My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen
March 25th, 2011
09:23 AM ET

My Take: A concerned evangelical's open letter to Charlie Sheen

Editor's Note: Margaret Feinberg is an international speaker and author of "Scouting the Divine" and "The Organic God." Follow her on Twitter.

By Margaret Feinberg, Special to CNN

Dear Charlie,

As one of your 3 million Twitter followers, I’ve given you the ability to speak into my life in 140 characters or less, so I figure the least I can do is return the favor (with a few extra characters). You’ve been on quite a ride: setting a new Twitterlicious record for bagging the most followers in 24 hours, reducing "Two and a Half Men" to reruns on Monday nights, and displaying behavior that defies any sense of rational behavior (even among warlocks).

“Charlie Sheen LIVE: My Violent Torpedo of Truth” tour selling out in just 18 minutes, Brooke Mueller dropping the restraining order, and a big wet kiss from Jimmy Kimmel may make you feel like a #winner, but as a well-meaning fan, I’m asking you to put away the Tiger Blood T-shirts and pull back from the Hollywood media blitz long enough to consider the following:

No. 1: Though “Yes” people are always more fun to surround yourself with, maybe it’s time to make room for people who will challenge your thinking and behavior. Maybe you need some time with people who don’t give a rat’s tail that you’re Charlie Sheen.

I have two recommendations: The first is a guy by the name of Rob Bell. He’s been stirring up a bit of controversy talking about who or what is really a #winner in his new book, "Love Wins." A lot of people don’t know what to think about Bell or his nebulous beliefs, but I guarantee grabbing a cup of coffee with him will make you think about yourself and life differently.

My second recommendation is someone named Franklin Graham. Yep, his dad is named Billy. But before you roll your eyes, Franklin knows a thing or two about booze and babes from his youth. His story just might surprise you. Plus, he’s doing a whole lot of good through an organization called Samaritan’s Purse. Franklin won’t care that you’re Charlie; he’ll only care that you’re a human being, and you need more people in your life like that.

No. 2: You need some more #losers in your life. As television’s highest paid actor (nearly $2 million an episode), we can all see how you feel like a “a total rock star from Mars” and that you are riding the high of being “on a drug ... called Charlie Sheen.” The porn stars and the private jets make you feel like a #winner, but maybe it’s time to hang with some #losers, people who have lost everything.

On the other side of the world, more than half a million people have lost loved ones, everything they own, or a sense of life as they know it. They go to bed at night and wake up in the morning under the shadows of nuclear disaster and uncertainty. Maybe it’s time to take a ride to Japan sans the goddesses and remember that all the wealth, fame and celebrity status you’ve been given could be used to help others in need.

Please don’t just write a check. Look into their eyes. Listen to their stories. The reality check will trump anything you’ve experienced in rehab.

No. 3: You’re selling out too cheap. The erratic behavior and incoherent ramblings have left everyone wondering when you’re going to crash. Comparisons to Anna Nicole Smith abound. Other than those who purchased seats for your Violent Torpedo Tour, everyone else is being given free tickets to a crash and burn party.

In case no one has told you, you’re more valuable than that. Don’t give them the pleasure. Instead of opting for the crash, pull up, Charlie, pull up. Embrace redemption — it’s never too late to turn things around and inspire us all with goodness rather than just another implosion.

No. 4: You have five kids who need you around. Even if you dismiss every argument, I have some names you can’t dismiss so easily: Cassandra, Sam, Lola, Max and Bob. Some say any media attention is good media attention, but I can’t help but wonder what your kids will think and feel when they Google your name years from now.

Your children need a loving, responsible father, which you can choose to be — and maybe that’s the best wake-up call of all. If you won’t come to your senses for any other reason, do it for them.

As for the rest of us fans, we want you back, Charlie, on your “A” game as an actor, and as a healthy dad. We’re rooting for you!

One of your fans,


The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Margaret Feinberg

- CNN Belief Blog

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soundoff (942 Responses)
  1. Danny

    sometimes a womans opinion is better kept to herself,,because when certain opinions come from certain minds it certainly going to be stupid . If I could only get curly from the 3 stooges to back up my certainly 😉

    March 28, 2011 at 5:40 am |
  2. Racy

    Hey Charlie: "It's all fun & games until someone gets their eye poked out!!!" That's what Grandma used to tell me....Looks like you've done poked some eyes out already..I've been clean & sober 27 years now Charlie, told all my drug & drunk stories, laughin' all the way...THEN....my son admitted he had a problem with drugs & alcohol & got some help....God Bless, he'll be ONE year sober soon...My laughin" about the drug & drunk stories STOPPED...My God Charlie, I hope you never have to set next to your own child & hear them talk about suicide, feeling like nothing but whale s**t, not to mention all the ridicule they endured because of an out-of control parent...Give em' something more than that Charlie, you're sick man, can't you see that? THEY CAN!!!!!

    March 28, 2011 at 3:37 am |
  3. freezy

    why is this self-righteous-crap-"letter" taking up space on cnn's news site? Thanks for wasting the last 5 minutes of my life margaret. Get ur nose back up in the air n stfu.

    Live life charlie. Your way.

    March 28, 2011 at 2:29 am |
  4. T3chsupport

    Why is everyone talking about god? Is Charlie god now?

    March 27, 2011 at 10:10 pm |
  5. jon

    Margaret you were a no nobody now ur a somebody on CNN leeching off Charlie's tiger blood. Write about ur high taxes or somethin and see who cares. In times like this we root for the little guy or hollywood crazy guy it makes our life seem normal...and thats my No.5

    March 27, 2011 at 8:47 pm |
  6. That's NOT My Dog!

    R.I.P. CARLOS ESTIVEZ- You almost had it all:(

    March 27, 2011 at 8:45 pm |
  7. Phil

    Way to go Charlie. Screw those judgemental people. It's your life and not theirs. They just wish they could live your life. Go Charlie who's "winning" now?? Not the TV moguls that is for sure.

    I wish I could shake your hand,

    March 27, 2011 at 6:20 pm |
    • Julie

      Seriously? Regardless of what this woman's article says or what nonsense Charlie speaks, the bottom line is he is an abuser. I really am concerned about how many men write things like this, "I wish I could shake your hand". That is repugnant. What is so awesome about him that people want to honor him this way? He has "accidentally" shot a woman, been arrested for domestic violence, hit women and had to have chaperoned visits with his young children. What part of this is so impressive? I hope that the men of this country can find someone with some integrity and respect of women to admire and not this loser.

      March 27, 2011 at 11:29 pm |
  8. howie

    Charlie who?

    March 27, 2011 at 5:35 pm |
  9. Huh?

    I find it repugnant that CNN publishes this drek. As if the Charlie Sheen nonsense wasn't bad enough you want to print opinion pieces from the evangelical right about him as newsworthy opinion?! Ridiculous.

    March 27, 2011 at 5:30 pm |
  10. Ro

    Margaret shut up with ur self righteous bs Charlie is the man and thats the only reason people hate on him pure and simple jealousy......get a life and practice what u preach, I don't see u in any war torn country doing ur part but u have the right to judge anyone who the hell are u to judge?

    March 27, 2011 at 5:06 pm |
  11. ireallyloveharrypotter

    Everyone should calm down and stop worrying about the beliefs of others...

    March 27, 2011 at 4:18 pm |
  12. V

    Would God bang 7 grams if rocks? Nope God would smoke a whole pound.

    March 27, 2011 at 4:01 pm |
  13. Name*marti

    I miss you Charlie! Margaret could not have said it better!!!

    March 27, 2011 at 3:31 pm |
  14. Commandrea

    Charlie Sheen is an addict and he can't beat that on his own. It's not about, "Wake up, Charlie. What about your kids?" He's way beyond that. And like most addicts, they surround their lives with people who don't care enough about them to confront them. Even with his 3+ million followers/fans, Charlie Sheen is the loneliest man in the world right now.

    March 27, 2011 at 2:48 pm |
    • PhoenixRising

      Yep, his life sucks right now. And he knows it.

      March 27, 2011 at 9:13 pm |
  15. chief

    when charlie refers to trolls..... all of you are the ones he is talking about....

    March 27, 2011 at 12:13 pm |
  16. Ariel

    Charlie is my hero.

    You go, man!

    March 27, 2011 at 11:43 am |
  17. Gee S

    Charlie, I would remind you of the time not that long ago, when you went to a local church and said if Jesus healed your shoulder, you would accept Him as your Lord an Savior. He did, and you did! He's got a much better plan for you then hitting the wall.

    March 27, 2011 at 11:30 am |
    • small

      Gee S, learn some grammar. Jesus!

      March 27, 2011 at 8:31 pm |
  18. Escobar

    Dear Margaret Feinberg, I read your letter and i so happy to see some of charlie sheen act to his actions for we all love him as a person and as good actor he is. I agreed with everything you letter has for charlie, for is time for him to really WIN this selfwar of his. I hope charlie comes around but if you dont im still will show love for this is the time where we have to support a person on this moments. I hope people learn from this not just to judge people but to try to understand how they feeling and why are they doing things such this acts.. CHARLIE WE HERE FOR YOU.. RESPECT AND LOVE.

    March 27, 2011 at 9:50 am |
  19. LookyLoo

    Stupid wealthy people are funny to watch. Stupid wealthy people that are high are really fun to watch. Sheen's ridiculous self destructing idiocy is hilarious. You go charlie. Make me laugh till you cry. When you aren't funny any more, I'll go laugh at something else. Who would have thought a cell phone would be more dangerous to sheen's career than pounds of drugs and gallons of booze? Hilarious.

    March 27, 2011 at 9:01 am |
    • Skylark

      C'mon now... If "rich" people are "funny" to watch, "poor" people are no less "funny". It's the state of the human being and, whatever afflictions we have, they're randomly -and more or less evenly- distributed.

      March 27, 2011 at 2:53 pm |
  20. Hamlet

    Listen to all these heathens. They are all doomed to perdition. Looks like Charlie reeled 'em in all at once. They're all in it for the here and now. The what's in it for me generation. No use for any of you believers wasting your words on these lost souls. Their god is nothing more than the dude with the five gram rock. Enjoy the ride down, people. Don't forget to write.

    March 27, 2011 at 7:35 am |
    • Tom

      Go get them Charlie. You are the new Sam Kinison!!! Just more tiger blood, and cans of kickass!!

      March 27, 2011 at 9:54 am |
    • myke

      get you fricken story straight buddy. it was SEVEN gram rocks. geesh!

      March 27, 2011 at 11:21 am |
    • Hollyworld

      Sheen rules! This is the guy who should retire.


      March 27, 2011 at 6:34 pm |
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