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September 3rd, 2010
02:18 PM ET
How Christians spoil sexChristian marriage. Hot sex. Let’s try that again: Christian marriage; hot sex. It doesn’t quite go together does it? Passionate, toe-curling sex isn’t normally associated with Christianity or even spirituality in general. At least that’s what Jonathan Acuff, a Belief Blog contributor and author of "Stuff Christians Like," argues in a recent blog. He says Christians need to do a better job of connecting God with a vibrant sex life.
Acuff, who is married, says Christians shouldn’t just teach abstinence. They should also teach that while sex before marriage is bad, “sex when you’re married is awesome.” He says Christians damage sex in four ways: They teach guilt, not abstinence. They have very few ways to discuss it. They write 10 books about lust for every one book about the gift of sex. They've "made the crayon box pretty small" (they're afraid of being creative during sex). Acuff says it's time Christian couples realize passionate sex is God's idea.
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if I had a nickel for every woman Ive known with a story about how some Christian guy in their life made them feel very guilty about their desires while having sex.........
If everyone would just stop believing in this fairy tale about the man in the clouds, there wouldnt be the problems associated in the story. Evolution designed us to handle sex without God for thousands of years. We wouldnt be here otherwise.
Sex is awesome before and after marriage. The idea of abstinence before marriage is as antiquated as believing that god actually cares about what you eat or as irrelevant as sacrificing goats to please god. Religion is nothing more than superstition. And Christianity is famous for using guilt to make us feel bad about all sorts of pleasures. Morality is individual and societal. It has nothing to do with an invisible, non-existent deity in the sky. When we will people grow and realize that we are responsible for our own salvation and this life is all we have. Make the best of it by helping others and stop feeling guilty for enjoying yourself.
For quite a while women believed ,and a few still do, That they were /are not supposed to enjoy sex and thats sad
I read an article 2 years ago which pointed out that middle aged christian women have more sex than any other group. So maybe what we are missing in quality we are making up for in quantity. Seriously, sex in marriage probably has more to do with respect, love and trust than lust.
Reliigon(christainity) is all about control. Jesus told you/us that it was with in you/'us. He also said that when you pray say Our Father not my father..we should all re read the old testemant i think you will notice no love there.just a lot of killing of me women and children and taking.
WOW Cnn.com!!! All this month you have featured articles on Islam in such a positive way. What to you write about Christians? 1. We spoil Sex and 2. Children are becoming "fake Christians'. You attack Christianity all day long and praise to the heavens all of Islam. Sure you are not biased!
Any religious belief has always spoiled everything
from before Galileo o Leonardo da Vinci to the present day
from before Aristoteles to the present fay
and now in the 21st Century – according to modern counting –
what the heck has any form of religious thinking got to do with anything?
I mean: if a god really existed and was provable and definable, we would not have the Big "M" – Macdonald's – all over the place, we wouldn't have even had to endure eight years of George W, Bush
I don't know where this guy gets his information, but he does not speak for the whole Christian community. I am sick an tired of so many Christian-bashing articles and negativity on the part of CNN. Reading most of the posts on these boards would lead one to think only atheists post comments here. There are many Christian people in this world that have discovered what peace you can have in your life with a relationship with God. Why so many people find the need to knock that with their anti-Christ comments is beyond me.
It's all pretty simple – just read the Bible. Including Song of Solomon.
Hot sex is always a more conceivable option. Why be against it? Fear of procreation?
As a Christian all I can say riiiiight! Poll after Poll has shown that Christian woman are happest with thier sex life. If mama is happy pappa is happier.
Free Will. We can choose not to have sex and not to have children. Not everyone has to have them just like not everyone has to farm or shovel crap or any of the other necessary life functions. There're drugs that can reduce the sex drive and free you of sexual sin. It's liberating. They're getting better too and no side effects. I was spilling so much seed, chained down by my inner lusts, that I was in hell with debt up to the ceiling. The good lord shined his wisdom down on me. Free at last!
Free yourself! Sexual desire is a prison.
Bible thumpers lead such a sad and guilt ridden life. I feel sorry for them, but long ago realized you can't save most of them from ignorance. If the religious imprinting starts early enough, pride will not allow a person to logically realize there is no evidence of God, and that the concept of Christian God contradicts itself one million times over. The "problem with evil" can't be ignored, and free will is a pathetic explanation tantamount to a child yelling "forcefield" as he is about to lose a game of tag.
What if the title read "How Jews spoil sex"? There would be 'media' outrage and everyone would be made to feel guilty about the shamefull attack. Can we not let Chirstians enjoy their faith without constant media erosion?
As a Jew it makes me wonder why there is such a media agenda to dismantle Christian faith. It's not right.
Who's next?
(((Matt Otskey
"And if you say something enough times, people start to believe it’s true…."
That quote kinda reminds me of the beginnings of religion. Tell people they will go to hell if they don't go to church enough times, and they will start to believe it. Religion is a scam.)))
WELL SAID MATT.. (should I follow this with "Amen"?...lol)
We did not "evolve from monkeys" .. humans and monkeys evolved from a common ancestor – different branches.
Just browsing these comments made me laugh at how many of you Christians can't even say the word "sex". That pretty much just goes to prove the article right there. Sex is natural; our bodies were made to have sex. It's not dirty or shameful. Christianity is a choice. Now there's something dirty and shameful.
People who are not Christians (don't know the salvation and life changing power of Christ) criticizing true Christians for their sexual habits is like obese people criticizing those who have proper habits of diet and exercise for not knowing how to be a glutton.
Almost every religion destroys sex, when what God gave us should be enjoyed. Knowing your partners body completely, without hesitation, without being shy or ashamed out it, the way most religion teaches sex, makes a couple closer than any words can ever describe. I'll be getting married in a few weeks because, for one of MANY reasons, my fiance and I will have had the pleasure of knowing each other honestly, without being able to hide anything.
Why is there a belief blog?
There should be an atheist blog as well.