Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery
November 18th, 2010
01:20 PM ET

Pastor: Facebook is encouraging adultery

A New Jersey pastor is asking married  members at his church to delete their Facebook accounts because he says it encourages adultery.

The Rev. Cedric Miller of Neptune  made the demand after 20 couples at his church ran into difficulties after a spouse reunited with an old love interest, the Los Angeles Times reported in an article.

The article, which quotes an Associated Press story, says Miller had asked married couples in his church to share their Facebook passwords with spouses, but couples still ran into problems.

Miller, pastor at the Living Word Christian Fellowship church, says he’s now demanding that 50 married church leaders delete their Facebook accounts or resign.

Anthea Butler, a columnist with Religion Dispatches magazine, says Miller is invoking an old theme in fundamentalist and conservative churches: that any new media - like movies, television and radio - is  sinful.

What is interesting to me is that the conservative Christian cry used to be stop watching porn on the internet, or  your kids would be pimped out on the internet by perverts. Now, social media has become the latest “sinful” activity.

Still, Butler in her column entitled, “Facebook: Internet Highway to Hell,” says she could sympathize with the pastor.

So I am not surprised that the pastor is demanding all of his leadership cease and desist from Facebook. After all, looking up an old flame or your teenage dream à la Katy Perry is just the first step down the road to perdition - especially if your home life isn’t exactly what it used to be.

- CNN Writer

Filed under: Ethics • News media • Pastors

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  6. dkent2000

    Just like woman's faces cause adultery and therefore many Muslims require them to be covered.

    January 1, 2011 at 10:19 pm |
  7. tlm1020

    Maybe if he did better with his job, there wouldn't be so many people at HIS church who are being unfaithful.

    January 1, 2011 at 3:08 pm |
  8. city mess

    Plus a book on the NY Times best selling list and a new DVD released in March. It seems like the pastor have no problem to "keep" cashing in big time, "all in the name of the Lord." I wonder if the pastor were to meet God in person, would God say that the pastor takes him seriously. I think the pastor decided that he has outgrown his market and needs to move to the next level but doesn't want to burn any bridges, so he's using spin to have it both ways.

    December 22, 2010 at 11:59 am |
  9. city mess

    Plus a book on the NY Times best selling list and a new DVD released in March. It seems like the pastor have no problem to "keep" cashing in big time, "all in the name of the Lord." I wonder if the pastor were to meet God in person, would God say that the pastor takes him seriously. I think the pastor decided that he has outgrown his market and needs to move to the next level but don't want to burn any bridges, so he's using spin to have both ways.

    December 22, 2010 at 11:57 am |
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  12. Val

    LMAO! These "christians" are so untrustworthy they can't even have Facebook without screwing on their spouses.

    Grats to all the religios right who can't deal with temptation.

    December 1, 2010 at 2:08 pm |
  13. Apostle Eric vonAnderseck

    Face book? This pastor needs to reexamine the word "ministry" and stop setting standards for others. Next he will say,'unless you stop reading the bible passages on Samson, Rahab the harlot, and David and Bathsheba you cannot be a christian'. Hhummm


    November 26, 2010 at 7:11 am |
  14. randy S

    Agreed...people that are going to do it are going to do it...Facebook just makes it easier. I've seen it twice now with people I know. For some people , it's easier to cheat with people they once cared for . These same people would not otherwise make an effort to do with complete strangers. Facebook makes it easier for those people to connect. The pastor is right on...you don't have to believe in God to see that.

    November 22, 2010 at 6:58 pm |
  15. Stephanie

    Ok here it is plain and simple. If you are married and are not happy with your marriage and want to sleep with other women please end you marriage before you go screwing anybody else. Cheating is disgusting and very hurtful. Yes ending a marriage can be hurtful, but it ending b/c a spouse cheated is far more hurtful. If you are not happy end it and then go about your business and sleep with who ever you want. Just my opinon!

    November 22, 2010 at 2:03 am |
  16. PAGANGRL69

    Gee Golly...Common Sense and Responsibility...Respect for another person is what this is about..."Religion" "Religious Beliefs" or the "Pastor" is not going to convince all people of what they should or shouldn't do...They know what they should or shouldn't do already...This is just based on common sense of principals- manners- upmost respect for others- and one's self...The question is rather what will they do we don't know but it's not of our business either...This is everyone's own choice of decision to make for each one's own self...You can't run away from every lil' temptation always cause guess what you can't be tempted by something you already want to do...Man controls himself...himself only...not that of another...unless you allow him to influence and control you...duh! So weak minded...Get a Life !Get a grip!..."Religion" is always about controlling & manipulation of others as if they can't make a conscious decision for themselves...People need to be responsible for their own decisions- thoughts & actions- Stop hiding/using "Religion" to use- make- or influence others...Just think about yourself and stop being so hypocritical...We live life once thus far...- as we know of of this realm... So each is of his "Own Personal Journey" many forget this..."OUR OWN INDIVIDUAL JOURNEY'S"...We each choose to allow others to come along and share this with them...This of us...However-it is not to be of dictating how one should live or should not live another's life...Each is of His "OWN" meaning-His "OWN"- ("FREE WILL")...PERIOD!!!

    November 21, 2010 at 5:17 am |
  17. toby

    Santa- "He knows when you are sleeping. He knows if you're awake. He knows if you've been bad or good, so be good for goodness sake!"

    Jesus- "He knows when you are sleeping. He knows when you're awake. He knows if you've been bad or good, so be good for goodness sake!"

    Alas, legend meets myth.

    November 20, 2010 at 11:09 pm |
    • NL

      Jesus doesn't want you to be good for goodness sake. He just wants you to believe in him then, magically, everything you do will be 'good', but it will not be for goodness sake, will it?

      November 21, 2010 at 12:22 am |
  18. E-Nevada

    OK Christians, a question for you:
    If God hates sin, then why did he even create sin in the first place? This just puts humanity in a lose-lose situation. What good is that going to do?
    I grew up in a Christian church that rejected Baptists, Catholics, Methodists, etc even though they claim to be "Christian". You would be shunned for even hanging out with a Baptist, even though they're both "Christians"
    What kind of sense does that make?
    So I drew the conclusion that "God" and "Satan" are two sides of the same coin.
    How would you know the concept of good without knowing the concept of evil? The two are inexstricably linked forever. You cannot have one without the other.

    November 20, 2010 at 8:51 pm |
  19. former facebooker

    Actually, facebook has already caused unwanted trouble in my relationship. I've gotten several friend request from "old flames" and my fiance was upset. You're too accessible and it just opens you up to the world. Although my intentions were initially good and genuine, I had to put myself in his shoes and think how I would feel. I deleted my account last night.

    November 20, 2010 at 5:36 pm |
  20. SavedPerson

    As far as being an onlooker and not being invovled. I don't feel an absolute determination can be proposed. I can say i don't see any thing wrong with this if the motives are for Good and for living a life of holiness you make the proper adjustments. (1Corin10:31Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.) Even if someone may think its excess. (1Corin6:12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient:..) If facebook was presenting itself to be unhelpful in that church and not bringing them closer to God whats the big deal. Is expelling facebook going to mess up there relationship with God? You be the Judge. For all the people who say its the heart not the vehicle(Facebook) I agree but trust me your heart is always going to be tempted daily by the flesh its a daily fight. So no one gets to a place where they are not tempted I don't care how much you pray and read the Bible. We are still human beings. So do what you must to stay holy! (Romans13:14But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.)

    November 20, 2010 at 12:29 pm |
    • NL

      How about the other criticism about facebook, that it is just a colossal waste of time? Doesn't the time it takes away from other duties only encourage selfishness and sloth?

      November 20, 2010 at 3:14 pm |
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