My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen
March 25th, 2011
09:23 AM ET

My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen

Editor's Note: Margaret Feinberg is an international speaker and author of "Scouting the Divine" and "The Organic God." Follow her on Twitter.

By Margaret Feinberg, Special to CNN

Dear Charlie,

As one of your 3 million Twitter followers, I’ve given you the ability to speak into my life in 140 characters or less, so I figure the least I can do is return the favor (with a few extra characters). You’ve been on quite a ride: setting a new Twitterlicious record for bagging the most followers in 24 hours, reducing "Two and a Half Men" to reruns on Monday nights, and displaying behavior that defies any sense of rational behavior (even among warlocks).

“Charlie Sheen LIVE: My Violent Torpedo of Truth” tour selling out in just 18 minutes, Brooke Mueller dropping the restraining order, and a big wet kiss from Jimmy Kimmel may make you feel like a #winner, but as a well-meaning fan, I’m asking you to put away the Tiger Blood T-shirts and pull back from the Hollywood media blitz long enough to consider the following:

No. 1: Though “Yes” people are always more fun to surround yourself with, maybe it’s time to make room for people who will challenge your thinking and behavior. Maybe you need some time with people who don’t give a rat’s tail that you’re Charlie Sheen.

I have two recommendations: The first is a guy by the name of Rob Bell. He’s been stirring up a bit of controversy talking about who or what is really a #winner in his new book, "Love Wins." A lot of people don’t know what to think about Bell or his nebulous beliefs, but I guarantee grabbing a cup of coffee with him will make you think about yourself and life differently.

My second recommendation is someone named Franklin Graham. Yep, his dad is named Billy. But before you roll your eyes, Franklin knows a thing or two about booze and babes from his youth. His story just might surprise you. Plus, he’s doing a whole lot of good through an organization called Samaritan’s Purse. Franklin won’t care that you’re Charlie; he’ll only care that you’re a human being, and you need more people in your life like that.

No. 2: You need some more #losers in your life. As television’s highest paid actor (nearly $2 million an episode), we can all see how you feel like a “a total rock star from Mars” and that you are riding the high of being “on a drug ... called Charlie Sheen.” The porn stars and the private jets make you feel like a #winner, but maybe it’s time to hang with some #losers, people who have lost everything.

On the other side of the world, more than half a million people have lost loved ones, everything they own, or a sense of life as they know it. They go to bed at night and wake up in the morning under the shadows of nuclear disaster and uncertainty. Maybe it’s time to take a ride to Japan sans the goddesses and remember that all the wealth, fame and celebrity status you’ve been given could be used to help others in need.

Please don’t just write a check. Look into their eyes. Listen to their stories. The reality check will trump anything you’ve experienced in rehab.

No. 3: You’re selling out too cheap. The erratic behavior and incoherent ramblings have left everyone wondering when you’re going to crash. Comparisons to Anna Nicole Smith abound. Other than those who purchased seats for your Violent Torpedo Tour, everyone else is being given free tickets to a crash and burn party.

In case no one has told you, you’re more valuable than that. Don’t give them the pleasure. Instead of opting for the crash, pull up, Charlie, pull up. Embrace redemption — it’s never too late to turn things around and inspire us all with goodness rather than just another implosion.

No. 4: You have five kids who need you around. Even if you dismiss every argument, I have some names you can’t dismiss so easily: Cassandra, Sam, Lola, Max and Bob. Some say any media attention is good media attention, but I can’t help but wonder what your kids will think and feel when they Google your name years from now.

Your children need a loving, responsible father, which you can choose to be — and maybe that’s the best wake-up call of all. If you won’t come to your senses for any other reason, do it for them.

As for the rest of us fans, we want you back, Charlie, on your “A” game as an actor, and as a healthy dad. We’re rooting for you!

One of your fans,


The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Margaret Feinberg

- CNN Belief Blog

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soundoff (942 Responses)
  1. Byrd

    No, it was pull out, not up. And it's what Martin's wife should have screamed before it was too late.

    March 26, 2011 at 2:58 pm |




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      March 26, 2011 at 10:12 pm |
  2. Mimi

    ...just another crock of crap holier than thou opinion that Charlie Sheen doesn't give two hoots about – or should.

    March 26, 2011 at 2:57 pm |
  3. Cindy

    Beautiful...simply beautiful! Very well written and so true. Thank God someone finally speaks the truth!

    March 26, 2011 at 2:54 pm |
  4. Face-Slap-Reality

    I'm a huge fan of Charlie Sheen but anyone can tell this ride isn't going to last and will be yesterday's news by August. Hopefully Charile can come back bigger then ever after this ride and gather up some sort of normality to be a movie star again. There is a greater chance for an implosion but we are all pulling for him whether you want to admit it or not. America loves the underdog and a comeback!!

    March 26, 2011 at 2:05 pm |
  5. Team #Winner

    WOW ! ! ! Are you like the world's ultimate downer or what?

    I know that by having Charlie hang out with more #Losers you see your chance to get close to him and possibly bear his Ninja blood offsping and maybe get your religious cult mitts on his $2M per episode purse.

    GIVE IT UP ! ! !

    Charle hangs with Team #Winner not the dregs of society, CharlieShippers like you.

    WINNING ! ! !

    March 26, 2011 at 1:43 pm |
  6. lilcjoy

    Team Charlie!!

    March 26, 2011 at 1:36 pm |
  7. BadWeedMakesUBARK

    Go get them Charlie

    March 26, 2011 at 1:27 pm |
  8. Chaz


    March 26, 2011 at 1:25 pm |
    • thumbscrews

      Your caps lock seems to be stuck...

      March 26, 2011 at 1:36 pm |
  9. cc

    Charlie Sheen
    You only live one time in this world so you do what you need to do
    and keep on doing whats right for you
    becouse your the one that no's whats best for you

    March 26, 2011 at 1:22 pm |
  10. thumbscrews

    So, what exactly was the point in pointing out that it was an evangelical writing this?

    March 26, 2011 at 1:08 pm |
    • BadWeedMakesUBARK

      So she can be seen on cnn
      to try to sell more books

      March 26, 2011 at 2:02 pm |
  11. notv4me

    I am often amused by the "Devout" and the Atheist" One is so ready to teach of those things they them self can't obey..The other is always quick to denounce that which they fear to face! Ha! Everyone has such brilliance and wisdom of the Spiritual, or is so fearful of Spirit, that they fight it with much gusto. If there is no spirit world then " Whom or What" is that you fight against? And for those who claim belief,they have little idea of the God they serve. Now then, let us not bicker over Faith, let us just speak a plain truth that the fellow is having difficulty, and people enjoy it! That is to say that the Chap is not rowing his boat ALONE! Talent is not a way by which any man or woman should have the green light to destroy life be it their own, or of others. Most are just to simple of mind to understand the great role they play in the life of another and the world around them...no need to go into sermons..Just continue to act as you see fit. Everyone has that ability to choose a direction. Just be mindful that not all choices lend to good results.Simply put..if you have faith in Spiritual things you know that all YOU need do is live YOUR own life in obedience. Sadly, most do not as they have this notion that God is a Christian and attached to pagan ways..and so have NO idea of the Messiah they Claim. The non believer has the notion that they control all things and have no connection to anything further than them self, and almost choke on their own saliva to proclaim their non belief, and dare I say fear of whom they really are..Cowards and the Self Righteous..All a grand waste of time and life! And Yet, none of you can just speak an honest truth to a fellow you all seem to love for one reason or another. The real reason is because the Self Righteous love to feel risen above the world of. " sinners", and the other lot need to have a scapegoat to justify their own Demons! It's all. Very simple to see.It is liken to watching the Dog chase his own tail! The never ending redundant circle of the Coward and the Self Righteous! Here is truth Mr. Sheen..Look at your life,and examine your mind..then in honesty to your own self, and the sprint you battle with, be true..If every living human would be so honestly brave to apply this to their life, there would be less Self Righteous,and less Cowardly men and women on planet earth..There will always be battles in life for all who continue to experience the breath of life..One just has to know how to pick, and fight those battles! And which side you are on! We all must live, die and leave behind a legacy of the choices we made in life..believe it or not, the good, bad and ugly we do in life does not always go to the grave with us. Bad choices and the consequences of such are long suffering after we have left this realm of life. There are indeed consequences for All choices!

    March 26, 2011 at 12:56 pm |
    • BadWeedMakesUBARK

      Yea all that from someone that cant find the switch to turn on the tv lol lol

      March 26, 2011 at 1:38 pm |
  12. r

    Here's my advice quoting from Stephen Schwartz: "Turn back, O man
    Forswear thy foolish ways"

    March 26, 2011 at 12:25 pm |
  13. Arglebargle

    Charlie Sheen...just go away. Permanently.

    March 26, 2011 at 12:14 pm |
  14. Beta

    That may be a very heartfelt letter and plea, but when someone is destroying themselves, they aren't really in the "I love myself" mode, therefore this will not even dent his soul. It will infuriate him further and he will keep acting up. When he "really" crashes and burns, then he will "break" and may begin the rebuilding process with a clean slate. As of now, when he's riding high and reckless, any well-intended advise will fall on deaf ears. Brokeness is what Charlie needs.

    March 26, 2011 at 11:46 am |
  15. mts

    Hey..Margaret....why in the world would you think anyone cares about what you think Charlie should do? Mind your own business....

    March 26, 2011 at 11:36 am |
    • argosyman

      Hey, MTS – it's called freedom of speech ... look it up! I know libs in the country hide the Bible every chance they get, but you still have Google, my friend! Certainly Charlie has, by taking the world on this unasked-for tour of his Norman Bates-like brain. Instead of having the typical anti-religious/scared of Christianity reaction, why not think about this: if a guy came into your house or place of work (or the school where your kids attend) spouting what Charlie does, what would your reaction be?

      March 26, 2011 at 1:28 pm |
  16. Brian

    You know. This lady writes about God, but all of her suggestions were that Charlie do carnal things or put his trust in a man. Charlie let me recommend Jesus for ALL your needs!

    March 26, 2011 at 9:06 am |
  17. Glenn Friedman

    She doesn't explain why he should do these things. It is just assumed he must be wrong.

    March 26, 2011 at 8:55 am |
  18. creepyfatcyberguy

    heaven would get boring for all eternity. even with a hot cyber chick

    March 26, 2011 at 8:45 am |
  19. Reality

    C. Sheen violates the basic rule of human existence, "Do No Harm"!!!.....................................

    March 26, 2011 at 8:40 am |
  20. Mike

    Bottom line...that was good advice. Nothing new here but one things for sure...Charlie won't take this, or any other advice until he hits rock bottom. He's not there yet, but he may be soon.

    March 26, 2011 at 8:28 am |
    • Jezmundberserker

      The problem is that there are many kinds of "rock bottom." Charlie could be heading for an Eric Clapton-style rock bottom in which he realizes he doesn't want to die and seeks help. Or he could be heading for a Kurt Cobain-style rock bottom and ends up blowing his brains out. Sadly, he seems to be heading for the latter rather than the former.

      March 26, 2011 at 10:35 am |
    • Neal

      "Good advice" is relative.

      March 26, 2011 at 1:26 pm |
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