadine vin twist....
    {swamp bovines are those slightly demented swamp cattle, never to really socialize, due to their life in that habitat, sometimes slighly deranged...eating too many nuts...}////

    Next lets forbid riding on street cars, one might meet with an old flame, and go to the Roosevelt Hotel, and have a soiree of most grand portions, inviting half of marti-gras into the soiree....for our meetings may have came about on DESIRE...street car...and not upon facebook...and tell the preacher, to stay out of TEE ROOMS...that got the senator from Idaho...into a bend...just tying his shoe, with that 'wide stance"...lol

    November 18, 2010 at 2:23 pm |
  17. apesydaisy

    I'm always amazed how people blame things for the behavior of humans. Guns don't kill people, people kill people. The internet isn't responsible for your affair, you are responsible for your affair. We are human, therefore we are sinful by nature, but we still make the choice whether to look up that old girlfriend and have an affair or not, etc., etc. I am a born again believer in Jesus Christ and I agree with using caution, but this is pushing it.

    November 18, 2010 at 2:00 pm |
    • Minister's Ex

      Absolutely it is the person's own acts and choices that are responsible. Men have been cheating for millennia, because there will always be a woman who falls for the story of how badly he's treated at home. Mine sort of neglected to mention that he got a home-cooked dinner every night, didn't lift a finger to do anything around the house, had tons of credit cards based on my income, etc., etc. He was more spoiled than any other husband I know, but nonetheless was able to convince women he was neglected and needed their tender ministrations.

      November 18, 2010 at 4:49 pm |
    • Facebooklover

      I couldn't agree with you more. When did we all start blaming technology for the actions of human beings. We are in control of our own bodies, and actions, and therefore cannot blame others or "things" as an excuse for "sinning." If we are tempted by a person from our past, we would be tempted by a person in present, if the situation presented itself in a form we wanted. If you are truly happy and in-love, you would never even consider anything further with ANYONE; past or present form. But you can't blame FB for causing "adultery," only the person committing adultery should be blamed for aldultery.

      November 18, 2010 at 5:32 pm |
    • Brad

      Amen! This pastor doesn't apparently understand the difference between the words "encourage" and "enable." FB doesn't encourage one's behavior. It may enable the behavior because it puts us in contact with people we might never had been in contact with (high school significant others, etc), but WE still make the choice.

      The WORST part about this "article" is that it was published!

      November 18, 2010 at 8:09 pm |
    • No Angel

      I couldn't agree more. This is another attempt of not holding the individual accountable for their own actions. Facebook is a medium just like a phonebook or a class reunion. If someone has a desire to cheat on a spouse, they would utilize whatever is at their disposal.

      November 18, 2010 at 8:47 pm |
    • Chris D.

      Well said!

      However...

      @Minister's Ex: "Men have been cheating for millennia"

      I'm sorry, but I need to call you on this one. It is simply wrong to say it that way. "PEOPLE have been cheating for millenia" is far more acceptable. ...and I'm not going for some sort of political correctness here. It's just that in MY experience, women cheat as much as, if not more than, men.

      I'm sorry to hear that your husband was a schmuck, but infidelity is an equal opportunity condition and singling out men as the only perpetrators is unfair.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:08 pm |
    • Randal

      Born again...lol how stupid. Religious people are absolutely fascinating...its like listening to un-evolved humanoids grunt to each other.

      November 18, 2010 at 10:42 pm |
    • xn

      bless you randal

      November 18, 2010 at 10:44 pm |
    • zombie_jesus

      Let me explain something to you jesus freaks.. MAN is not programmed for monogamy. Marriage IS a man made ceremony.
      Man is naturally programmed to spread their seed all over the place. Women, however, are programmed to nest. This is the NATURAL order of things. Oh yeah.. Religion's only purpose is to control the masses who are to stupid to think for themselves.
      Evolution is real and dinosaurs DID roam the earth.

      November 19, 2010 at 12:43 am |
    • EMEKA

      The Pastor asked his leaders to stay off facebook not the internet because of the problems he is encountering with his members I don't see anything wrong with that. If your right hand will lead you into hell cut it off so also any part of your body...flee every appearance of evil. Facebook may not be evil to you but it is certainly evil-in-use for these leaders. so if you cannot use it for the right reasons stay off.

      November 19, 2010 at 5:54 am |
    • wuhahahahahahha

      Hey @zombie_jesus. You said "Evolution is real and dinosaurs DID roam the earth."

      If dinosaurs roam the earth, why are we are all still alive you stupid. If they all eat other species then no human should survive. That is just a hollywood story you crazy dork.

      If there was a bing bang, why is the earth shape round??? can you recreate a big bang and see if there is a round shape earth coming from it. I bet you or no other scientist can figure it out coz you are all trying to compete with the one true master.

      sucks to be you coz your sitting in the couch, drinking beer and have no life.

      November 19, 2010 at 7:39 am |
    • thinker

      Hey EMIKA, You said "if it is evil and you cannot use it right stay off" EXACTLY, that's the whole point. It should be up to the individual person to decide if they can use it or need to stay away from it. NOT the preachers! Its none of his f ing business. its up to every individual to work out what they belive.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:09 am |
    • Lynn

      Agree! The "shoot the messenger" syndrome hits home once again. But I can also use the pastor's arguement and say stop reading The Bible and teaching about God. How many serial killers have said God told them to do their horrendous acts? Remember Son of Sam? There have been criminals who have used The Bible to justify all sorts of crimes. Look at the guy in the Elizabeth Smart case. He says God told him to take her and make her his "wife". He quotes The Bible to excuse his crimes. Of course, the pastor in this story will back-pedal and be a hypocrite and say it's different when it comes to The Bible. Any one who wants to break the law or be unethical will always find something or someone else to explain, excuse or justify their actions. No personal responsibility any more.

      November 19, 2010 at 9:21 am |
    • guy

      @wuhaha... That sounds like the logic of a child, and I am fairly sure that you are one. You can't open a theological argument with "you stupid" and expect to be taken seriously.

      November 19, 2010 at 10:04 am |
  18. Doc Vestibule

    Cease all communication with persons of the opposite s.ex, unless they're sitting in the pew next to you, lest you be tempted to sin.
    Don't read any book other than the bible! Exposure to new information and/or opinions will drive you to the gates of he.ll!

    November 18, 2010 at 1:47 pm |
    • chip gaylor

      Your ignornace is beyond belief! All religions are fantasy. Dare to think for yourself.

      November 18, 2010 at 8:49 pm |
    • charles stevens

      @ chip - Doc's sarcasm went "whoooosh!"

      November 18, 2010 at 9:16 pm |
    • ccenger

      chip- look up verbal irony, satire, sarcasm – learn something, then read doc's post again

      November 18, 2010 at 9:38 pm |
    • C T

      @Chip: "Swing and a Miss"

      November 19, 2010 at 12:46 am |
    • prestonne

      i'd prefer going to hell than heaven. heaven sounds so boring. you can do whatever you want in hell, and sod the consequences. heaven has too many rules

      November 19, 2010 at 7:47 am |
    • thinker

      I love the cynicism, really. People like this pastor is why I left the christian faith after 40 years. He is taking the easy road. He wants to play a Nazzi God and demand his people stop facebooking. If he is concerned, he should teach people how to control thier desires and fantacies and make sure they stay grounded in reality. He should teach them to recognize the difference between fantacy and reality. Instead, he makes everyone(including those who do not have problems with facebook) choose between thier job/reputation, and thier desire for harmless recreation. I am not a christian, but the christian bible is based on giving people a "choice" to follow the moral code set by jesus. This preacher is akin to a communist dictator.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:00 am |
  19. David Johnson

    Yeah well, religion is driving people to silliness!

    November 18, 2010 at 1:39 pm |
    • ScottK

      If your religion is driving you crazy, have it drive you to "Patty O'Brians Irish Pub"!!

      We'll all be worshiping eGod soon, master of the internet!! He knows when you are sleeping (if you left your netcam on), he knows when you're awake, he knows which sites youve visited and knows you like them fake. He see's you when you take photos and send them to a mate, he sees the nasty messages that'll make your boss irate. eGod, he's in the cloud...

      November 18, 2010 at 7:29 pm |
    • Krish

      How payed for this news?

      November 18, 2010 at 11:37 pm |
    • WE

      @ David Johnson: There's nothing sillier than you anonimously patrolling the internet critisizing everyone and everything that doesn't benefit you!

      November 19, 2010 at 12:45 am |
    • Maria

      True! Live your own life as you want, no matter what your beliefs. Just don't think that YOUR way is the only way, or the correct way.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:56 am |
    • Frogist

      @ScottK/NL: You guys should make an album together. I'd buy it.

      November 19, 2010 at 11:24 am |
    • NL

      Frogist
      If I wrote lyrics they're sure to be crappy, so you're probably right in it being a hit? 😉

      November 20, 2010 at 3:05 pm |
    • Simple said and done

      You mean that as a joke, but it's religion that is the fuel to terrorists fire (and our freedom to choose your religion)

      November 23, 2010 at 12:45 pm |
  20. Sum Dude

    Ha ha ha ha ha ha!
    The pastor sounds like he is one of those adulterers and just wants everyone else to validate his fight against his own adultery.

    And maybe one or more of his "flock" are who he is "involved" with, also. Ahh, religion! Like a breath of sewage-laden air!

    November 18, 2010 at 1:37 pm |
    • guest

      @sum Dude..... soooo true...I couldn't have said it better myself!

      November 18, 2010 at 8:11 pm |
    • reality

      God is Santa Claus for adults.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:09 pm |
    • jay

      Do you believe in anything? If so why is your belief system any more believable?

      November 18, 2010 at 9:19 pm |
    • Chris

      Actually Ashleymadison.com encourages adultery.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:35 pm |
    • JESUS

      Marriage is a prerequisite to adultery. Without marriage there would be no adultery. My solution...OUTLAW MARRIAGE!!

      November 18, 2010 at 9:51 pm |
    • Dave

      @"reality": What a retarded comparison (the differences are significant in a variety of ways). Gotta love internet trolls.

      November 18, 2010 at 9:54 pm |
    • Joe

      Dave the comparison is not that absurd. As a child you are taught to behave and you will be rewarded on Christmas. As adults you are taught if you obey rules you will be allowed into heaven. If you can't at least see the comparison then I am afraid your faith has blinded you too much.

      November 18, 2010 at 10:09 pm |
    • NL

      Dave-
      It's a little early for this, but here it goes

      You better watch out (you atheists)
      You better not cry (you atheists)
      Better not pout (you atheists)
      I'm telling you why
      Jesus Christ is coming back to earth
      He knows who'll be saved already
      Doesn't need to check twice;
      Knows who's rejected Him, or accepted Him as their personal savior
      Jesus Christ is coming back to earth
      He sees you... well, all the time
      He knows when you're a sinning
      He knows if you've been saved or not
      So be saved for savedness sake!
      You better watch out (you atheists)
      You better not cry (you atheists)
      Better not pout (you atheists)
      I'm telling you why
      Jesus Christ is coming back to earth
      Jesus Christ is coming back to earth

      See, it's like they're twins!

      November 19, 2010 at 12:01 am |
    • WE

      @ Jesus: Great idea Jesus, let's outlaw marriage so that when the vast majority of single mothers working and going to school have to go on welfare and you can't get parks built in your neighborhood because taxes have to got to these women and to afterschool programs for the children – this way you can hide in the anonimity of the internet with your grandiose comments and pomposity and complain about that. Typical American! We have resorted to ethics which is ephemeral and changes depending on where your'e at instead of sticking with morals which never change! But hey, who cares about everyone else as long as it's not directly affecting you right?

      November 19, 2010 at 12:43 am |
    • Robbie

      @NL
      Knows who's rejected Him, or accepted Him as their personal savior... tisk tisk. that doesn't rhyme with twice.
      Knows who's rejected Him, or accepted Him as their personal Christ (does)

      November 19, 2010 at 1:58 am |
    • John

      @We: Get a sense of humor. Or learn about something called "irony."

      November 19, 2010 at 3:47 am |
    • Thenextstep

      Only 25 % of the marriages that were completed by 1990 will see a 25 year anniversary. And only 10% of those will make it to 40 years of marriage. Long lasting marriages are just not gonna happen anymore, thanx to technology. So whats it matter. anyways.

      November 19, 2010 at 7:39 am |
    • NL

      Robbie-
      I know.
      I tried my best to make the theology work with the text but, the whole thing just ended up a jumbled mess with no beauty whatsoever, which makes it a fitting analogy to Justification by Faith Alone theology's relationship with the Bible.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:16 am |
    • mobrule

      he's right. I was in a committed, loving relationship, then I opened a fb account, the next thing I knew, I was in a hotel room with 2 women. weird.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:25 am |
    • Shalabee

      @TheNextStep – Technology is not killing marriages. It is enabling people that already have a propensity to cheat. If people took their marriage vows seriously technology wouldn't matter.

      November 19, 2010 at 8:43 am |
    • BeckyTexas

      Why just Facebook? Why not the whole internet? Its not Facebook or any other site its what people chose to do with it. If your going to commit adultery your going to do it without or without the internets help.

      November 19, 2010 at 10:03 am |
    • Guest

      Too bad this reporter didn't do any original source reporting...like a game of telephone the facts are very misconstrued when you elaborate on pieces of other articles instead of doing your own research. I'm a member of the church. The facts are that the Pastor asked church leaders to lead by example and either close their FB page, start a family page, or share their passwords. I'm not sure where he got 20 couples, but the original story discusses how FB has been an issue for the Pastor when counseling a variety of couples inside and outside the church over the past 18 months. He also clearly notes that this is a matter of personal responsibility. Think he's crazy? Another article notes that the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reports (not a religious group) notes that in the past five years, 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social-networking sites during divorce suits. So, while it is up to the individual, social media has led to unprecedented access. Church leaders have an obligation to step up to discuss the moral implications of social media and lend guidance to their flock.

      November 19, 2010 at 11:47 am |
    • elizabeth

      @ NL- Please shut up. It's wonderful you have a religion you believe and find comfort in, but please dont mock us atheists. We have heard it a thousand times before, and we still chose to believe fact instead of fiction. Nothing you say or do can change that.
      P.S.- Look up 'contradictions in the bible'. There are over 150 blatant mistakes in the bible. If your 'creator' can make that many mistakes in his holy book, I truly fear for your lively hood. I'd suggest becoming more self sufficient.
      P.P.S.- If you look at the bible from a diagnostic piont of view, your God exhibits all of the symptoms of antisocial personality disorder. Again, I fear for you.

      December 27, 2010 at 10:31 pm |
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