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September 3rd, 2010
02:18 PM ET
How Christians spoil sexChristian marriage. Hot sex. Let’s try that again: Christian marriage; hot sex. It doesn’t quite go together does it? Passionate, toe-curling sex isn’t normally associated with Christianity or even spirituality in general. At least that’s what Jonathan Acuff, a Belief Blog contributor and author of "Stuff Christians Like," argues in a recent blog. He says Christians need to do a better job of connecting God with a vibrant sex life.
Acuff, who is married, says Christians shouldn’t just teach abstinence. They should also teach that while sex before marriage is bad, “sex when you’re married is awesome.” He says Christians damage sex in four ways: They teach guilt, not abstinence. They have very few ways to discuss it. They write 10 books about lust for every one book about the gift of sex. They've "made the crayon box pretty small" (they're afraid of being creative during sex). Acuff says it's time Christian couples realize passionate sex is God's idea.
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C'mon! X-tians made S-EX dirty for the rest of us. That's great!
@Eric
Now THAT was funny...LOL...!!!!! 🙂
Peace
where's the article about how fundamentalist Muslims spoil sex or Orthodox Jews? What's that, can't print it? Of course not. That's exactly why you go for Christians. More garbage journalism from CNN.
II Tim 6:17 encourages us to trust in the living God "who giveth us richly all things to enjoy." In John 10:10 Jesus Christ says he is come that we might have "life and have it more abundantly." The Greek word for life = zoe...means life in every category. What's the problem?
I am a Christian, a commited believer and I have a very hot sex life with my husband. I think it's not that Christain and HOT sex don't go together I think it is just that people belive that you can't have hot sex in marriage. My husband and I are very close and have sex 4-7 times a week. We have been together for 3 years and it's far better now than at the start. We are comfortable with each other and enjoy exploring how to pleasure each other. After all Sex was suppose to be a gift from God for married couples and we use it as such and boy oh boy does my husband know how to use it!!
Benjamin, you are the reason for out of wedlock babies or single parent households...If premarital sex is what determines the love for you potential wife then you are in a relationship only for what you get out of it not your partner..Love is more than sex...Your female partner is not your testing machine to see if she is adequate for your sex drives.....With your thinking if you get married you will be ripe for future separation because at some point your wife will not meet your expectations.
"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that s-e-x is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." –Butch Hancock
i say god gave u a tool so use it, it was created for a reason .. if not using that tool would get you more closer to god then he wouldn't have given it at the first place ... so do it .. get over it ... and think of something else with a cleaner mind
Sounds like you are not married.......
My very religious latin neighbours have no problems whatsoever yelling out religious phrases at all hours. They have no problems expressing their love for each other and for the Church. I supposed it is all what you are used to. I've had other neighbours that I suspect haven't even stripped down for their doctor let alone their spouse, what a horribly lonely existence.
As a married Christian woman, I feel that this article is extremely biased and just downright untrue. Growing up in my household, love and intimacy were 2 very important relationship components taught and displayed by my parents to us. No they did not condone my having sex outside of marriage, but YES they encourage me to please my husband and to have fun creating a sex life that is fulfilling to both myself and my husband. In premarital counseling it was a subject taught and discussed between us and my pastor, as it is in many other Christian denominations and households. This article may refer to some Christian denominations, but overall, sex is definitely not something that is taught to be bland and boring, rather Christians focus on the RIGHT way, God's way, to engage in sexual relations with your spouse.
Religious folks ruining something fun. This is news? To me Christian ministers and devout followers always seem like a really strict nagging parent. Another analogy would be when you're out at a bar with your buddies and you meet a group of girls and everything is set up for them to go back to somebody's house and that one friend that can't score a guy comes with the "We shouldn't do this, we hardly know these guys" line and everything that is good in the night is gone in the blink of an eye.
Bummer.....you did'nt get laid!!!!!!!!! as if that one ugly girl has control over all her friends minds. Maybe it is a good idea not to go home with a bunch of guys you barely know in these days. HMMMMMMM I can think of a few........Aids, spyhillis, Gonnerea and a bunch of other nasty stuff I cant spell, pregnancy with a guy that will probably never stick around. This has nothing to do with christianity and everything to do with COMMON SENSE 🙂 Think about it, you dont know them gals either you wanna to put your wee wee in.
I think that religion spoils every thing.
Definitely everything fun at least.
Tell you what. Start reading the Bible and you'll quickly see that Jesus was against religion. Then, go from there. You have a lot to discover.
Did they really need a study to report this?! Ask any "Good" Catholic and they would have confirmed this without the in depth study and money. If you were not procreating then you should not have been having"relations",other than that after your hubby went to confession,went out and got drunk,he could come home and "force" his wife to "submit" and it was seen as okay..as long as he confessed the following week...
LMD, you're a moron.
acuff your an idiot .christians cannot star or make porn or get into s and m like the heathen do. thats being a beast fornication . there are two groups genuine humans in the image of God and the hybrid humanoids that pollute thissphere thinking there is no judgment down the road
Well what do you expect. If you're brought up in a religion that teaches women are inferior to men, describes marriage as an ownership (men are actually only supposed to put a ring on a woman and not wear a ring themselves, the bible says so, because marriage is a symbol of ownership of a woman to a man. Also, the bible promotes polygamy), and then instills guilt about s3x by saying women who are not virgins before they marry should be stoned to death. It encourages suppressing emotions and teaches that a life of celibacy is an honor.
The entire religion is founded on stopping people from having s3x. of course the silly people who follow it are going to be messed up a lot of the time. I have several christian friends who didn't have sex until they were married (so not until they were around 21-24) and they had a ton of issues, boring sex lives, embarrassment over their own bodies.
religion is outdated superstition.
Very nice. You're quite the comedian. I'll bet your mother is proud of you.
Okay???? So the moderator takes away the freak's comment about touching little kids but leaves MY comment slamming him? That makes total sense to me! lmao
@Mike in NYC
Hey bud..... Just let it go.... Sometimes it just doesn't make any sense. We try not to respond so much to the blog 'trolls'... Maybe that will help.
Peace....
Its all good ....
Amazingly arrogant by the editor. What a wuss.
CNN dredges the bottom of the barrel once again!
Silly article. I grew up (and remain) Catholic and all I heard was that s-x is wrong OUSTIDE marriage. Once you were married s-x was just fine and dandy. As a matter of fact the Catholic church LIKES married people having s-x because they're not allowed to use birth control = MORE Catholics!!!!
I've been married for almost 20 yrs now and my wife and I have no problem heating things up ... AND keeping them interesting whether we're in the bedroom, living room, den, kitchen, backyard .... or wherever we may be.
@Mike in NYC
I posted above to your post.... The postings are moving so fast, hard to keep up....
Anyway, see my hello to you and response above....
Peace.....
It is silly to assert that being a Christian and living according to Bible principles automatically means a lifeless sex life. Proverbs 5: 18, 19 says: "Rejoice in the wife of your youth ...let her own breasts intoxicate you. With her love may you be in ecstasy constantly." Paul counseled married couples to 'render to each other their due.' at 1 Cor. 7:3. Surely this is not meant to be taken as routine drudgery. Since our bodies are obviously designed to experience sensual pleasure, having belief in God and living according to the Bible does not mean you cannot have "fun" in your marital sex life. Whether or not a married couple has an exciting sex life has to do with their mutual desires, respect, love and communication.
I agree this is a tricky subject. I have told my teenage girls that s-ex is wonderful when experienced in a responsible way with a person you are passionate about. But making the jump to this point of view from "bad touching is bad" when they were little took some 'splainin.
It has already been said, and for Roman Catholics, 4newcation is for procreation only. It's a sin to "drop" your "seed" in any other way. I would be going straight to hell without passing GO if I still believed in all that malarkey.
Most Christions don't believe that , my dad certainly didn't