My Take: There’s nothing brief about a hookup
May 31st, 2011
11:58 AM ET

My Take: There’s nothing brief about a hookup

Editor's Note: Dannah Gresh is author of What Are You Waiting For? The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex.

By Dannah Gresh, Special to CNN

Recent studies have revealed some good news in the sex culture among college co-eds: there are more virgins among them now than was the case a few years ago.

These days, 29% of females and 27% of males between ages 15 and 24 claim to be virgins, up from 22% of both sexes in 2002, according to the Centers for Disease Control.

But among the college students who aren’t abstaining, we’re seeing more sex, thanks to casual hookups. According to recent research from Stanford University, the majority of college co-eds are still having sex, with an average 9.7 sexual partners for men and 7.1 for women.

Thankfully, we have more scientific information about casual sex than our parents did when they drove their Volkswagen buses to Woodstock for a dose of the sexual revolution. They wanted to think—as many of those cruising along the New Millennium highway still do—that we can engage in the act of sex without the emotion.

"Emma wants a relationship without the relationship. She just wants the sex,” actress Natalie Portman said of her role in the recent movie "No Strings Attached." “…I’m tired of seeing girls who want to get married all the time and that's all they're interested in. I think there is a wider vision of how women can conduct their lives and what they want."

Sounds so easy.

Just like the hippie culture found a pill that conveniently removed the “inconvenience” of pregnancy, today’s hookup culture believes it has found a recipe for removing the inconvenience of emotion: friends with benefits.

Scientifically, though, that’s impossible. We know that thanks to what neuroscientists have learned about a walnut-sized mass in the brain called the deep limbic system.

The deep limbic system stores and classifies odor, music, symbols and memory. In other words, it’s a place for romance, capable of processing a splash of cologne on your lover’s neck, a particular iPod playlist or a bouquet of red roses.

The brain chemicals associated with romance and sex wash over the deep limbic system during a wide variety of sexual experiences, according to research from the Medical Institute for Sexual Health.

Holding hands, embracing, a gentle massage and, most powerfully, the act of sexual intercourse work together to create a cocktail of chemicals that records such experiences deep into the emotional center of your brain.

It’s why we remember sexual experiences and images so clearly.

One of the critical neurochemicals released during sex is dopamine. Dopamine makes you feel good; it creates a sense of peace and pleasure. Anytime your body experiences pleasure, whether it’s good for you (working out) or bad (doing crystal meth), the limbic system gets washed in dopamine.

In essence, it is a “craving” chemical. It makes you want more. It creates addiction. Dopamine attaches you emotionally to the source of pleasure.

Another critical sex hormone is oxytocin, the subject of recent books like "The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy and Love." The chemical is released during sexual expression. A tiny dose is downloaded during intimate skin-to-skin contact; a much bigger dose is released during orgasm.

In fact, the only other time as much oxytocin is released as during orgasm is when a mother is breastfeeding her baby. The mother feels its release and is bonded to her child, and the baby’s brain learns for the first time to enter into relationship by connection. I’d say the chemical’s job is to bond us for life.

The knowledge of sexual bonding is nothing new.

“Do you know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?” the apostle Paul wrote in the New Testament. “Do you know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’”

Christian author Lauren Winner translates those verses this way: “Don’t you know that when you sleep with someone your body makes a promise whether you do or not?”

The bottom line is that you get “addicted” and “bonded” to the people you have sex with, even if they are “just friends.”

That helps explain why Stanford sex researcher Paula England has said that “Some people are hooking up a bunch of times with the same person but are not calling it a relationship.” Maybe these people are not as unattached to their “friends” as they would like to think.

Here’s where the hookup culture starts to be a problem. What happens if you get caught up in the friends-with-benefits-game and have multiple partners? What happens when the partners you’ve become addicted and bonded to are gone?

You experience withdrawal symptoms in the emotional center of the brain.

Young women, especially, are likely to spiral into a depression when the source of their addiction isn’t interested in another hookup. A 2003 study from the conservative Heritage Foundation found that 25.3% of sexually active teenage girls experienced depression, compared to 7.7% of sexually abstinent girls.

The study found that 14.3% of sexually active girls attempted suicide, compared to 5.1% of their virgin peers.

And when a person graduates from the hookup scene and tries to have an intimate relationship with the person they want to spend the rest of their life with, things can get complicated.

There are already a lot of other people he or she will be addicted to, and that creates more chaos for the exhilarating but challenging task of building a life of intimacy together. The Kinsey Institute notes that one of the five factors that predict infidelity in a relationship is “having had a high number of prior sex partners.”

Casual sex is happening. We shouldn’t ignore it. That’s especially true of the faith community. But when we talk about it, we should use science. There’s nothing biologically brief about a hookup.

In the interest of full disclosure, my motivation here is my Christian faith. I believe sex to be an incredible gift from God, meant to transcend the physical to discover something emotional and spiritual with another person.

But since my faith may alienate some of you from my message, I ask you not to think too hard about religious differences. Stick to the facts.

The good news is that we are seeing an ever-so-small rise in the number of young people choosing abstinence.

What are they waiting for? Some mind-blowing pleasure and an incredible intimacy–without all the baggage of a broken heart.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Dannah Gresh.

- CNN Belief Blog

Filed under: Christianity • Opinion • Sex • Sexuality

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  1. Reality

    The dangers of casual se-x: PREGNANCY/ABORTION AND/OR ST-Ds

    For those who partake some statistics of epidemic proportions:

    from the CDC-2006

    "Se-xually transmitted diseases (S-TDs) remain a major public health challenge in the United States. While substantial progress has been made in preventing, diagnosing, and treating certain S-TDs in recent years, CDC estimates that approximately 19 million new infections occur each year, almost half of them among young people ages 15 to 24.1 In addition to the physical and psychological consequences of S-TDs, these diseases also exact a tremendous economic toll. Direct medical costs as-sociated with S-TDs in the United States are estimated at up to $14.7 billion annually in 2006 dollars."

    And from: http://pagingdrgupta.blogs.cnn.com/2011/02/20/yes-o-ral-se-x-is-se-x-and-it-can-boost-cancer-risk/?npt=NP1

    "Yes, o-ral se-x is se-x, and it can boost cancer risk-

    Here's a crucial message for teens: O-ral se-x carries many of the same risks as v-a-ginal s-ex, including human papilloma virus, or HPV. And HPV may now be overtaking tobacco as the leading cause of o-ral cancers in America in people under age 50.

    "Adolescents don’t think or-al se-x is something to worry about," said Bonnie Halpern-Felsher professor of pediatrics at the University of California, San Francisco. "They view it as a way to have intimacy without having 'se-x.'"

    And this: "CON-TRACEPTIVE METHOD CHOICE (Guttmacher Insti-tute data)

    Cont-raceptive method use among U.S. women who practice con-traception, 2002

    Method........ No. of users (in 000s)........ % of users
    Pill ..................11,661 .................. 30.6
    Male condom ...6,841................... 18.0 "

    The pill fails to protect women 8.7% during the first year of use (

    i.e. 0.087 (failure rate)
    x 62 million (# child bearing women)
    x 0.62 ( % of these women using contraception )
    x 0.306 ( % of these using the pill) =

    1,020,000 unplanned pregnancies
    during the first year of pill use.

    (And the abortion rate in the US is? 1,000,000/year)

    For male condoms (failure rate of 17.4 and 18% use level)

    1,200,000 unplanned pregnancies during the first year of male condom use.

    The Gut-tmacher Inst-itute notes also that the perfect use of the pill should result in a 0.3% failure rate
    (35,000 unplanned pregnancies) and for the male condom, a 2% failure rate (138,000 unplanned pregnancies).

    o Conclusion: The failures of the widely used birth "control" methods i.e. the Pill and male con-dom have led to the large rate of abortions and S-TDs in the USA. Men and women must either recognize their responsibilities by using the Pill or con-doms properly and/or use other safer methods in order to reduce the epidemics of abortion and S-TDs

    May 31, 2011 at 3:19 pm |
    • VinoBianco

      Birth control pill failures are due to human error, i.e. missing pills, not taking pills at the same time every day, not using a back-up method when on antibiotics, leaving pills in medicine cabinets where they reduce in effectiveness because of shower humidity and heat. Other than that, they are pretty much 100% reliable. If only more women used them correctly.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:29 pm |
    • LEB

      Committed couples can pass on STDs (for example, yeast infection), and unplanned pregnancy also happens among committed couples. In fact, the majority of women who seek abortions are in committed relationship, were using some form of BC, and also already have at least one child.

      Point being, while being monogamous and not sleeping around is obviously preferable, there's no guarantee it will protect you from negative consequences.

      May 31, 2011 at 4:55 pm |
  2. Shap

    Funny how a Christian cites science in her article. If she truly believed in science then she wouldn't believe in her imaginary friend/Jewish man who rose from the dead like a zombie.

    May 31, 2011 at 3:16 pm |
    • Clark Nova

      LIKE a zombie? In what way would he not BE a zombie, based on the biblical record?

      May 31, 2011 at 3:22 pm |
    • jon h

      you're an idiot. read a book for once in your life

      May 31, 2011 at 3:25 pm |
    • bnpoteet94

      Why is that ironic? Religion is tied to science. Science is just the study of what God has already put in place.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:32 pm |
    • Lydia

      Actually, Jesus was very real. Tons of archaeological and manuscript evidence to back that up. Also, there were over 500 eye witnesses of Him after He came back to life. Not to mention the Bible being written over a period of 1500 years, different continents, different languages and hundreds of prophecies predicted came true.

      Great article.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:38 pm |
    • Gary

      Very arrogant and ignorant of you to say that. Wait until Hell is knocking on your door then let us all know if Hell is real or not.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:46 pm |
    • Doc Vestibule

      Jesus is The Easter Zombie

      May 31, 2011 at 3:49 pm |
    • Big Walt

      @ Lydia – Ha ha ha ha ha. Tell me another!

      May 31, 2011 at 3:52 pm |
    • CalgarySandy

      Lydia. You are wrong. Try doing some objective research instead of spouting trash that everyone will laugh at. Even if there was a Jesus, and gawd knows there were Messiahs coming out of the cracks in the mud brick at the time, there is no proof of what he actually did and said. Nothing was written by anyone who knew him. Of hundreds of manuscripts, Constantine chose a mere handful as supportive of his idea of a malleable populace. You really need to do your own research instead of allowing yourself to be brainwashed. I was raised a Baptist so I know you are terrified of HeII and are trying hysterically to get more people signed up so you will get good seats in Heaven. Trust me. Only drowning men can be saved.

      May 31, 2011 at 4:10 pm |
    • Artist


      Actually, Jesus was very real. Tons of archaeological and manuscript evidence to back that up. Also, there were over 500 eye witnesses of Him after He came back to life. Not to mention the Bible being written over a period of 1500 years, different continents, different languages and hundreds of prophecies predicted came true.

      Great article.


      Lydia, you might want to try to research a little further. I mean go beyond what your church tells you. lol

      May 31, 2011 at 4:16 pm |
  3. ajlm

    Excellent article!

    May 31, 2011 at 3:15 pm |
  4. K

    "Just like the hippie culture found a pill that conveniently removed the “inconvenience” of pregnancy, today’s hookup culture believes it has found a recipe for removing the inconvenience of emotion: friends with benefits."

    what a great way to make me follow what you believe. The above sentence killed any validity for the rest of the article. Maybe the pill that conveniently removed emotion or feeling but the "inconvenience of pregnancy" wow

    May 31, 2011 at 3:14 pm |
  5. Brian

    People kept bringing up the "increasing number of virgins" in college card, and it's really not one that you want to use at all. Do you know who the only people that are virgins in college are? Religous wackjobs and your anti-social losers.

    May 31, 2011 at 3:13 pm |
  6. Jim

    Good news that there are more virgins?? are you kidding me? That's horrible news. College will lose it's meaning if this goes on like this.

    May 31, 2011 at 3:13 pm |
  7. Busted2010

    Dear chistians, if you want to be a christian you have to live your life in the likeness of christ, no excuses. It was christ who said only those free from sin shall throw the first stone. Be a christian today, put down that stone... aka shut your mouth

    May 31, 2011 at 3:13 pm |
    • Dreamer

      He also told the woman caught in adultery: Go and sin no more. That coin has 2 sides.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:15 pm |
    • Frogist

      But just the women, eh Dreamer.

      June 1, 2011 at 5:53 pm |
  8. Jerry

    Dear Christians: Please stop judging others and trying to force your values on the rest of the world. We don't need your biased points of view or your bigoted beliefs.

    May 31, 2011 at 3:08 pm |
    • Dreamer

      Says the guy with a biased point of view and bigoted beliefs.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:14 pm |
    • Jerry (also)

      shut up, that is wrong

      May 31, 2011 at 3:14 pm |
    • Dreamer

      Hypocrisy, like love, is blind.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:25 pm |
  9. Gaucho420

    Good article and pretty right on. And I'm an athiest.

    May 31, 2011 at 3:01 pm |
  10. Colin

    "In the interest of full disclosure, my motivation here is my Christian faith." Why is that? Why is it that Christians are always so concerned about what others do in the privacy of their own bedrooms?

    May 31, 2011 at 2:56 pm |
    • Doc Vestibule

      A lot of Christians LOVE saving people from themselves.
      They'll try to legislate morality to keep their neighbours from doing things they don't like.
      Those types of people never say "please pass this law to keep me from doing wrong" – nope, it's always for the other guy...

      May 31, 2011 at 3:15 pm |
    • Dreamer

      Hey Doc,

      ALL laws are the legislation of morality. What do you think "no murder", "no stealing", "no lying" is?

      And no, most Christians couldn't care less what a person does in their bedroom. But, they do recognize that not everything that a person wants to do (not just somebody else, themselves included) isn't necessarily what's good for them, especially when you translate that to a societal level. So, what people do in their bedroom, in as much as that becomes amplified on a societal level, does matter. We're not the first society to wrestle with such concepts.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
  11. jonhinge

    Author is hung up about .$ex, like most in conservative Christian circles. She probably is a proponent of Egyptian – style virrginity testing. Let religion into the bedroom and we'll end up like many Islum cultures and do things like kill the raape victims and suppress women in every other way.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:56 pm |
    • Lawyered

      This is pure speculation. One might infer that your opposition to the author's stance means you favor human trafficking, beastiality, and incest if we played by your rules.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:03 pm |
    • jonhinge

      I don't pretend to make the rules or write idiotic articles.
      Bottom line is this : Anti-$ex = anti abortion = anti stem cell research = anti medical advancement = anti advancement of society because these freaks can't keep their opinions to themselves.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:23 pm |
    • Lawyered

      Again, you aren't completely correct. You may have meant to say no EMBRYONIC stem cell research. However, studies have shown that adult stem cell research can provide science with more advancements than embryonic stem cell research has. That said, there is no need for abortions when like studies can be done otherwise. Secondly, the author isn't anti-s ex.

      May 31, 2011 at 4:08 pm |
  12. Cypher20

    Great article, keep up the good work.

    You would think that their own personal experiences would tell anyone who's engaged in the hookup culture that there are more emotional bonds created than you might originally suspect. It seems that they try hard to deny this however, and that is to their detriment.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:54 pm |
    • Sam

      I agree that emotional bonds occur more than not, but I know people who aren't affected. I think this article generalizes too much. You can say, 'oh they feel that way, you just don't know,' but that simply isn't true. My best girl friend at college, whom I have known since middle school, had a good amount of random hook ups and I never once saw her have problems. She knew what she was doing and never pretended it was something else

      May 31, 2011 at 3:01 pm |
  13. Sam

    I agree with the science behind the article, I guess. However, I knew tons of girls in college who were all about the random hook up. A bunch would even stop if they thought the guy was getting too attached. I think, as in most things biological, this greatly differs from person to person. This article ignores that fact. I think a good amount of people who randomly hook up can stay emotionally distant as long as they are upfront with themselves. Disclaimer: I went to Tulane. Do not send your daughter to New Orleans

    May 31, 2011 at 2:52 pm |
  14. reyrey333

    does doing it in the rear still count in college?

    May 31, 2011 at 2:50 pm |
    • Sam

      That actually gets you double points

      May 31, 2011 at 2:53 pm |
  15. jack

    as someone who is on step 11 of my college hook-up recovery program I am really getting a kick out of these replies.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:50 pm |
  16. Ernst, NY

    This article was well written and went straight to the pooint. As a first year med student i've seen the "hookups" even been a part of it and my lady friend got emotionally attached. Reading this article explains all the emotional drama that is envolved when carrying on a friends with benefit relationship. Keep up the good work Dannah.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:49 pm |
  17. Evan

    Reality, I notice you constantly say "There is no Easter", "Moses/Abraham never existed", etc. Do you have any evidence to support this view?

    Also, I noticed you called God a "SkyDaddy". The problem with this is God is not the bearded man sitting on a cloud in the sky, as we see in numerous paintings. God is completely distinct from, yet involved with the Universe.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:47 pm |
    • SteveInMI

      You pray "Our Father who Art in Heaven" to a god that 4.5 billion people think is imaginary, and you can't figure out where the term "SkyDaddy" comes from? It seems pretty self-evident to me.

      I have a book about Sherlock Holmes. You have a book about the Christian god and Jesus. Both have fan clubs, although one is admittedly much larger than the other. But if either of us want to prove that our subjects are real, rather than imaginary, than the burden of proof is on us; it is not rational simply to *say* that either exists and expect doubters to disprove their position.

      May 31, 2011 at 2:52 pm |
    • Rock

      Do you have any evidence to support this view?

      May 31, 2011 at 2:54 pm |
    • HeavenSent

      Your comment is awaiting moderation.

      God is a big guy; the big SkyDaddy himself; he creates everything and causes everything that happens, tornadoes and se-xually transmitted diseases included. Wow, that means he's pretty nasty too. And vindictive. Better praylots or he might get angry and smite you or give you cancer. Wait, innocent people get cancer too. Why is that?


      May 31, 2011 at 2:54 pm |
    • HeavenSent

      God is a big guy; he's the big ole SkyDaddy himself; he creates everything and causes everything that happens, tornadoes and secksually transmitted diseases included. Wow, that means he's nasty too. Better pray lots or he might get angry and give you cancer. Wait, innoc-ent people get cancer too. Why is that?


      May 31, 2011 at 2:56 pm |
    • Colin

      Hey HS, just FYI, even though it said "your comment is awaiting moderation" it made it through the first time. I've never seen that before.

      May 31, 2011 at 2:59 pm |
    • Marley

      @Evan: There is no "God" and Moses/Abraham/Adam/Jesus, etc ...

      By logic alone you cannot prove that this thingy you call "God" exists. In order to prove some thing exists or not, you need to know what it is first! Nobody can come up with a logical argument for the existence of this thingy "God" you claim to exist! All theists are glorified agnostics and agnostics know as much about "God" as atheists do: absolutely nothing!

      Besides logic, the disciplines of science, history, and archaeological research have FALSIFIED the "Jewish God" of the Bible. The Bible claims we are becoming less perfect because of ORIGINAL SIN. Science has proven we continually become more PERFECT for survival, ie. evolution. We are not descendents of Jewish people like Adam and Abraham. We are human descendents of Africans.

      Lastly, there is no evidence to support the existence of Abraham, Moses, and "Jesus". NO EVIDENCE => NON-EXISTENCE. The best any historian can say about a HISTORICAL Jesus is that he may have been a Jewish CARPENTER who either went GOD DELUSIONAL or stood-up against Roman oppression. A Biblical OSAMA BIN LADEN.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:03 pm |
    • Reality


      First, the "Skydaddy" reference was not made by this version of Reality although I basically agreed with it.

      With respect to Abraham and Moses:

      origin: http://query.nytimes.com/gst/abstract.html?res=F20E1EFE35540C7A8CDDAA0894DA404482

      "New Torah For Modern Minds

      Abraham, the Jewish patriarch, probably never existed. Nor did Moses. The entire Exodus story as recounted in the Bible probably never occurred. The same is true of the tumbling of the walls of Jericho. And David, far from being the fearless king who built Jerusalem into a mighty capital, was more likely a provincial leader whose reputation was later magnified to provide a rallying point for a fledgling nation.
      Such startling propositions - the product of findings by archaeologists digging in Israel and its environs over the last 25 years - have gained wide acceptance among non-Orthodox rabbis. But there has been no attempt to disseminate these ideas or to discuss them with the laity - until now.

      The United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism, which represents the 1.5 million Conservative Jews in the United States, has just issued a new Torah and commentary, the first for Conservatives in more than 60 years. Called "Etz Hayim" ("Tree of Life" in Hebrew), it offers an interpretation that incorporates the latest findings from archaeology, philology, anthropology and the study of ancient cultures. To the editors who worked on the book, it represents one of the boldest efforts ever to introduce into the religious mainstream a view of the Bible as a human rather than divine doc-ument. "

      May 31, 2011 at 3:08 pm |
    • Reality


      Saving Christians from the Great Resurrection/Easter Con:

      From that famous passage: In 1 Corinthians 15 St. Paul reasoned, "If Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith."

      Even now Catholic/Christian professors of theology are questioning the bodily resurrection of the simple, preacher man aka Jesus.

      To wit;

      From a major Catholic university's theology professor’s grad school white-board notes:

      "Heaven is a Spirit state or spiritual reality of union with God in love, without earthly – earth bound distractions.
      Jesus and Mary's bodies are therefore not in Heaven.

      Most believe that it to mean that the personal spiritual self that survives death is in continuity with the self we were while living on earth as an embodied person.

      Again, the physical Resurrection (meaning a resuscitated corpse returning to life), Ascension (of Jesus' crucified corpse), and Assumption (Mary's corpse) into heaven did not take place.

      The Ascension symbolizes the end of Jesus' earthly ministry and the beginning of the Church.

      Only Luke's Gospel records it. The Assumption ties Jesus' mission to Pentecost and missionary activity of Jesus' followers The Assumption has multiple layers of symbolism, some are related to Mary's special role as "Christ bearer" (theotokos). It does not seem fitting that Mary, the body of Jesus' Virgin-Mother (another biblically based symbol found in Luke 1) would be derived by worms upon her death. Mary's assumption also shows God's positive regard, not only for Christ's male body, but also for female bodies." "

      "In three controversial Wednesday Audiences, Pope John Paul II pointed out that the essential characteristic of heaven, hell or purgatory is that they are states of being of a spirit (angel/demon) or human soul, rather than places, as commonly perceived and represented in human language. This language of place is, according to the Pope, inadequate to describe the realities involved, since it is tied to the temporal order in which this world and we exist. In this he is applying the philosophical categories used by the Church in her theology and saying what St. Thomas Aquinas said long before him."

      With respect to rising from the dead, we also have this account:

      o An added note: As per R.B. Stewart in his introduction to the recent book, The Resurrection of Jesus, Crossan and Wright in Dialogue,

      o p.4
      o "Reimarus (1774-1778) posits that Jesus became sidetracked by embracing a political position, sought to force God's hand and that he died alone deserted by his disciples. What began as a call for repentance ended up as a misguided attempt to usher in the earthly political kingdom of God. After Jesus' failure and death, his disciples stole his body and declared his resurrection in order to maintain their financial security and ensure themselves some standing."

      o p.168. by Ted Peters:
      Even so, asking historical questions is our responsibility. Did Jesus really rise from the tomb? Is it necessary to have been raised from the tomb and to appear to his disciples in order to explain the rise of early church and the transcription of the bible? Crossan answers no, Wright answers, yes. "

      o So where are the bones"? As per Professor Crossan's analyses in his many books, the body of Jesus would have ended up in the mass graves of the crucified, eaten by wild dogs, with lime in a shallow grave, or under a pile of stones.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:13 pm |
    • Grant

      @Marley –

      "Science has proven we continually become more PERFECT for survival, ie. evolution."

      This could be described as adaptation, not necessarily evolution. Adaptation means we build shelter to stay out of the rain. Evolution would mean we develop waterproof skin. Surely you can see the difference.

      "Lastly, there is no evidence to support the existence of Abraham, Moses, and "Jesus". NO EVIDENCE => NON-EXISTENCE."

      Unfortunately your entire statement contradicts itself. One could say that over 400 accounts of a persons existence would be enough evidence for a definitive answer. How many handwritten accounts are there of your existence? If it's less than 400, by your reasoning, it would be illogical to believe you ever existed.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:50 pm |
  18. Thanks

    It's never easy to talk about something moral without sounding like you're preaching. I think you did a great job to show the scientific reasons why you should really think about more than just the temporary when you are decidiing to sleep with someone. Wether your faith encourages you to wait or not, it's pretty hard to argue that sleeping with someone leaves a mark on one's self. Well done.

    May 31, 2011 at 2:46 pm |
  19. Riz

    I want to be that guy in the pic at least for "three" hours 😉

    May 31, 2011 at 2:45 pm |
  20. HeavenSent

    Heaven sent us STD's and lots of other diseases. God must be vengeant and nasty.


    May 31, 2011 at 2:44 pm |
    • holycow

      Farbeit from any of us to presume to know the mind of God, should one exist.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:08 pm |
    • Hof

      We're the ones created in HIs image, not the other way around.

      May 31, 2011 at 3:14 pm |
    • Brian

      And man gave us abortion and pennicilin.


      May 31, 2011 at 3:15 pm |
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