By David Mattingly and Eric Marrapodi, CNN
Fayetteville, North Carolina (CNN)– A pastor who advocated hitting boys who display effeminate qualities is expressing regret for the sermon he delivered in the midst of a controversial marriage amendment battle.
"Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist," Sean Harris, the pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville, North Carolina, told his congregants in his sermon on April 28. He continued, "Man up, give them a good punch, OK. 'You're not going to act like that. You were made by God to be a male and you're going to be a male.'"
This week Harris said, "I was telling them in strong words that were not careful. What did I learn this week? Be more careful with your words."
Harris' comments came in a heated environment in the Tarheel State. On Tuesday, voters will cast ballots on Amendment One, which would amend the state constitution to say that "Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State."
While North Carolina already has a law banning same-sex marriage, the passage of the amendment would effectively ban same-sex civil unions and domestic partnerships.
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Churches across the state have taken opposing sides on the issue. George Reed, the head of the North Carolina Council of Churches, which is opposing the amendment, says the support breaks along traditional battle lines. He says many Catholic and independent evangelical churches support the amendment and many mainline churches oppose it.
On Sunday, a full-page advertisement from the world's most famous evangelist, long-time North Carolina resident Billy Graham, ran in 14 newspapers across the state.
The ad featured the 93-year-old evangelist's picture and read, "I never thought we would have to debate the definition of marriage." It continued, "The Bible is clear – God’s definition of marriage is between a man and a woman. I want to urge my fellow North Carolinians to vote for the marriage amendment on Tuesday, May 8. God bless you as you vote.”
Graham has shied away from other hot-button political issues in the past. His spokesman, A. Larry Ross, noted he had kept silent when similar ballot issues appeared in 30 other states but felt compelled to speak up this time because the debate was raging in his home state.
“For him it’s a timeless message, not a timely issue. He’s preached this for 60 years. He was reinforcing the positive message he has been preaching," Ross said. “For him it’s not a political issue, it’s a moral issue.”
Harris' controversial sermon was focused on the amendment debate and he is encouraging his members to vote for the marriage amendment.
Harris said he preaches a biblical interpretation at the Berean Baptist Church – that homosexuality is a choice and that the Bible teaches it is sinful behavior.
The church is an independent congregation that began in 1967 after members left Grace Baptist church "in reaction to the liberal influence in the Southern Baptist Convention," its website says.
When Harris' sermon hit the Internet, it became a flashpoint for the statewide debate. Harris says he became the target of angry, hateful messages filled with profanity and multiple death threats after telling parents how to deal with children and effeminate behavior.
"You know, it's amazing how 'punch' has been equated to inciting violence against gay youth. That's not what I meant," the pastor said.
Instead, he said, the reference should be interpreted differently: "A shove, an affirmation. You see coaches give their players a good punch, a good slug. It's a way of affirming the gender distinctions between a male and a female," he said.
Anyone looking for a sweeping apology will be disappointed.
"I was apologizing for failing to say the right thing, for failing to be more careful, to make sure that no one thinks that Sean Harris is suggesting, as was said – although I never said this – ... 'Beat the gay outta children.' Those weren't my words, I didn't even believe there is such a thing as gay children. So I wasn't saying that. I was dealing with effeminate behavior, and instructing parents to affirm the manhood or the womanhood in their children," he said.
Congregants have stood by and supported their pastor. Prior to the service on Sunday, Harris received a standing ovation. Police kept watch outside the church. Demonstrators were kept at a distance.
"He always has a little levity into it and that's why we all laughed. We know our pastor," one member said.
Harris said he won't apologize for for what he called doing his job.
"No, I don't think that I need to apologize for preaching to my people what the word of God says. That's my responsibility."
See the full interview with Harris on Tuesday on "AC360."
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Key words: "The BIBLE is clear..." Yes, in YOUR religious book in the way YOU interpreted. If you want to believe that, then fine. But STOP trying to push your beliefs on other people... that goes against the very first amendment in the Bill of Rights! And, Pro Tip: Marriage existed way before your holy book did, for varying reasons. Yours is not the only definition of marriage!
A punch is a punch is a punch, there is no getting around what he said which was to beat the gay out of children. I hope 1. that he doesn't have children 2. well I would say something here about hate crimes or hate speech but this is in America.....so happy to be Canadian! =)
Nice blog John. Way to go and smart move with the wordpress pick.I am not hirneag much discussion of rail in the stimulus discussions. Seems to me a massive revamp of the US rail system meets a ton of goals and brings us back to the forefront with the rest of the world. Right now Accela is a national embarrassment. I need to be able to do Boston-NYC at 200MPH like a French person can.
The bible is very clear alright, you can have lots of wives and concubines according to the bible. It says nothing about only being allowed to have one wife.
A thought to consider without a typical ego response
Accept Jesus christ as your lord and saviour. You never know how soon is too late. Transcend the worldly illusion of enslavement.
The world denounces truth....
Accepting Jesus Christ (for me) resulted in something like seeng a new colour. You will see it .....but will not be able to clearly explain it to anyone else..... Its meant to be that way to transend any selfism within you.
Also... much the world arranges "surrounding dark matter into something to be debated" in such a way that protects/inflates the ego.
The key is be present and transcend our own desire to physically see evidence. We don't know anyways by defending our own perception of dark matter.
Currently.... most of us are constructing our own path that suits our sin lifestyle. Were all sinners. Knowing that we are is often an issue. But both christians and non are sinners.
We don't like to Let go and let god. We want control to some degree. This is what Jesus asks us to do. "Let go and let god".
It's the hardest thing to do... but is done by letting the truth of scripture lead you (redemptive revelation)... as I said .
Try reading corinthians and see if it makes sense to you. Try it without a pre conceived notion of it being a fairy tale.
See the truth...
do we do what it says in todays society... is it relevant... so many have not recently read and only hinge their philosophy on what they have heard from som other person...which may have been full of arogance pride or vanity..
Look closely at the economy ponzi, look at how society idolizes Lust , greed , envy, sloth, pride of life, desire for knowledge, desire for power, desire for revencge,gluttony with food etc .
Trancsend the temporal world.
Just think if you can find any truth you can take with you ....in any of these things. When you die your riches go to someone who will spend away your life..... You will be forgotten.... history will repeat iteslf.... the greatest minds knowledge fade or are eventually plagerzed..... your good deeds will be forgotten and only give you a fleeting temporary reward . your learned teachings are forgotten or mutated..... your gold is transfered back to the rullers that rule you through deception. Your grave will grow over . This is truth .
Trancsend your egoism and free yourself from this dominion of satan. Understand you are a sinner and part of the collective problem of this worldly matrix... Repent.... Repent means knowing
Evidence follows faith. Faith does not follow evidence..... Faith above reason in Jesus Christ.
Faith comes by Reading or Hearing the word of god from the bible . Ask Jesus in faith for dicernment and start reading the new testament... You will be shocked when you lay down your preconceived notions and ....see and hear truth ... see how christ sets an example ... feel the truth....
Read Ecclesiastes. Read corinthians.
You cant trancend your own egoism by adapting a world philosophy to suit your needs. Seek the truth in Christ.
Sell all your cleverness and purchase true bewilderment. You don't get what you want ....you get what you are in christ.
I promise this has been the truth for me. In Jesus christ .
Think of what you really have to lose. ...your ego?
Break the Matrix of illusion that holds your senses captive.
once you do . you too will have the wisdom of God that comes only through the Holy Spirit. Saved By grace through Faith. Just like seeing a new colour.... can't explain it to a transient caught in the matrix of worldly deception.
You will also see how the world suppresses this information and distorts it
You're all smart people . I tell the truth. Its hard to think out of the box when earthly thinking is the box.
I'ts a personal free experience you can do it free anytime . Don't wait till you are about to die.. START PUTTING YOUR TREASURES WHERE THEY REALLY MATTER >
Its awsome and It's just between you and Jesus
Wonk, wonk, wonk.
Send all the fruits & nuts to California & pray for "The Big One." Problem solved.
What appalling comments. How does someone being gay have any affect on you or your marriage? The answer is-it doesn't. And it's none of your business. I've been married for almost forty years and if two people love each other, as God wants us to then let them marry!
We need to ask people from all states to vote for or against gay marriage. Many people are against gay marriage, but they don't discuss their opinion with others. I don't know how some states got gay marriage laws, but almost everybody of my friends are against gay marriage.
"but almost everybody of my friends are against gay marriage." I doubt anyone who supports gay marriage would want to be friends with someone like you. You might also want to revisit your grammar rules and learn how to write.
so you and your friends are all ignorant bigots. be proud of the company you keep. thats like a kkk member saying "all my friends are white and hate black people"
No. We do not need to ask people from all states to vote on g.ay marriage because it isn't a state issue; its federal. Its a federal civil rights i.ssue, not state. So don't worry about how many states "GOTS" it, OK? You Hill-J.a.c.k.
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