Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery
November 18th, 2010
01:20 PM ET

Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery

A New Jersey pastor is asking married  members at his church to delete their Facebook accounts because he says it encourages adultery.

The Rev. Cedric Miller of Neptune  made the demand after 20 couples at his church ran into difficulties after a spouse reunited with an old love interest, the Los Angeles Times reported in an article.

The article, which quotes an Associated Press story, says Miller had asked married couples in his church to share their Facebook passwords with spouses, but couples still ran into problems.

Miller, pastor at the Living Word Christian Fellowship church, says he’s now demanding that 50 married church leaders delete their Facebook accounts or resign.

Anthea Butler, a columnist with Religion Dispatches magazine, says Miller is invoking an old theme in fundamentalist and conservative churches: that any new media - like movies, television and radio - is  sinful.

What is interesting to me is that the conservative Christian cry used to be stop watching porn on the internet, or  your kids would be pimped out on the internet by perverts. Now, social media has become the latest “sinful” activity.

Still, Butler in her column entitled, “Facebook: Internet Highway to Hell,” says she could sympathize with the pastor.

So I am not surprised that the pastor is demanding all of his leadership cease and desist from Facebook. After all, looking up an old flame or your teenage dream à la Katy Perry is just the first step down the road to perdition - especially if your home life isn’t exactly what it used to be.

- CNN Writer

Filed under: Ethics • News media • Pastors

soundoff (346 Responses)
  1. whybs

    Asking your congregation not to maaaaasturbate would be most effective!

    You know what I mean, pastor! 🙂

    November 19, 2010 at 1:08 am |
  2. Wzrd1

    Wow! So, while I was deployed, I was risking adultery for singing up for facebook so I could see my granddaughter's pictures!
    Such evil that is!
    Rather than teaching his congregation to behave as people of honor and obey the oath they swore upon marriage, he teaches that they cannot control themselves, like a common animal.
    Fortunately, my wife and I reject his message. For we are creatures of reason and of knowledge of right and wrong, hence we choose right.
    Is marriage what it once was? No, we've been married nearly 30 years, we've aged. To put it bluntly, what we used to do all night long, well, now it takes all night to do it.
    We climb out of bed and at times, fall to the floor and use the bed to get upright.
    But our word to one another is still firm. Because a person IS only as good as their word, if one cannot be trusted to honor their word to their spouse, how can I trust their word to me in business and personal matters?
    No, that minister took the easy path, the same easy path as the adulterer. Hence, that minister's words are worthless to me.
    As is his church of faithless people, who give no credence to the notion of being better than an animal.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:58 am |
  3. zombie_jesus

    Let me explain something to you jesus freaks.. MAN is not programmed for monogamy. Marriage IS a man made ceremony.
    Man is naturally programmed to spread their seed all over the place. Women, however, are programmed to nest. This is the NATURAL order of things. Oh yeah.. Religion's only purpose is to control the masses who are to stupid to think for themselves.
    Evolution is real and dinosaurs DID roam the earth.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:51 am |
  4. FB Divorcee

    Well I'm a case in point. My ex-wife found her old high school boyfriend on FB and that ended our marriage. The clue I got was the obvious stains in her underwear that were laying on the bathroom floor. True our marriage was essentially already over, but FB facilitated the end.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:42 am |
    • Taylor

      You should be thanking Facebook then. Can you imagine if your marriage went on...?

      November 19, 2010 at 1:19 am |
    • zombie_jesus

      Facebook didnt facilitate the end of your marriage, your wife did.

      November 19, 2010 at 3:34 am |
  5. wes

    Let it go already christians, this is pretty damn pathetic.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:37 am |
  6. brian d

    I'll be damned if i let some pastor priest or anybody tell me what i can or cannot do lmao at all you brainwash victoms of your churchs

    November 19, 2010 at 12:37 am |
  7. i am god

    i am god and i say that people choose to do adultery and they shall go to hell unless of course i bleed all over them and wash away their sins...God has spoken

    November 19, 2010 at 12:35 am |
  8. Buddha

    OMG here is another example of why organized religion should be abolished. Some want to ban books from library's and schools, this freak wants you to dump FB, and the crap just goes on and on but its ok for your clergy to molest kids and get away with it. Great idea, dont read the catcher in the rye but wait until I am done with this alter boy and then you can confess your sins. But wait pay the church a large sum of money and all your sins will be forgiven.

    OMG this is something you really want to be a part of?

    Who the hell is to say what god wants? Like wars, why does the all mighty need us to do his killing for him?

    Wake up people, they really are dumbing down americans. Religion is going back to its roots, to controll the masses. (SHEEP)

    Organized religion is no better than the Taliban

    November 19, 2010 at 12:29 am |
  9. Jean-Michel Decombe

    It is not this pastor's business to request from anyone that they delete their Facebook account. He should simply ask them to avoid committing adultery if they want to stay as church leaders and keep providing a moral example to the flock. I always love to take the example of Klingsor, in Wagner's Parsifal, who forcibly castrates himself so as to become unreceptive to desire. This is so wrong and not the way to solve this problem, and certainly not one that this pastor's God would approve.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:26 am |
  10. Jen

    FB encourages adultery like McDonald's encourages obesity! Give me a break...isn't there something in the bible about self control? USE IT! Pretty simple...if you can't handle it, don't do it.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:24 am |
  11. Nome

    This article is very true. First problem occurred 13 months ago, 11 months ago divorce was filed, all because of the situation presented here.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:23 am |
    • Nome

      The above was about my parents, not myself

      November 19, 2010 at 12:26 am |
  12. Bensky

    Hahahahahaha ... and so does the workplace, alcohol .... and church on Sunday. Pastor needs to get a life and stop seeing sin under every stone. Wait .... it is under every stone.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:17 am |
  13. majicdanser

    FB does not encourage adultry. PEOPLE who engage in extra-marital activities do.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:12 am |
  14. cindy

    facebook is just another means to have affairs. look, if your significant partner is going to do that, good riddance!! i never understood how people want to do anything in their power to prevent their lover from cheating on them. if you're a decent, loving, and trustworthy person, who gets cheated on, move on to better things. just say thanks to facebook for getting that freak out of your life!

    November 19, 2010 at 12:06 am |
  15. Ralph Blair

    I've read todays post. The Pastor could have said;"we must watch our thoughts, thoughts become WORDS, Words, Become actions, Actions Become habits, our habits determines our Destiny. This is the way Our brains are wired. FaceBook, Your Book, or My Book have no influence on your thoughts, it can be use to act on thoughts. It's only a medium to convey those thoughts. And if we didn't have the thoughts, we would have the words. Please, let us forgive this paster. And moreover, Ask God to forgive him also. God Bless.

    November 19, 2010 at 12:05 am |
  16. melissa

    instead of demanding they get rid of facebook,
    why doesn't he demand that his flock take personal reponsibility
    for their behavior?
    wouldn't that be a better lesson for them to learn?

    November 18, 2010 at 11:58 pm |
    • Jen

      Yes! I totally agree!

      November 19, 2010 at 12:25 am |
  17. KevinBGood

    When cars first became plentiful, the number of unwed mothers skyrocketed. That new technology, "the automobile" changed life in America and the world forever. Cellphones have done the same thing. Really anything that allows people to have more access to each other, is going to open the doors even wider to such human behavior. Still the answer is not to hide from technology, but to teach people how to be responsible for their actions and to do the right things, not because they might get caught, but because it's the right thing to do.

    November 18, 2010 at 11:50 pm |
  18. Brett

    Yes, please do as the Pastor says. All conservative religious fanatics, please stop using any form of mass media and communication. Thank you.

    November 18, 2010 at 11:44 pm |
    • majicdanser


      November 19, 2010 at 12:13 am |
  19. DallasMarine

    A word of advice, always do the opposite of what religious fanatics say and do.

    November 18, 2010 at 11:33 pm |
    • conan the contrarion

      love your neighbor as much as yourself.

      hurrrrryyyy!!!! opposite!!!!!!!

      November 18, 2010 at 11:35 pm |
    • NL

      conan the contrarion-
      It's the religious moderates who say love your neighbor as much as yourself.

      The fanatics are the ones who tell you who to hate!

      November 19, 2010 at 12:12 am |
    • Nanoc teh Agreeable

      conan – here you don't go...!

      "Hate my enemy differently than everyone else."

      November 19, 2010 at 12:13 am |
    • conan the contrarion

      i know what you're saying NL, and i agree they are a certain kind of extremist.

      but Jesus was quite a religious extremist in his day- enough to attract hatred from the religious leaders of his religion.

      and that religious extremist told his students to love their neighbor as themselves (and their roman enemies who would force them to carry their gear for a mile, Jesus telling his Jewish students to carry them 2 miles)

      can we agree that for a Christian to actually obey Jesus and actually love other people as much as themselves would be pretty extreme?

      November 19, 2010 at 10:10 am |
  20. Jon

    Conservative Christians are so obsessed with "temptation". Temptation is cured by understanding the reason for the temptation, and why it is incorrect. Just forbidding this and that "occasion of sin" just avoids the real issue and turns you into an irrationally repressed person. Maybe when his flock meet old flames on facebook, they commit adultery because they're married to such an irrationally repressed person, and want to escape.

    November 18, 2010 at 10:49 pm |
    • David

      ...temptations often isn't "cured". It is simply overcome by willpower. And if it makes one's life easier by avoiding certain problematic situations, so be it. I know you want to gripe about religion, so...carry on....

      November 18, 2010 at 10:54 pm |
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