My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen
March 25th, 2011
09:23 AM ET

My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen

Editor's Note: Margaret Feinberg is an international speaker and author of "Scouting the Divine" and "The Organic God." Follow her on Twitter.

By Margaret Feinberg, Special to CNN

Dear Charlie,

As one of your 3 million Twitter followers, I’ve given you the ability to speak into my life in 140 characters or less, so I figure the least I can do is return the favor (with a few extra characters). You’ve been on quite a ride: setting a new Twitterlicious record for bagging the most followers in 24 hours, reducing "Two and a Half Men" to reruns on Monday nights, and displaying behavior that defies any sense of rational behavior (even among warlocks).

“Charlie Sheen LIVE: My Violent Torpedo of Truth” tour selling out in just 18 minutes, Brooke Mueller dropping the restraining order, and a big wet kiss from Jimmy Kimmel may make you feel like a #winner, but as a well-meaning fan, I’m asking you to put away the Tiger Blood T-shirts and pull back from the Hollywood media blitz long enough to consider the following:

No. 1: Though “Yes” people are always more fun to surround yourself with, maybe it’s time to make room for people who will challenge your thinking and behavior. Maybe you need some time with people who don’t give a rat’s tail that you’re Charlie Sheen.

I have two recommendations: The first is a guy by the name of Rob Bell. He’s been stirring up a bit of controversy talking about who or what is really a #winner in his new book, "Love Wins." A lot of people don’t know what to think about Bell or his nebulous beliefs, but I guarantee grabbing a cup of coffee with him will make you think about yourself and life differently.

My second recommendation is someone named Franklin Graham. Yep, his dad is named Billy. But before you roll your eyes, Franklin knows a thing or two about booze and babes from his youth. His story just might surprise you. Plus, he’s doing a whole lot of good through an organization called Samaritan’s Purse. Franklin won’t care that you’re Charlie; he’ll only care that you’re a human being, and you need more people in your life like that.

No. 2: You need some more #losers in your life. As television’s highest paid actor (nearly $2 million an episode), we can all see how you feel like a “a total rock star from Mars” and that you are riding the high of being “on a drug ... called Charlie Sheen.” The porn stars and the private jets make you feel like a #winner, but maybe it’s time to hang with some #losers, people who have lost everything.

On the other side of the world, more than half a million people have lost loved ones, everything they own, or a sense of life as they know it. They go to bed at night and wake up in the morning under the shadows of nuclear disaster and uncertainty. Maybe it’s time to take a ride to Japan sans the goddesses and remember that all the wealth, fame and celebrity status you’ve been given could be used to help others in need.

Please don’t just write a check. Look into their eyes. Listen to their stories. The reality check will trump anything you’ve experienced in rehab.

No. 3: You’re selling out too cheap. The erratic behavior and incoherent ramblings have left everyone wondering when you’re going to crash. Comparisons to Anna Nicole Smith abound. Other than those who purchased seats for your Violent Torpedo Tour, everyone else is being given free tickets to a crash and burn party.

In case no one has told you, you’re more valuable than that. Don’t give them the pleasure. Instead of opting for the crash, pull up, Charlie, pull up. Embrace redemption — it’s never too late to turn things around and inspire us all with goodness rather than just another implosion.

No. 4: You have five kids who need you around. Even if you dismiss every argument, I have some names you can’t dismiss so easily: Cassandra, Sam, Lola, Max and Bob. Some say any media attention is good media attention, but I can’t help but wonder what your kids will think and feel when they Google your name years from now.

Your children need a loving, responsible father, which you can choose to be — and maybe that’s the best wake-up call of all. If you won’t come to your senses for any other reason, do it for them.

As for the rest of us fans, we want you back, Charlie, on your “A” game as an actor, and as a healthy dad. We’re rooting for you!

One of your fans,


The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Margaret Feinberg

- CNN Belief Blog

Filed under: Belief • Celebrity • Christianity • Opinion

soundoff (942 Responses)


    March 25, 2011 at 3:28 pm |
  2. Frank

    The writer lost me when she mentioned Franklin Graham. Another right wing Christian schill who is really only in the religion biz for the money and aggrandizement, and who sells religion in stadiums like a rock star. Now if she had mentioned someone like the Dalai Lama, I would take her seriously. She sounds like another one of those good news Christians who makes a lot of dough pushing God.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:28 pm |
  3. Charlie

    hey, notsohotcyberchick the bible is fiction, grow upinstesd of the bible try reading the handwriting on the wall

    March 25, 2011 at 3:27 pm |
  4. kidd48

    This PERSON IS A DAD how would his kids feel if he was GONE...STOP the madness THINK OF YOUR KIDS

    March 25, 2011 at 3:27 pm |
  5. Katlin

    Charlie should be committed by his family for seriously needed psychiatric help before ANY of this is going to make sense. He's in a really sad place and needs to be around a few people that he's not 'paying' to put up with him, who will tell him the truth. Sadly, people who reach the point where he is have very few real friends remaining.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:27 pm |
  6. Sammy Two Toes

    Just when we thought he was done, the media DRAGS HIM BACK IN AGAIN!

    March 25, 2011 at 3:26 pm |
  7. friend of jesus

    the bible says, "many are called, few are choosen" people just want to spend there life worshipping themselves rather than GOD. It's to bad, because someday they might wish made the right decision–instead they may end up in hell forever.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:25 pm |
  8. Mr Commen Sense

    What about putting Charlie on the Apprentice, so he can get some good advise from Donald Trump?

    March 25, 2011 at 3:24 pm |
  9. woodie

    Everybody wants to cure Charlie. They want to change him. I find this ridiculous. I think people should look at themselves, and listen to Charlie. If you don't hear him, then it is you that needs a cure.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
  10. Barking Alien

    Charley Sheen needs help and I don't agree with what he is doing, however, who is this Evangelical author to give him advice? The problem is with these Evangelicals wanting to control peoples private lives. My advice to her is to mind your own business. These people have gone from being busy bodies to being electronic busy bodies.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
  11. Charlie

    Hey , Whats DB stand for deush bag ?

    March 25, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
  12. kidd48

    THis person is so right in what she says . we should all be saying the same thing not feed into the crazyness of what he is doing but take the time to help

    March 25, 2011 at 3:22 pm |
  13. SDN

    This article is a total waste of time, space and effort........except the comment by "steve". Sounds like, among other things, he's intellectually, emotionally, articulately, spiritually and potty challenged. Maybe a Charlie Sheen wannabe without virtually any of the requisite skill sets.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:22 pm |
  14. Rafat

    What makes you think Charlie Sheen, a world class celebtrity, bothers a minute what Margaret Feinberg (out of no man's land) has to say. First of all does anyone even know you? Obviously you care for him enough to take the pains and write this patheticness. People like you, dying for Charlie's attention, are dime a dozen in his life. Good luck in getting his attention. BTW, id like to know who did you have to sleep with to make it on CNN.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:21 pm |
  15. Vietvet

    While Mr. Sheen is in the public eye , everyone feels the right to correct him. Has anyone the courage to tell Chris Rock he needs help, or are all the reporters and armchair shrinks afraid to address him?

    March 25, 2011 at 3:21 pm |
    • Bklyngrl66

      How does Chris Rock need help in comparison to Charlie Sheen? Chris is a vulger one, I'll give him that much, but in all his vulgarity, he is telling it like it is – the truth. Charlie is just spewing a bunch of nonsense that he's "winning." He's no better than Lindsay Lohan and Paris Hilton but still he's being glorified for just being an out of control drunk and druggie. He's losing in my book and winning the butt crack of the year award.

      March 25, 2011 at 3:31 pm |
  16. CB

    #4 is the only valid reason, Charlie. I also find it funny that this evangelical didn't even mention her god as one of the ways out of your "tailspin". Just like Joel Osteen, Ed Young, Jr. and others, she is hawking motivational material rather than faith, because hers, like the others, is shallow and full of her own doubt, which helps solidify my assertion that a personal god is a ridiculous notion (a creator I can admit is a strong possibility, but a personal god is nonexistent). Believe in yourself, Charlie, truly believe, and pull from within you the real resolve you haven't even harnessed yet.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:21 pm |
  17. DE

    He's nuts; you can see it in the wild eyes.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:20 pm |
  18. etiana

    I appreciate reading this insightful article – it echos my own thoughts about Charlie Sheen. The sad truth is, Charlie will continue to blab nonsense as long as he has an audience.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:20 pm |
  19. Jim

    Joe –
    Actually I'd probably call myself an Anti Theist but that didn't sound as funny to me.
    As for setting myself up against something that doesn't exist? God may not but religion certainly does and thats what I like to believe I set myself up against.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:19 pm |
  20. jaysunstar

    Normally I get put off by women that try to put men in their place. Usually it stems from an inferiority complex. But this women was very intelligent and witty. Also respectful. I want her.

    March 25, 2011 at 3:19 pm |
    • cc

      Get over yourself!

      March 25, 2011 at 3:32 pm |
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