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Christian’s year of living 'gay' leads to dramatic change, sparks controversy
December 2nd, 2012
06:45 AM ET

Christian’s year of living 'gay' leads to dramatic change, sparks controversy

By Dan Merica, CNN

Washington (CNN) - Timothy Kurek’s motivation to spend a year pretending to be gay can be boiled down to a simple conviction: it takes drastic change to alter deeply held religious beliefs.

The experiment began after a lesbian friend opened up to Kurek about being excommunicated by her family. All Kurek, an avowed evangelical Christian, could think about, he says, “was trying to convert her.”

He was quickly disgusted by his own feelings, more pious than humane.

In fact, Kurek was so disgusted by his response to his friend that he decided to do something drastic. Living in Nashville, Tennessee, he would pretend to be gay for a year. The experiment began on the first day of 2009; Kurek came out to his family, got a job as a barista at a gay café and enlisted the help of a friend to act as his boyfriend in public.

The experience – which stopped short of Kurek getting physically intimate with other men - is documented in Kurek’s recent book “The Cross in the Closet,” which has received international attention, landed him on ABC’s "The View" and elicited some biting criticism.

The book is the latest entry on a growing list of experiential tomes revolving around religion. They include Rachel Held Evans’ recent “A Year of Biblical Womanhood,” in which the author follows the Bible’s instructions on women’s behavior and Ed Dobson’s “The Year of Living Like Jesus,” which had the author “eat as Jesus ate. Pray as Jesus prayed. Observe the Sabbath as Jesus observed.”

For Kurek, his year as a gay man radically changed his view of faith and religion, while also teaching him “what it meant to be a second class citizen in this country.”

A yearlong lie

For years, Kurek says, the only life he had was “his church life.” Being an evangelical Christian was his identity.

He was home-schooled until seventh grade, almost all of his friends were from church and his social life was a nightly string of faith-based events, from church sports to a Christian Cub Scout troop. “It was the only thing I was used to doing,” said Kurek, who attended Liberty University, the largest evangelical university in the world, before dropping out after freshman year.

Kurek grew up in an “independent Baptist church.” “We were evangelical,” he said, “but we were more conservative than evangelical, too.”

His churchy lifestyle led to some deeply held views about homosexuality. Most evangelical churches condemn homosexuality as sinful. Many rail against certain gay rights, like gay marriage.

“I had been taught to be wary of gays,” Kurek writes of his beliefs pre-experiment. “They were all HIV positive, perverts and liberal pedophiles.”

Those views began to be challenged in 2004, when he first encountered Soulforce, a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights group, on Liberty’s campus. The group made the school an important stop on its cross-country tour targeting colleges that they alleged treated LGBT people unfairly.

Kurek was struck by what he had in common with the protesters at Liberty. “It really impressed me that people who were coming to push their agenda were able to do it and be so nice about it,” he said.

His doubt about Christianity’s condemnation of homosexuality, Kurek writes, was “perfected” in 2008, when a close friend recounted the story of coming out to her family and being disowned.

“I betrayed her, then,” writes Kurek. “It was a subtle betrayal, but a cruel one: I was silent.”

His recognition of that betrayal, he writes, led him to believe that “I needed to come out of the closet as a gay man.”

“I believe in total immersion,” Kurek says in an interview. “If you are going to walk in other people’s shoes, then you are going to need to walk in your shoes.”

To ensure the purity of his project, Kurek says, he had to lie to his deeply religious family about being gay, something that troubled him throughout the year.

“I felt like they loved me but they didn’t know how to deal with me,” he says. “They didn’t understand how to handle having a gay brother or sibling.”

In the book, Kurek recounts learning that his mother wrote in her journal that she would rather have been diagnosed with cancer than have a gay son. That experience and others left Kurek feeling outcast by people he loved, confused about his new life and conflicted about past religious beliefs.

Kurek was living a lie. And even though he was conflicted by his family’s reaction to his new lifestyle, he was longing to be honest with them.

The response

It’s no surprise that the “The Cross in the Closet,” has spurred strong reaction, especially from the LGBT community.

“I feel for the gay community of Nashville, and for every person who trusted Kurek enough to flirt with him, hang out with him, and confide in him about their lives,” wrote Amy Lieberman on the blog Feministing. “If I were in that community, I would feel so betrayed right now.”

In a Huffington Post blog post titled “Pretending To Be Gay Isn’t The Answer,” Emily Timbol, a religion blogger, expressed a similar opinion: “What's sad is that every interaction Timothy had during his year pretending was fake.”

“He was welcomed under false pretenses, acting like someone who understood the struggle that his LGBT friends faced,” she wrote. “He did not.”

But Kurek says that that was not his aim. “This isn't a book about being gay, I could not write that book, I am not qualified,” he writes. “What this is about is the label of gay and how that label affected me personally.”

Throughout the book, Kurek emphasizes that distinction. While much of “The Cross in the Closet” is about the struggle to understand the gay community, which he tries to address by enlisting a friend to act as his boyfriend, much of it addresses how his former church’s community – and family – reacted to his new lifestyle.

“I am actually not friends or in contact at all with 99.99% of the people that I grew up with or the churches that I grew up with,” Kurek says.

Kurek says he isn’t opposed to interacting with people from his "former" life. When he has run into members of his old church, he said he generally has quick, cordial conversations and moves on.

But some of the new distance is by choice. When Kurek’s mother told a friend in her church that her son was gay, the person said Kurek’s sexuality could jeopardize his mother's standing in the church.

The evangelical community has remained fairly mum throughout much of the reaction; most responses have come from Christians who are in some way connected to the LGBT community.

The change

Though Kurek goes to church less now, primarily because he has yet to find one that feels like “home,” he says he feels more religious “in the biblical definition of religion.” He still considers himself a Christian, although no longer evangelical, and says he is interested in attending the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America in the future.

Kurek quotes James 1:27 from the New Testament: “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”

There’s no mention of organized religion in passages like that, and Kurek says it’s the institutions of religion that worry him most today. He talks about his once robust church life as a distant memory.

Living as a gay man jaded him to religion, he says, though he has not surrendered all of his former beliefs. Yes, Kurek says, he is struggling with certain points of his theology, but he has been looking for the right church. “I am trying to figure out what place in the body of Christ I fit in,” he said.

As for his original goal, to radically change who he was, Kurek says mission accomplished. He says he has conquered his prejudices of the LGBT community and is happy with the person he has become.

“If anybody had told me back then who I would be or what I would believe now,” Kurek said, “I would have thought they were completely insane.”

For example, Kurek now thinks homosexuality is completely acceptable.

His family is happy to know that he is not gay, says Kurek. He has a new set of friends. And he lives in Portland, Oregon, where he moved shortly after finishing his experimental year.

The author plans to donate part of the proceeds from his book to help LGBT homeless youth who have been rejected by their families.

He is now at work on a book proposal for a follow-up to “The Cross in the Closet.” The book will be about the years after his experiment, transitioning back to honest living while continuing to engage the LGBT community.

“I want to tell more stories,” he says “and humanize the people who Christians always want to look at as labels.”

- Dan Merica

Filed under: Belief • Faith • Homosexuality • Sexuality • Uncategorized

soundoff (3,659 Responses)
  1. Yarah

    Many, Many Gays and Lesbians pretend to be straight while hidden in the closet. So what's all the fuss about?

    December 2, 2012 at 3:52 pm |
  2. Hank

    I think this is really touching news, if only for the fact that he felt so wrong in the way he responded to a friend he lived a year in the life of their shoes. That's not just true friendship, it's humanity and understanding.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:50 pm |
  3. John P. Tarver

    God was also once said to be angry because the gays wetre in his House of cedars, but gays in God's house today is a reference to the Catholic priesthood; not Ba'al's.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:44 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Nut, nut, nut! I'm a nut, nut, nut!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:00 pm |
  4. John P. Tarver

    Gays were once the priests of Ba'al, burning unwanted children as old as 12, but there is no reason to hate gays for that now.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:41 pm |
    • Blessed are the Cheesemakers

      And your god orders babies to be dashed against rocks.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:47 pm |
    • Yeah Right

      Then Zuul and the StayPuft Marshmallow Man ruled the land of Nod together.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:48 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Blessed are the Cheesemakers – You are only making yourself look like a lost FOOL by not backing up your comment with a scripture.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:53 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Nut, nut, nut! I'm a nut, nut, nut!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:00 pm |
  5. my2cents

    This type of deception to gain insight to another way of life is not anything new (read John Howard Griffin's "Black Like Me") or particularly wrong. Sometimes the only route to true enlightenment is to walk a mile in another person's shoes.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:38 pm |
  6. JW

    Another gay hating religious person changes his ways, and all it took was escaping the insular, xenophobic, uneducated (GLEEFULLY UNEDUCATED, By the way.) cult he was forced to spend his entire lifestyle in from birth.

    More proof that inflicting religion on a child is WRONG, bordering on child abuse. This guy was taught hate, xenophobia and downright LIES from birth, all in the name of an invisible sky god for which there is NO PROOF WHATSOEVER. If the teaching of religion was banned until a person turned of legal age there'd be about as much chance to convince people of this hate filled god as there would be of convincing them of the existence of the easter bunny.

    RELIGION. POISONS. EVERYTHING.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:38 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Why do you keep ignoring that Athiesm = Religion?

      Atheists have used the network as a temple to preach the contrary of what saith the LORD, they are desperate people trying to convert many into atheism every single day.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:45 pm |
    • Blessed are the Cheesemakers

      Is "theism" a religion? Than neither is "athieism"...

      December 2, 2012 at 3:50 pm |
    • Toronto

      Truth Be Told commits the Fallacy of Equivocation. Automatic debate loser.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:51 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Toronto – Did I strike your nerve?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:52 pm |
    • G. Zeus Kreiszchte

      TBT: Why do you keep ignoring that the ABSENCE of religion CANNOT EQUAL religion? The only reason atheists are so vocal is because religious freaks started the battle by introducing this fallacious idea of a sky fairy, making it an institution that brainwashes babies right out of the womb, not giving them a chance to make up their own minds but instilling fear of some fairy tale eternal fiery torture that allegedly awaits them if they ever don't believe in the crap you force feed them. Humans are born atheist by default. The only reason they fall for your religion crap is because human minds are so goddamn suggestible and religion exploits that.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:55 pm |
    • The Truth

      I went to his church and met Tim and his father, mother and brother. Our church teaches to love the sinner but hate the sin.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:59 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      G. Zeus Kreiszchte – Atheism is a religion of disbelief. It takes as much faith to believe in God as it does to disbelieve but your faith is of Satan who has blinded you. I have never seen anyone so stuck on GOD they Atheists are. They are the very first ones to jump all over a religious article all the time and yet, you FOOLS COMPLAINT that other religions are being forced on you when you are constantly forcing your SATANIC CULT ATHEIST RELIGION on us.

      December 2, 2012 at 4:01 pm |
    • CNN moderator

      TBT could you please be less boring in your posts? thx

      December 2, 2012 at 4:03 pm |
    • G. Zeus Kreiszchte

      TBT: By your logic (atheism is a religion) every discipline, thought pattern, cause, preference, etc. is a religion. Are you so stupid? It's not a political party it's a religion. It's not a sexual preference it's a religion. That guy's not a fan of reading Tolkien, he's following a religion. etc. etc. See how stupid you are?

      December 2, 2012 at 4:06 pm |
  7. Vic

    The following is my own opinion:

    There is no Christian on this Earth without redemption! That's what the Lord Jesus Christ died for, OUR SINS! Jesus Christ died for the unholy! We are not to judge for He himself did not judge!

    John 3:17
    "For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him."

    Ephesians 1:7
    "In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace"

    Romans 5:6
    "For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly."

    Romans 2:1
    "2 Therefore you have no excuse, everyone of you who passes judgment, for in that which you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things."

    John 8:8-11
    "Again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. When they heard it, they began to go out one by one, beginning with the older ones, and He was left alone, and the woman, where she was, in the center of the court. Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.”

    And that adulteress incident was even before the "Dispensation of Grace," mind you!

    Anyone held to a high moral standard (self-righteousness) will eventually fail! People who assume high moral standards eventually fail! We are holy in the eyes of God ONLY through FAITH ALONE in Jesus Christ as Lord and our personal Savior!!!

    Ephesians 2:8,9
    "For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast."

    Holiness and righteousness are imputed to us ONLY through FAITH ALONE in Jesus Christ as Lord and our personal Savior!!! Our flesh is of Adam and will always have Adamic/Sinful nature until we resurrect! Sanctification in this life realm is ONLY applied to the spirit and not the flesh! The saved flesh is sanctified ONLY in the next life realm!!!

    Romans 5:12-21
    "12 Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men, because all sinned— 13 for until the Law sin was in the world, but sin is not imputed when there is no law. 14 Nevertheless death reigned from Adam until Moses, even over those who had not sinned in the likeness of the offense of Adam, who is a type of Him who was to come.

    15 But the free gift is not like the transgression. For if by the transgression of the one the many died, much more did the grace of God and the gift by the grace of the one Man, Jesus Christ, abound to the many. 16 The gift is not like that which came through the one who sinned; for on the one hand the judgment arose from one transgression resulting in condemnation, but on the other hand the free gift arose from many transgressions resulting in justification. 17 For if by the transgression of the one, death reigned through the one, much more those who receive the abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness will reign in life through the One, Jesus Christ.

    18 So then as through one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men, even so through one act of righteousness there resulted justification of life to all men. 19 For as through the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, even so through the obedience of the One the many will be made righteous. 20 The Law came in so that the transgression would increase; but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, 21 so that, as sin reigned in death, even so grace would reign through righteousness to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord."

    Romans 8:23
    "And not only this, but also we ourselves, having the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our body."

    Romans 10:4
    "For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to everyone who believes."

    1 Corinthians 15:22
    "For as in Adam all die, so also in Christ all will be made alive."

    Philippians 3:8,9
    "More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith,"

    Hebrews 10:10
    "By this will we have been sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all."

    Now, as far as 's e x u a l i t y' is concerned, I am a 'h e t e r o s e x u a l' (always have been) by nature and NOT by creed! If someone is a 'h o m o s e x u a l' and believes in Jesus Christ, he/she is saved. Blasphemy is the ONLY unforgivable sin!

    Matthew 12:31,32
    "Therefore I say to you, any sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven people, but blasphemy against the Spirit shall not be forgiven. Whoever speaks a word against the Son of Man, it shall be forgiven him; but whoever speaks against the Holy Spirit, it shall not be forgiven him, either in this age or in the age to come."

    Mark 16:16
    "He who has believed and has been baptized shall be saved; but he who has disbelieved shall be condemned."

    Acts 2:21
    "And it shall be that everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."

    Acts 15:11
    "But we believe that we are saved through the grace of the Lord Jesus, in the same way as they also are.”

    Acts 16:30,31
    "and after he brought them out, he said, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved? They said, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.”

    Romans 5:9,10
    " Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life."

    Romans 8:1,2
    "8 Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death."

    Romans 10:9
    "that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;"

    Romans 10:13
    "for “Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

    I am a born again Christian Protestant, Saved by the GRACE of GOD through FAITH ALONE in Jesus Christ as Lord and my Personal Savior!!!

    I would like to finish with:

    John 3:16
    "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life."

    [All above Scripture is from New American Standard Bible (NASB)]

    December 2, 2012 at 3:37 pm |
    • JW

      While you're quoting let's also throw in:

      "'Your male and female slaves are to come from the nations around you; from them you may buy slaves." – Leviticus 25:44

      "If a man beats his male or female slave with a rod and the slave dies as a direct result, he must be punished,." Exodus 21:21

      God loves slavery.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:41 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      About judging:

      GOD SAYS TO JUDGE RIGHTEOUSLY:

      JOHN 7:24 – "JUDGE NOT ACCORDING TO APPEARANCE, BUT JUDGE RIGHTEOUS JUDGEMENT."

      JUDGING IS SIMPLY SAYING WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG.

      Our laws have principles. Why should a criminal not be sent to prison or given the death penalty for their crimes? They are judged accordingly to their crimes and that's what God does, he judges us accordingly to our wickedness. He is a righteous God who judges everyone of us fairly according to our crimes (wickedness).

      December 2, 2012 at 3:41 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      JW – Satan loves slavery too, you have become his slave, but only God can set you free from the slavery of your own self-wisdom and self-destruction of your own flesh.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:42 pm |
    • Blessed are the Cheesemakers

      I am not impressed the his "sacrifice". God sacrificing himself to himself is absurd.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:44 pm |
    • Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear

      Blah, blah, blah. Jesus didn't "die" for our sins. According to your mythology, your all-powerful, all-knowing deity sent a tiny piece of itself, in human form, to Earth – Jesus. This tiny bit of your deity lived for a brief period as a human, was killed as a human, was resurrected after 3 days, then went back up to rejoin the main part of itself. This deity would have known beforehand this would happen. This deity would have known that it was going to get that tiny bit of itself back. Of course, being all-powering, the deity could have regenerated that tiny bit, or sent an infinite number of tiny bits, in human form to earth. Query why an all-powerful deity could only have ONE son? Makes no sense at all.

      There was no sacrifice. It would be like Bill Gates lending you a billionth of a cent for a billionth of a second, knowing in advance he was going to get that back, and also knowing that he could make as much money as he wanted if he didn't get it back.

      There was NO sacrifice. Can't you people read, and reason?

      Some of the stories attributed to Jesus – do unto others, etc – are all very nice. But there's nothing inherently divine about such statements, and other humans before and after the time of Jesus have said and done similar things.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:48 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear – When you have a better DIVINE evidence then that of the HOLY SPIRIT, we would listen.

      Bring us your divine evidence of you claim and we will follow your blind faith.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:51 pm |
    • Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear

      @ Truth; I'm sorry – perhaps I misunderstand your post. Are you claiming that you statement about "The Holy Spirit" is somehow evidence of something? I agree that it may be indicative of the level of your delusions, but other than that – no, that's not evidence.

      My point is that the entire "Jesus ultimate sacrifice" story is ridiculous, illogical, and based on its contents, proof that it is man-made. 2000 years ago – what would have been considered the greatest sacrifice a man could make? His son. Not his daughter, or his wife, or his brother, or his parents, but his son. It was a male-dominated, hierarchical society, where what was most important to a man was knowing that his bloodline would continue down through his MALE heirs. The Jesus sacrifice myth is simply what those bronze age goat-herders would have responded to the most.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:58 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear – Again, where is your DIVINE evidence to prove us that there is no God? You atheists are the minority, so what are you going to do to convince billions up billions of Christians that there is no God? What is your plan and when will we see it?

      December 2, 2012 at 4:03 pm |
    • Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear

      @ Truth: Do you understand that it is logically impossible to prove a negative? Beside, please re-read my post. I did not say that I believe there is no god. I do not know if there is, but I have seen no evidence to support the proposition that a god exists. If you, however, are making a positive claim that a god exists, then the onus is on you, making such an extraordinary claim, to supply sufficient relevant, reliable, and probative evidence.

      But, you are simply ignoring my initial post, that being that the "Sacrifice of Jesus" story MAKES NO SENSE. NONE.

      Please explain how or why an all-powerful god, one that made the entire universe, could only have one son?

      December 2, 2012 at 4:10 pm |
  8. John P. Tarver

    In gays the hypo-thalamous fails to atrophy, leaving the victim a child for life.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:37 pm |
    • Bob

      "In gays the hypo-thalamous fails to atrophy, leaving the victim a child for life."

      Prejudice people are so immature.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:52 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Nut, nut, nut! I'm a nut, nut, nut!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:01 pm |
  9. John P. Tarver

    Gays are 13 forever and only a 13 year old understand them.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:35 pm |
    • Blessed are the Cheesemakers

      And you claim to understand them....so you are 13.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:40 pm |
    • Bob

      "Gays are 13 forever and only a 13 year old understand them."

      Prejudice people are so immature.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:53 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Nut, nut, nut! I'm a nut, nut, nut!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:02 pm |
  10. spellrider

    I think he is a hero. There are not many who can be raised and entrenched in a particular world view and still hear their heart enough to recognize when it is leading them astray and to take action. We need people like this to help us make a shift to a more loving and compassionate society.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:32 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      I think he is a gay man passing for an evangelical.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:34 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Nut, nut, nut! I'm a nut, nut, nut!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:02 pm |
  11. dearpoopmeister

    ...okay, actually, I want you :0)

    December 2, 2012 at 3:30 pm |
  12. lionlylamb

    God would never disenfranchise one's soul to be damned in a flurry of hell's fire and brimstones flailing away just because one's s e x u a l I s m is not of age old traditional standardizations! God's love for all people goes beyond the measures of whose concubine is for whomever! Stupid Christians dumbfounded by social traditionalists who can't ever literally and figuratively reason out that John 18:36 Jesus answered, "My kingdom is not of this world!" and in realities within Luke 17:21, "The kingdom of God is inside you!"

    December 2, 2012 at 3:30 pm |
    • Whatever

      Didn't read that one either.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      How do you know that EVERYONE has accepted the "kingdom of God" within them?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:37 pm |
    • nojo

      Almost coherent. Calling people stupid is inspired. Did you learn that from the Bible?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:39 pm |
  13. John P. Tarver

    Being gay is as natural as alcoholism in the alcoholoic, all dna decided.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:29 pm |
    • John P. Tarver's Mommy

      Oh Johnny! SpongeBob is on, and you know how you throw tantrums if you miss it!

      I'll bring your blanket and your pacifyer.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm |
    • John P. Tarver

      Thanks, Mommie – I made a poopie in my pants so I was getting grumpie-wumpie and saying all kinds of crazy nasty stuff to the people on the interwebs. Yayyyyy Spongebob!

      December 2, 2012 at 3:52 pm |
  14. John P. Tarver

    Mental retardation can be the result of an organic brain malfunction, such as is indicated in gays.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:27 pm |
    • Attack of the 50 Foot Magical Underwear

      Or as indicated by such inane posts by one John P. Tarver

      December 2, 2012 at 3:30 pm |
    • Blessed are the Cheesemakers

      Is that the explaination your doctor gave for your condition?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm |
  15. JK

    Many years ago, a very brave man undermined his health by turning himself into a black man and going out into their community so he could report on their experience and experience it himself. HIs book, "Black Like Me" was a wonderful offering to the rest of the country on what it was doing to underprivileged, and especially black, people. I doubt this Christian man did it "just to sell books," and I find it hard to believe that the gay community doesn't thank him instead of being resentful. It involves quite a sacrifice, even though not a physical one in the latter case, to put oneself in such unfamiliar and stressful situations. I commend him.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:26 pm |
    • Yo Eddie Murphy

      And once in Saturday Night live Eddie Murphy passed as a white man – man that was soooo funny!!

      December 2, 2012 at 4:04 pm |
  16. TRUTH BE TOLD

    God says to love the sinner, hate the sin. There was no need for Timothy to have lied to his family, friends, and gay people about him being gay. All he had to do was share the Gospel of the Good News and the love that God commands us to give to each other as well to those who doesn't believe in God.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:20 pm |
    • Roger that

      All he had to do was share the Gospel of the Good News

      Yes that fixes everything. Why didn't he think of that?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:23 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Roger that – It is not man who can fix anything for anyone, including me. Sharing the Gospel of the Good News brings hope the the helpless, poor in the spirit, those who about held in captivity of their own minding thinking, self wisdom, self destruction of their own flesh..etc., etc.

      It is GOD who can ONLY set the captive free from the sin that has held him/her in captivity and it is ONLY the very person who is WILLINGLY want GOD to set him/her free indeed. We all need hope and only in GOD can we find it.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:27 pm |
    • Ron Donaghe

      The problem is these fundamentalist Christians, who insist on a literal one-to-one translation of the Bible are incapable of loving the sinner and hating the sin. They just hate gay people.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:28 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Correction: "who are held in captivity of their own minding thinking"

      December 2, 2012 at 3:28 pm |
    • uoıƃılǝɹ ɟo plɹoʍ uʍop ǝpsıdun ǝɥʇ

      If God says "to love the sinner, hate the sin," why did he slaughter the entire human race except Noah's little family, or all those first-born sone, and why did he punish the entire human race because Adam and Eve ate an apple? Why is he going to eternally torture most of the human race? That's pretty hypocritical, don't you think? I mean, he really doesn't lead by example, does he?

      Weird guy, god.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:28 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Ron Donaghe – Atheists are the most hateful people I have ever met in my life. Should I put them all in the same boat as you are doing to the rest of us Christians?

      December 2, 2012 at 3:29 pm |
    • ShannonCT

      Truth – Why would you take the Bible's word that being gay is a sin, when the Bible condones genocide, slavery, and putting children to death for mouthing off to their parents? The Bible is horrible source for moral truth.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      uoıƃılǝɹ ɟo plɹoʍ uʍop ǝpsıdun ǝɥʇ – I see you never really read why God destroy the world and only saved Noah and his family and a few animals.....well, why do we execute people when they are found GUILTY of crime? God will not put up with the evilness of mankind and he destroyed it.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:32 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      ShannonCT – This is an article about h o m o s e x u a l i t y and any other sin is rejected by God, so h o m o s e x u a li t y is NO BETTER then any other sin that we humans commit. The bible gave many laws for the Israel, so if you can give me a scripture where the bible codons children are actually put to death for mouth talking their parents, I would appreciate it.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:35 pm |
    • Stephen Whiteside

      Brilliant idea, but whose gospel. The gospel defined by the right wing that supports American cultural values. Look what his parents' church was prepared to do for this gospel they believe in? Segregate the parents!

      December 2, 2012 at 3:37 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Stephen Whiteside – There is no Gospel of Good News coming from mankind, but from God.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:38 pm |
    • JW

      God does NOT love everyone. You are WRONG. God is specifically anti-gay and xenophobic as well. God specifically says that slaves must be bought from nations OTHER THAN those of the Jews in Leviticus. Look it up.

      God is NOT love.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:44 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      JW – I only see nothing but hate coming from you. God hates SIN but loves the sinner. If God hated us so much, Christ died in vain on the Cross of Calvary, but it is you and unbelievers who REJECT GOD.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:49 pm |
    • ShannonCT

      Truth – Here you go:

      “If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear." (Deu 21:18-21)

      "For anyone who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put to death; he has cursed his father or his mother; his blood is upon him." (Lev 20:9)

      December 2, 2012 at 4:01 pm |
  17. lionlylamb

    Societal relationships seem to me to be the bark of one's tree so to say. Today's societal relationship(s) encounters seem to be traversing all avenues of s e x u a l i s m. Are people not just wanting to be a part of cynics' socialist movements whom the prospective newcomer to any group(s) of advent s e x u a l redundancies seems to be of lamely reputability and subjected diasporas upon the glowing embers' social landscapes?

    Deniability of one’s natural consecrations seems to me to be and become the antisocialists’ bread and butter in all social venues irregular dispensations. Sure, after some time of outspokenness upon the scenes of social discourses any grouped mob will gain in a venue of wanting societal recognition.

    My love affair with my kitty cat though platonic, can no more be a physical relationship yet I do so love him and let him roam free outside! He always returns and comes in the house regularly for food and water and sometimes he lies on my lap wanting to be petted. My love for kitty is real. Should I want to demand from society a right to marry my kitty cat? Where then does sciatica relativities of mankind's socialistic venues lines be so drawn?

    I was born with parents who did not attend church. I did though at a very young age go with my grandmother to RC church and their bible studies for kids. I quit attending such functions due my one day at church hearing the elders gossip negatively regarding others in the church.

    My parents did love to play cards and gamble their income away leaving little money for our welfare sakes. Mom would seldom lose but dad would drink while playing cards and did lose with regularity. They both worked and mom did take care of the bills. I was an only child till age ten and my life changed! I was granted a brother! Too young was he though and in 8 more years, I joined the U.S. Army. I was a lousy soldier yet was given a good job working with a bunch of civilians at a photo-lab developing and printing photos.

    I guess what I am trying to lead up to is, "I never knew Christ Jesus" in my early years, yet as I aged I began to understand Christ's Truths which by the way are much different then church going believers ways. I believe quite literally that the kingdom domains of God are being INSIDE us all upon a level of smallness no person can get there unless one literally dies and becomes REBORN back into the kingdom domains of God! Is s e x I s t fundamentalism a variability of many socialized universalisms? I do so believe it to be a Truth.

    Although my life's dealings with the gay crowds is fleeting and of a few negative issues, s e x is s e x u a l and thru s e x u a l i t I e s anyone will find favor with that which one finds pleasing to their soul. God will no more disenfranchise one for their s e x u a l faith then a person wanting to love and someday and someway marry the kitty cat.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:11 pm |
    • Whatever

      Didn't read that one either.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:12 pm |
    • poopmeister

      So to sum up....you want to marry your cat? Too bad a cat can't say "I do" and if it could, then you have my blessing...because that's freaking awesome!

      December 2, 2012 at 3:15 pm |
    • Zingo

      That cat is the only pussy he gets.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:18 pm |
    • ShannonCT

      If your cat was capable of understanding what it would mean to marry you, I'm sure it would say "he11 no, you linguistically-challenged nutcase!"

      December 2, 2012 at 3:23 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      Well stated, lionylamb.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:24 pm |
    • OkayMan

      Man, that was long but the payoff was sweet. The God thing, you and I is on the de same page.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:26 pm |
    • Bob

      "then a person wanting to love and someday and someway marry the kitty cat."

      Prejudice people are so immature. Grow up.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:50 pm |
    • JK

      People who love their cats don't let them roam outside. It is dangerous for the cat and terrible for the wildlife. Cats are not native and are responsible for most of the decline of songbirds. They are exposed to disease, wild animals that would kiee and eat them, and fights with other cats, not to mention a pain in the neck to your neighbors. People who care about nature, other people, and their cats dont let cats outside.

      December 2, 2012 at 6:00 pm |
  18. G. Zeus Kreiszchte

    How did this guy's charade even gain any traction? For one thing, he doesn't LOOK gay, even though he's obviously trying to be butch. Now I know there is no one way for homosexual men to look, but you can pretty much tell every time. Notice how out-of-place he looks standing in between two men who are obviously gay in that first picture. Same goes with drag queens. I have never been fooled into thinking a man was a woman, even if he had nice tits.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:10 pm |
    • Dr. Zeus

      Actually, I think he IS gay, but he still just can't come out of his own closet. I mean, who would totally fry all of his relationships to go pretend to be gay? Who would do it for a year? His story makes absolutely no sense unless there was a subconscious motivation.

      He is gay, but he is too repressed from the intense indoctrination of his upbringing to actually accept it.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:17 pm |
    • Saraswati

      Several white people have pretended to be black, too. By that logic they must really be black.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:20 pm |
    • Dr. Zeus

      Do you have any idea how many people who are obsessed with gays but claim they are not eventually turn out to be gay?

      It's Roy Cohn syndrome.

      Oh, there has really only been one guy who did the "Black Like Me" thing. He was a journalist, and he was only undercover three weeks. A whole year is far, far more than is needed to find out what he wanted to know.

      Sorry, but I am not taking a guy who spent a year lying to everyone at face value.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:41 pm |
    • Saraswati

      Joshua Solomon did the same thing, and others have tried other microversion of this and similar experiments. It's also not that different from Barbarah Ehrenreich's experiment in Nickled and dimed, where she essentially pretended to be poor. That was a much bigger book and no one freaked out about her 'dishonesty'. The truth is just that no journalist would have had the guts to do this knowing the backlash that would come out.

      December 2, 2012 at 8:03 pm |
  19. dearpoopmeister

    @poopmeister...I like you :0)

    December 2, 2012 at 3:08 pm |
    • poopmeister

      dear dearpoopmeister, cool name....I like you too :)

      December 2, 2012 at 3:11 pm |
    • dearpoopmeister

      ...okay, actually, I want you! :0)

      December 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm |
    • dearpoopmeister

      Think I'll post in the right place...okay, actually, I want you! :0)

      December 2, 2012 at 3:32 pm |
    • TRUTH BE TOLD

      You 2 perverts get a room!! :)

      December 2, 2012 at 3:56 pm |
    • poopmeister

      I can't, I'll get in trouble with my wife....yes this fine specimen is taken. The world is out one less stud.

      December 2, 2012 at 4:14 pm |
  20. jaketinback

    Too bad the moderator is such a wuss.

    December 2, 2012 at 3:07 pm |
    • ?

      There is no moderator.

      December 2, 2012 at 3:13 pm |
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