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What porn did to a marriage
February 22nd, 2011
06:00 AM ET

What porn did to a marriage

The blog begins with a startling confession:

Hi, my name is John, and I was a sex addict. I’m also a believer in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ and am married to an amazing and beautiful woman of God.

Church leaders have long struggled talking about sex, much less pornography. But Relevant magazine made a daring move this month when it printed a blogger’s confession about how his addiction to pornography affected his marriage.

The blogger is John Buckingham, and he is an English teacher, Relevant says. Buckingham said in the story that his addiction to pornography started when he was 12. He thought it would end after his girlfriend accepted his marriage proposal in early 2010.

Yet four months after getting married, Buckingham says he succumbed. He started watching pornography again. Burdened by guilt, Buckingham said he told his wife what he had done.

She was devastated. All the love and trust and intimacy we had worked so hard to build for the last four months was called into question and our marriage was shaken to its very core. I feared it wouldn't stand, and I wouldn't have blamed her in the least for walking out altogether. She had every right to do so.

She didn’t, and as Buckingham suggests later in his article, he didn’t give up either. He says he talked with other Christian men about their struggles but felt that they were using “softening rhetoric” (“I messed up;’ “I stumbled”) to minimize what they were doing.

He writes:

The sin of lust isn’t just a mistake, a mess-up or a problem…it is no less than an act of sin that is reprehensible to God and nothing short of honestly confessing and repenting of that sins is good enough for God.

Rachel Buckingham, John's wife, writes a follow-up blog explaining how she felt after hearing her husband's confession.

I no longer felt safe or loved. I was suddenly bombarded with lies—he doesn't find me attractive; it's my fault he strayed; I'm not beautiful; I'm not sexy; I am a horrible wife; I'm a failure; he is stuck with me; he doesn't love me ...

Buckingham writes more about his struggle. I’ll leave it to readers to decide if they think he has overcome his addiction.

But his confession left me with two questions:

Is pornography now such a pervasive problem in the church that leaders need to talk more openly about?

And can people of faith like Buckingham actually learn how to overcome their struggles while living in a sexually-charged culture where lurid images are just a mouse-click away?

- CNN Writer

Filed under: Christianity • Church • Faith • Sex • Sexuality

soundoff (1,043 Responses)
  1. Matt

    “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Jesus Christ (Matthew 5:27-28)

    Given the teachings of Jesus about this subject, why do you criticize these people for believing His words? Where is your "tolerance"? Nevertheless, Jesus came to save the world, not to condemn it.

    February 22, 2011 at 10:01 am |
    • David Johnson

      @Matt

      You said: "Given the teachings of Jesus about this subject, why do you criticize these people for believing His words? Where is your "tolerance"? "

      Why should I be tolerant of adults who believe in Santa Claus?

      If I had a child that did not question the existence of Santa, by the time they were 7, I'd buy him/her a helmet to prevent further brain damage.

      Jesus/god, is just Santa for adults.

      1 Corinthians 13:11
      When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

      Childish beliefs should be abandoned by every adult, if they haven't done it earlier. Adults should be honest with themselves and look at the world, as it actually is, and not as they wish it was. Use critical thinking!

      Cheers!

      February 22, 2011 at 10:24 am |
    • Matt

      Different Matt here ... so David, your disrespect of another's beliefs seems pretty childish. But what else to expect from vitriolic atheists who think about God ... a lot. Interesting.

      February 22, 2011 at 12:38 pm |
    • Frogist

      @Matt (the first)
      Much like anyone who has a bit more experience would look upon a less mature couple and recognize the flaws in their reaction and treatment of the subject, I criticise this couple because they have chosen to skew what is normal and treat it as if it is something threatening. They have placed such a greater burden on themselves than is necessary that they are threatening their own marriage and those who would believe that their way is the "right" way. I offer my viewpoint because I think I have some insight on the topic that has been overlooked.

      February 22, 2011 at 12:51 pm |
    • OcTears

      So second Matt your comment was contradicting because "your" actually disrepecting "vitriolic atheist" who do not believe in God. Athiest do believe but it is something different from you. And yes second Matt sorry your heart was crushed but Santa is not real.

      February 22, 2011 at 3:35 pm |
  2. Doc Vestibule

    Fundamentalist Christians are replete with guilt and shame when it comes to many things, but nothing more so than s-ex.
    There are far too many women who have been indoctrinated to think that s.ex is the price they have to endure for the joy of having babies. If my partner treated it as a "wifely duty", I'd rapdily lose interest.
    The terrible sin of Onanism – what a load of poppyco.ck (pun intended.
    People have different s.ex drives! One of the first things I bought for my partner was a "bedside table toy" and she's had lots of fun playing with it both by herself and with me.
    A wise man once said "Mast.urbation is cheap, clean, convenient, and free of any possibility of wrongdoing — and you don't have to go home in the cold. But it's lonely."

    February 22, 2011 at 10:01 am |
    • Frogist

      Good god, Doc. You're my kinda guy!

      February 22, 2011 at 12:41 pm |
  3. robostomp

    Anyone else think of the newlywed couple from Forgetting Sarah Marshall? I sure did.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:59 am |
  4. Sean Orchard

    EVERYTHING IN MODERATION – AMEN

    February 22, 2011 at 9:58 am |
  5. rick

    blah...blah...blah...blah... blah... Geezz...... get a freaking life.... turd...

    February 22, 2011 at 9:56 am |
  6. Smiling

    Por-nography can be an addiction every bit as harmful and devatating as any other type of addiction. Analogy: Think of se-x and the ability to procreate as nuclear power. Under the appropriate controls and conditions it can do a tremendous amount of good. But when not properly controlled it can create absolute devastation. Se-x is also a very powerful force, that when used within the bonds of marriage is a beautiful and bond-forming act. But when it is not controlled, it can be as if a nuclear bomb hit the relationiship. Por-nography objectfies women and glamorizes bizarre acts that are nothing less than complete expoitation of women's bodies. Any regular woman with a normal body and who is not willing to perform the bizarre and demoralizing perversions contained in most por-nography can only feel minimized and intimidated if her partner is obtaining his se-xual satisfaction from por-n.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:56 am |
    • OldGoat

      Ugh, another uptight person. From where do people get this nonsense?

      February 22, 2011 at 10:07 am |
    • FrankLee

      Gosh, YOU sound like a lot of fun in bed...

      February 22, 2011 at 10:12 am |
    • Frogist

      @Smiling: I disagree that p0rn is an objectification of women. It is an objectification of everyone in it – male or female. Men are not real men in p0rn either. They are merely parts to be pigeon-holed. lol. Stereotypeing is part of all forms of entertainment... even god awful romantic comedies. You can't tell me the Friday the 13th series doesn't objectify women. But you don't see people wanting to ban all horror films. P0rn is just another genre. And like any genre, a se-xually explicit film can be artistic, creative, and treat its players humanely.

      February 22, 2011 at 12:38 pm |
  7. Katie

    No such thing as the Bible? Have you never seen one or held one or read one? Lust is a morals issue. God CAN and WILL take away all of our bondages...lust included, if we repent and ask Him for freedom.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:52 am |
    • David Johnson

      @Katie

      You said: "Lust is a morals issue. God CAN and WILL take away all of our bondages...lust included, if we repent and ask Him for freedom."

      Spoken like a true fundie! LOL

      Cheers!

      February 22, 2011 at 10:04 am |
    • Seraphim0

      Katie.. I know this may be hard to wrap your mind around... but Lust is hardwired into everyone. It helped the species propogate, and is still doing so to this day. Without lust, there would be no children, nor would there be a human species. The urge to reproduce is imperative in each living species- regardless of the method of reproduction. What is "Moral" is what a particular person does in response to their lust in order to sate it. There is a very big difference.

      A person who needs God, or anything else to control themselves and impulses is not a very strong person to begin with. I won't get into the social psychology of it for you, but this fact actually aids in keeping a person clinging to faith (in anything) to help stave off their impulses. Desperation to stay away from base urges does not equate to a need for any sort of religion (whatever it may be), but it does provide the method for which some people become fanatical. I know that won't make any sense to you... but it's true.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:18 am |
    • civiloutside

      Seems to me that it's problematic to regard lust as a stricture and draconian rules to suppress it as freedom.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:55 am |
    • Adi

      Seraphim, you're my hero.

      February 22, 2011 at 11:11 am |
    • OcTears

      Without lust what would make life worth living? No religious answers because there would be no reason for us to be on this earth if there was a heaven.

      February 22, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
  8. Conscience

    god probably doesn't exist...stop worrying and enjoy your lives!

    February 22, 2011 at 9:52 am |
  9. justin

    ps – there is such thing as the bible. it is a pretty good WORK OF FICTION. one of the best novels i've ever read.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:51 am |
    • OcTears

      Best fictional read for me behind Bernard Cornwell of course.

      February 22, 2011 at 3:19 pm |
  10. Nick

    I hope the writer of this article and that couple reads these comments and understands how insane they are for thinking this is an issue. I blame John Cusack and all his horrible romantic comedies.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:49 am |
  11. Chad

    >_> All I see here is two socially repressed individuals second guessing themselves for acting as normal human beings.

    Marriage is based around commitment, but there were no trangressions actually made here. If you were to say that watching explicit material and thinking about some women in an objective fashion should shake the foundation of your marriage then what would you do when you went to the gym or the beach or anywhere depending on your tastes and saw scantily clad or well dressed, beautiful women? Are you going to avoid going out into the world, to work, to church to school to avoid seeing that which may tempt you? All I see here is a guilty man ashamed of that which he should not be ashamed of and a woman lacking in confidence basing her definition of their relationship on the physical rather then the emotional (or in this case the spiritual). In short I see a sham.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:49 am |
    • Paul

      There is a difference between seeing people dressed provocatively when you go outside of your home and inviting naked people into your house. While we don't have any control over what happens outside of our homes, we certainly have the ability to control who comes into our houses and our bedrooms/tvs/computers.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:19 am |
    • marriage/trust

      I can see how you would view this couple as being weak and needy. If you are looking at the way most relationships function in our society it's become normal for people to have s-ex with anyone they want, and if they aren't having s-ex to engage in s-exual fantasies to satisfy their emotional needs.
      This couple is coming from a fundamentally different view of thinking about the body and marriage and how it is a sacred trust to enter into the s-exual act (physically or mentally). The ideal marriage from a Christian perspective is really a joining of two souls. They are intimately intertwined in a love relationship where the one guards the others heart and physical affections. The husband and wife gives of themselves freely to each other because they have such a close bond and a trust that is unspoiled by outside influence.
      Of course people mess up and can do damage to that bond. As one partner acts selfishly (finding s-exual release in something/someone other than the spouse) then that partner is telling the other that they are not enough for their s-exual satisfaction. This can be devastating to the relationship when the truth is found out.
      The point of this article is showing how a marriage coming from that perspective is influenced and can recover when it has taken a hit from the very pervasive influence of por-nography. Many people will say that por-n doesn't hurt anyone, but that is just the opposite of what this article shows especially in regards to a marriage that I have described.

      February 22, 2011 at 12:45 pm |
    • Frogist

      @marriage/trust: It's not the p0rn that hurt them. It's the fact that he withheld vital information about himself, then made promises he didn't keep. They both had impossible expectations that getting married would just magically solve all problems. And neither would talk to the other about what they really were dealing with. That was what caused their marriage to break down. P0rn was just the mirror reflecting their weaknesses.

      February 22, 2011 at 1:08 pm |
  12. jb

    Friggin Religious freaks.....

    February 22, 2011 at 9:48 am |
  13. kaiser roll

    "It is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby, complaining wife."
    Proverbs 21:19

    February 22, 2011 at 9:47 am |
    • OcTears

      Holy smokes batman. Was that really in the bibble?

      February 22, 2011 at 3:17 pm |
  14. saganhill

    This is total BS. Just another concept so the church can control your se-x life. That invisable man in the sky doesnt exist and se-x is good. Get over the prudish, victorian notion that se-x is bad.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:47 am |
    • sylvias mother

      Well aren't you a bitter little man? What's the matter, did your guilt get so high you had to run away and resort to bad mouthing the Church and God?

      February 22, 2011 at 10:02 am |
    • Thom228

      No, he just points out the truth. When children grow up, they figure out Santa was a myth created to make us afraid of being bad and eventually we would be rewarded with a gift. Some of us have made a similar progression regarding religion.

      Think about it. You believe in what amounts to Santa for grownups. It's not badmouthing. It's just the obvious truth.

      February 22, 2011 at 11:17 am |
    • OcTears

      Saganhill you dont know what your talking about. Next your going to tell me that Santa Claus and the tooth fairy arent real. Who gives me the gifts every christmas and the money when I lose my teeth. Didnt you know that Odin and Thor are real too. Gosh...

      February 22, 2011 at 3:16 pm |
  15. Traub

    Lust will not keep.
    Something must be done about it.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:46 am |
    • FrankLee

      Yes, let's get rid of lust. And that's the end of the human race. ILust is what draws men to women to begin with. For men, it's lust THEN love. Women are the other way around. I'm sure there are exceptions, but not many. Do you really not know this?

      February 22, 2011 at 10:15 am |
    • Frogist

      @FrankLee: That's a bit of a stereotype, isn't it? if you have some research to prove your claim, please provide it. Until then I can only ssay by anecdotal evidence that I've found women lust at men long before the love aspect comes around.

      February 22, 2011 at 12:23 pm |
    • OcTears

      Where the hell did all these scientist asking for proof come from.

      February 22, 2011 at 3:12 pm |
  16. Matt

    "The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned." 1 Corinth 2:14

    If this blog doesn't make sense to you, then it is a good sign your spiritual life needs attention.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:46 am |
    • dannymiamibeach

      my spirituality does not have to involve God or the Bible....it involves loving myself, treating others kindly and doing the right thing.

      February 22, 2011 at 9:49 am |
    • EyeH8Obama

      Danny, your idea of doing the right think seems distorted after the last comment I read from you.

      February 22, 2011 at 9:53 am |
    • David Johnson

      I hate the way the comments are part_itioned, so I am posting my comment again. I feel these sort of articles are attacks on our freedoms.

      The article said: "Hi, my name is John, and I was a $ex addict. I’m also a believer in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ "

      Well, we are almost on the same track. I believe in the death of Jesus Christ. It's the coming back to life that I find implausible.

      This is a further attempt, by the Christian Right / Evangelical pukes to convince the nation that p_ornography (defined by them) is destroying us.

      I have looked at adult p_ornography. I bet every man has. I am not addicted, nor did it destroy my marriage. Actually, I get bored easily. Once you've seen 1 naked person, you have pretty much seen them all.

      I bet this is true of most men.

      Any addiction, threatens the afflicted's well being.

      The housewife who finds her comfort in food, threatens her health and her marriage. Let's outlaw food!

      The religious nut, who is addicted to Jesus, is in danger of insanity and losing their spouse. Let's outlaw religion! Amen!

      Certainly alcohol, ruins more people's health and marriage than any other addiction. We tried outlawing that once. People still drank. Prohibition just fueled organized crime.

      Let's look at a list of addictions:

      •Alcoholism
      •Drug
      •Food Addiction
      •Gambling
      •Internet
      •Nicotine
      •Prescription Drugs
      •$ex-P_orn
      •Shopping
      •Work Addiction

      Would you make each of the addicting things illegal? Force everyone to do without, because some in society can't handle them? Pfui!

      From the article:
      He said: "The sin of lust isn’t just a mistake, a mess-up or a problem…it is no less than an act of sin that is reprehensible to God and nothing short of honestly confessing and repenting of that sins is good enough for God."

      Lust, is hard wired into humans. The reason we are hard-wired for lust, is to pass on our genes. It’s in Mother Nature’s interest to encourage us to create more humans.

      Note the life cycle: Birth; Growth; Reproduction; and Death. This is true of every organism. It is the Biological Imperative.

      The evolutionarily ancient limbic system, buried deep inside our brains, fires up when we are watching something we take a fancy to. Structures like the nucleus acc_umbens, involved in pleasure and craving, are at the heart of that system.
      Source: sciencefocus.com/feature/psychology/human-brain-hardwired

      Can you say EVOLUTION?

      Humans, whose brains are functioning correctly, control themselves. We should know when we are "full", of either food or $ex.

      Stop worrying about the words Bronze Age men put in the mouth of Jesus. Control yourselves and enjoy your life. It is the only one you will ever have. Self-flagellation can also be addictive.

      Love and Prayers!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:57 am |
    • NoWay

      hahaha miami beach – "loving yourself" – isn't that what this whole article about!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:57 am |
    • Steve

      Sorry, Matt. It's great that your faith is strong. But there are a lot of people out there who don't feel they need God's help to keep the promise they made to their spouse. That's what love is for.

      February 22, 2011 at 9:57 am |
    • 4815162342

      Amen!

      February 22, 2011 at 10:00 am |
    • 4815162342

      That AMEN went to Matt, by the way!

      February 22, 2011 at 10:01 am |
    • OcTears

      Amen....that amen went to Steve.

      February 22, 2011 at 3:10 pm |
  17. dannymiamibeach

    if you visit a restaurant every day for the rest of your life, are you going to eat the same meal?

    February 22, 2011 at 9:46 am |
    • EyeH8Obama

      Women are not pieces of meat in a restaurant you idiot!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:52 am |
    • TNMAN

      Fast food will never be as good as a home cooked meal!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:53 am |
    • Thomas

      Depends on the cook

      February 22, 2011 at 10:57 am |
  18. Adam

    This guy needs to ditch this girl. I could not stand a woman like that. "oh no you dont love me or find me attractive, my trust is broken" blah blah blah. NO little ms fundamentalist prissy he is a man and men are into that kind of thing. I watch adult videos from time to time and I still love my wife and have great intimacy with her. She is not really into it and no we do not watch it together, but it is no secret. We have been married over 6 years now and both have been faithful to one another.
    This article is just another reason why people are leaving the "church" in droves these days.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:44 am |
    • EyeH8Obama

      Congratulations on being a disgusting filth deserving of the same type of girl. I DO NOT watch adult movies, and my marriage has been AWESOME!!! Also, the way people live their lives is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, and bashing a man for loving his wife so much as to seek help from something he deems reprehensible, is disgusting. He's ten times a man than you are!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:57 am |
    • shamsky24

      Eyeh8obama,

      You're quite a piece of work. In one breath, you castigate another poster as "filth" (and in the process rip into his wife, who has done absolutely nothing to you), and then you have the gall to claim that "the way that people live their lives is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS." Clearly, you're just another Christian hypocrite with some obvious anger issues.

      Get some help, guy. And I don't mean from your invisible sky friend.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:07 am |
    • Kikii

      I'm willing to bet men who watch pron and are married HAVE been cheated on– and they will NEVER know it. So to say pron hasn't bothered your wife– I bet you're grossly mistaken. She will tell you that and then Lars– you know him, the wonderful man with the abs that you don;t have– spends time with her– building her up, making her feel wonderful about herself.....all while you're home jerking off to pron. You guys crack me up!! You pitiful little little men. She will NEVER trell you about Lars– and you will NEVER find out. Joke's on you!

      February 22, 2011 at 11:45 am |
    • OldYeller

      Good job, Adam. You spoke truth and all that they could come up with was vilification. I think you touched a nerve 🙂

      March 3, 2011 at 11:06 pm |
  19. Thom228

    That's what you get when you base your life on the belief that your invisible friends live on the clouds and answer your telepathic requests for safety.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:41 am |
    • Randy

      High five!!!

      February 22, 2011 at 9:49 am |
    • Chuck

      people like you are funny, you tell me not to believe something I cant see, but what do you believe in....things you cant see or prove as well. I love the atheist argument " how can you believe in something you cant see or cant understand" but isnt that exactly what an atheist does. Until there is absolute proof dont be so arrogant to dismiss the others argument you may find yourself in a position that you are wrong, and guess what if I am wrong oh well....but if you are wrong UH OH.....

      February 22, 2011 at 9:57 am |
    • Adi

      i am a multi-trillionaire. If this is false, let me be STRUCK DEAD by LIGHTING produced by the hand of GOD...

      *crickets chirping*

      yeah... that's proof enough for me.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:08 am |
    • Seraphim0

      Chuck... not that I'm condoning coming to a belief blog to obviously Troll, but the burden of proof is on the person who claims something, not the one who doubts. I can tell you the sky bleeds potato chips- it's up to -me- to prove it, not you to disprove it. The same rationale is applied by aetheists toward God. We'll go on despite the fact that the bible content was voted on, changed, and written loooong after the events in question occured. We'll toss all that aside. Most aetheists want some sort of proof that He or Something exists. Or just, simply, do not care. Agnostics, I think, would be more likely to be swayed.

      What do they believe in? Science. Physics. The nature of man to both either be moral or amoral. Man's decisions are conscious choice, not predetermination by some higher (or lower) power. The ability of man to shape his own future. These things are what many aetheists believe in. Provable phenomena and law- not a wing and a prayer rationalization.

      Still... if your faith is so strong, you should be thankful for doubters and aetheists/agnostics... by your book... if God has plans that guide everyone... aren't they just following their predescribed paths?

      February 22, 2011 at 10:10 am |
    • Chuck

      Seraphim0, I feel no burden to prove what I believe, my faith and the way I live my life is the example I set. If you read the teachings of Jesus I find it very hard anyone can argue he is wrong. If everyone would love their neighbor as themselves what kind of world would this be. One day we will all know the truth.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:22 am |
    • Chuck

      Adi, the problem with your interpretation is you believe that God is going to punish you for lying. We are under Grace at the moment, judgment will come later.

      February 22, 2011 at 10:25 am |
  20. R

    My ex boyfriend of 5 years watched. It drove my own personal se–x drive down. He was constantly watching it. When I was in the mood, he'd rather watch it. In our case it wasn't a matter of exploration and furthering our trust with each other. He also cybered with several women saying "it wasn't real". The issue with him wasn't a physical betrayal but an emotional one. He found he enjoyed master– bating to po–rn then having the real thing (and said so and did so quite often). If I wasn't in the mood to romp around in the living room while his mother as in her bedroom (he lived with his mother, and brother, and the living room was his bedroom) he would jump on the computer to watch and j–erk himself off. I felt abandoned, worlthless and guilt ridden because I wouldn't give in even though his mother was just in the next room. It was never once about my own needs, physical wants, or desires it was only about his own. A main part of why our relationship failed. (I am agnostic so religion had nothing to do with our relationship)

    Don't assume that what works for you, should work for the masses. Everyone has different moral and ethical values and it is unfair to blame the woman ( or man) and say she(he) was over reacting. A blog is only a partial look into what happened.

    February 22, 2011 at 9:40 am |
    • Adam

      It's good you got out of that relationship. That guy clearly had issues. But the issues were not p-orn in and of itself. He simply preferred his own fantasies to reality. Quite frankly he doesn't need to date anyone. Some people are like this. Most guys that watch p-orn, however, will not give up the real thing, trust me. But of course there is no way I could get into the mood if I am living in the living room with my mom in the next room, that is just strange.

      February 22, 2011 at 9:48 am |
    • R

      I completely agree 🙂

      February 22, 2011 at 9:51 am |
    • Steve

      Your story is different. You actually elaborated on a negative consequence caused by your partner's behavior. One that I think is a very legitimate cause for concern. But as you noted, everybody is different. And yes, this particular blog entry IS only a partial look into what happened. But that partial look is all we have. We can only comment on the story we're told.

      February 22, 2011 at 9:52 am |
    • OcTears

      Im Athiest and I love all my neighbors. Heres another fanatic that thinks that non-christians are evil doers. I dont care what your beliefs are just have the decency to stop preaching. I havent heard one word from this post from any muslim, jewish, hindu, or buddhist. Why are all the christians out on a crusade today for?

      February 22, 2011 at 3:05 pm |
    • Dee

      OcTears, you really have an ax to grind ageist Christians. If you don't believe that there is a God, then why spend so much time consumed with religion issues? I suggest you read Mere Christianity by CS Lewis. You protest so much that I really believe you are a seeker.

      March 17, 2011 at 11:09 am |
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