My Take: On adoption, Christians should put up or shut up
June 16th, 2011
03:11 PM ET

My Take: On adoption, Christians should put up or shut up

Editor's Note: Jason Locy is co-author of Veneer: Living Deeply in a Surface Society. He and his wife are adoptive parents and participants in Safe Families for Children, a voluntary alternative to foster care.

By Jason Locy, Special to CNN

When the Arkansas Supreme court struck down a voter-approved initiative that banned cohabitating straight and gay couples from adopting orphaned children, the Christian community predictably erupted.

Byron Babione of the Alliance Defense Fund, a coalition of Christian lawyers, attributed the April ruling to a “political movement afoot to undermine and destroy marriage.” Baptist Press, the publications arm of the Southern Baptist Convention, ran an article that quoted Babione as saying the ruling reflected “a campaign to place adult wants and desires over the best interests of children."

On one hand, these comments aren’t surprising. Conservative evangelicals have decried “the anti-family gay agenda” for decades. On the other, they underscore the way many Christians denounce a social problem that they have no plan for solving.

And the problem here is not ultimately gays adopting — the prevention of which, I believe, was the impetus behind the Arkansas initiative and behind adoption restrictions in various other states. The problem is a global orphan crisis involving tens of millions of children.

In the United States, there are approximately 116,000 foster children waiting to be adopted. That means a judge has either severed the rights of the original parents or the parents have voluntarily signed their children over to the government.

To put this into perspective, we might compare the number of American orphans to the purported 16 million Southern Baptists who attend more than 42,000 churches nationwide. Quick math reveals that there are roughly 138 Southern Baptists for every child in the American foster care system waiting to be adopted. To say it another way, this single denomination has an enormous opportunity to eradicate the orphan crisis in America.

If you’ve spent any time in church, you’ve probably heard a sermon on Noah or Moses or David. But how many sermons have you heard on the biblical mandate to care for orphans?

When was the last time you heard your pastor declare, “if you choose to adopt a child we will stand with you. We will provide respite care, financial help and do everything possible to meet the needs of that child?”

Southern Baptists, Presbyterians, Methodists, Catholics — the Christian Church — can provide safe, loving, permanent homes for these kids. Our faith dictates that we fight for a better way in both words and deeds.

When Jesus asked Peter if he loved him, and Peter responded yes, Jesus didn’t tell him to picket the wolves. He told Peter to feed and tend his sheep.

Some churches and Christian groups are stepping up. Focus on the Family launched a Wait No More initiative in Colorado in 2008, forming partnerships between local churches, adoption agencies and the government in order to encourage families to adopt through the foster care system. As a result, the number of Colorado orphans waiting for a family has been cut in half.

Christianity Today ran a 2010 report headlined “Adoption is Everywhere,” illustrating the trend among churches and Christians who are giving “attention to orphans, adoption, the fatherless, and so on.”

Despite such efforts, the American orphan crisis remains. Too many churches still find it easier to stand behind a megaphone decrying the morality of laws than to stand beside a child in need.

Thousands of orphaned children in America need grandmas and grandpas, embarrassing uncles and crazy aunts. They need someone to teach them to fly a kite and throw a ball and read a book and tie their shoes. They need someone to call mom and dad.

In fairness, adopting a child is not easy and many of these children face difficult adjustments once they’re adopted. They have experienced pain, loss, hurt, confusion and misplaced trust. They have endured physical, emotional and sexual abuse — things most of us don’t even want to imagine.

In 2008, when my wife and I adopted through Bethany Christian Services, the organization educated us on the possible challenges of adopting a child. They informed us that even though our daughter was a baby when we brought her home, she would eventually ask tough questions, as would our friends and family.

But my wife and I know our faith demands action and that sometimes action takes us out of our comfort zone.

As a father of three — two biological children and an adopted child — and a host to a number of children that have needed a temporary home I can tell you these kids need less arguing over who should and should not be allowed to adopt and more families stepping up and saying, “we will adopt.”

It is time Christians decide to either step up or shut up. If a Christian group wants to wade into the discussion over who should adopt, it needs to put its money and manpower where its mouth is.

That means not only challenging families and churches to adopt from foster care (which costs virtually nothing financially) but also to adopt children resulting from unplanned pregnancies, children with special needs and children of mixed race or minority ethnicity.

If Christians’ only desire is to fight the culture wars and score political points, then they should continue to lean on empty rhetoric. But if they truly care about the family and the Bible, they’ll begin caring for children who desperately need a home.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Jason Locy.

- CNN Belief Blog

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soundoff (708 Responses)
  1. Zelda

    Children must never be given to men in marriage under any condition. Likewise, children must never be given to perverts to be raised under any condition. Children and people need to get educated properly, and things must be worked out for normality.

    June 18, 2011 at 2:04 am |
    • careajean

      I cant agree with that. My husbands ex-wife was a crack head and was very promiscious often times with more than one man in a day. You really think she should have stayed with her mother?

      June 19, 2011 at 1:07 am |
    • Zelda

      @Careajean, people should stay away from addiction of any kind. No condoning of wrong doing.

      June 19, 2011 at 9:37 am |
    • SophieCat

      Down the street from me, lives a gay couple – two men, Gary and Tom. Prior to coming out, Gary had adopted a little boy, Leo, with his wife. Leo is mildly retarded, and when they divorced, Gary's wife didn't want custody of the little boy. So Gary got sole custody of Leo, and then a few years later met his partner, "Gary". Gary and Tom raise Leo as if he were their own son. Leo goes to a special school for half a day, about three times a week. Leo is doing well in his "forever" home with Gary and Tommy; so well, in fact, that Leo will participate in Houston's Special Olympics next year! It's a real milestone for Leo, consider that, when Leo came to live with Gary and his wife, he could not speak, he could not walk. He was four years old. Now he can communicate quite well with Gary and Tommy, and he's learning how to dress himself and make his own bed. He will proudly show you his toys in his room, and greets you with a big smile and a hug.

      When I read statements such as yours, I think about Leo.

      I think about what would happen to Leo, if people like YOU had anything to say about it.

      June 20, 2011 at 11:03 am |
    • David Johnson


      Great post, SophieCat.


      June 20, 2011 at 1:44 pm |
  2. James Black


    June 18, 2011 at 12:07 am |
  3. Anon

    We did 'put up' and was left reeling by a child who absolutely terrorized our family pets and resident children. RAD is a very real and terrifying diagnosis. Adoption CAN be a very beautiful thing – a wonderful way to build a family and provide a child with a loving family, but it can also tear families apart. I'm glad your experience has been a good one, but there is another side that will take our family a long time to recover from.

    June 17, 2011 at 9:59 pm |
    • Jonathan

      I feel really sorry for the kid that his family talks about him like this.

      June 17, 2011 at 10:38 pm |
    • MomtoChinaGirlz

      Jonothan, children with severe RAD (reactive attachment disorder) can present essentially as psycopaths. They can and do kill or harm family pets, parents and siblings. Yes, there are milder forms, some sadly self destructive, but it is not an easy road and good theraputic help is often hard to come by. It requires constant vigilance on the part of the paretns, more like being a prison guarf than what you would think of as parenting. Get yourself educated before you condemn.

      June 18, 2011 at 8:39 am |
  4. Kimberly B

    Crazy. I was just watching Oprah-a rerun I guess as I am a teacher on summed break. It was about gay men adopting. At first I wanted to cry out against it but was quickly convicted exactly the same. We Christians cannot say such things until we truly to this on ourselves and start adopting

    June 17, 2011 at 9:35 pm |
    • Reality Check

      Kimberly, what subject do you teach?

      June 17, 2011 at 10:32 pm |
  5. Dan

    5. Three special needs, one with significant surgery needs, the other considered a possible CP baby. That enough for you?

    June 17, 2011 at 9:29 pm |
  6. Reality

    Then there is this information: http://www.prb.org/.../InternationalAdoptionRateinUSDoubledinthe1990s.aspx
    "International Adoption Rate in U.S. Doubled in the 1990s

    (January 2003) The United States adopts more children from abroad than any other country. The number of foreign children adopted by U.S. parents has increased sharply, and nearly doubled during the 1990s (see Figure 1). At just over 20,000 in Fiscal Year 2002 — less than 5 percent of legal immigrants — international adoptees add relatively little to national population growth, but they contribute to the United States' racial and ethnic diversity and links to foreign countries. And because many adopted children come from a different racial or ethnic background than their American parents, they contribute to the blurring of racial and ethnic boundaries.


    One reason for the rise of international adoptions is the dwindling supply of adoptable children within the United States.1 Increased access to contraception, the availability of legal abortion, decreases in the teen birth rate, and reduced social stigma surrounding unmarried parenting are among the reasons that there are fewer U.S.-born children available for adoption. Some demographers also point to the postponement of marriage and childbearing as fueling the demand for adopted children. Women in their 30s or 40s are more likely to encounter problems getting pregnant and carrying a pregnancy to term than younger women, and some turn to adoption to have the child they want.

    Unmarried American mothers are no longer a common source of children for adoption. Although the percentage of births to unmarried women has increased dramatically since the 1970s, and accounted for one-third of all U.S. births in 2000, many unmarried mothers now keep their children or transfer their children's legal custody to relatives rather than put them up for adoption. Young teenage mothers are less likely to keep their babies, but the birth rate for young teens has fallen steadily since 1991, according to the National Center for Health Statistics.

    Another reason why many parents are looking abroad for children is that adopting within the United States is legally complicated, slow, and costly. Public adoptions through the foster care system are less prone to legal snarls but are much slower, making it difficult to adopt children while they are still infants. Less than 2 percent of children adopted through the foster care system in 1998 were infants, compared with 46 percent of children adopted from abroad.2

    Georgia Deoudes, director of policy for the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Inst-itute, sees other reasons that prospective parents turn to international adoption. For one thing, she said, "There seems to be some idea among prospective adoptive parents that adopting internationally is somehow easier or less expensive. That isn't, in fact, true."3 A more likely motivation is that international standards for adoptive parents are in some ways more lenient. Older couples and single adults who might be rejected by private U.S. adoption agencies are more likely to be accepted by adoption agencies in foreign countries. Finally, there appears to be a more clear-cut termination of the birth parents' rights with international adoption that appeals to many prospective parents."

    June 17, 2011 at 4:53 pm |
  7. Rae

    @David Johnson

    Not everyone has an anus. I know many who were born without one and some who choose to never get one. So that blows your "opinion" opinion out of the water.

    We adopted a little boy with special needs from another country b/c the waiting list in America is too long for Down syndrome. But first of all...we adopted b/c God asked us too and we simply obeyed. Too many people are not asking God what He wants them to do with their lives but more importantly they are not listening or following through. Adoption is God's idea and if He wills it for someone it will work.

    Part of the problem is that this world is an "all about me world" and there is no room for more than 2 children in so many families. Too many are not willing to sacrifice their time and money on someone else...especially someone else who may "take" more than "give".

    June 17, 2011 at 4:10 pm |
    • David Johnson


      Soon after being born, god's mistake is corrected by surgeons. Everyone has an anus. Natural or man made.

      I had one child. I gave her a good life and put her through college. I could not have done this, if I had 5. I make no apologies, nor do I think you are noble for adopting.

      Real $ex education in our schools and communities and free / low cost contraceptives available to all, would help to alleviate
      the unwanted children. Abortion should also be available in the family planning tool box.


      June 17, 2011 at 4:22 pm |
    • RealityChecker

      David Johnson wrote..."would help to alleviate the unwanted children."

      Killing kids to "alleviate" them. Johnson sounds like a Nazi talking about exterminating unwanted people. What a sick putrid subhuman.

      June 18, 2011 at 12:13 am |
    • Prakash

      TimoceeAw, how refeshing it is to delve into the Word of God. It never gets old, it never gets trinig. To me it secures my place in life. After reading todays chapter it's number 6 (God's Full Salvation) that touches me the most. We can do all that we can to share the Word, believe in the Word, and study the Word ourselves, but until we get to that point in our life, totally giving ourselves to Him, all else is in vain. Some get it early in life and others still don't. There are even people that go to church every Sunday, and still haven't got that point. I'm so glad that God has worked in my life to mold and shape me like a potter working with clay for me to see His goodness. I promise you, there is none like Him. Keep trusting and believing Saints for one day He's coming back again! Timocee

      September 9, 2012 at 1:37 am |
  8. Joshua the Agnostic

    This guy didn't do much research. There's this place called "The Baptist Children's Home" and "Boys Ranch Town" in Oklahoma that cares for just these types of cases. You're harping on the wrong denomination.

    June 17, 2011 at 3:47 pm |
    • RealityChecker

      He's trying to promote his book and knows that controversy gets media attention (aka free advertising).

      June 18, 2011 at 12:23 am |
  9. Rachel Garlinghouse

    I'm a mother of two girls through domestic, transracial, open adoption. My husband and I are taking steps to adopt from foster care-specifically, an African American sibling group. Everything you wrote in this article I agree with. It sickens me that we have American orphans that many Christians do nothing about. We preach "pro-life"-but how pro life are we, really, if we aren't adopting kids who NEED homes? I talk a lot about adoption on my blog, if you'd like to stop by: http://whitesugarbrownsugar.blogspot.com/ I sent this article to my friends, relatives, and my pastor. Thank you for writing this.

    June 17, 2011 at 2:39 pm |
  10. Justin

    'Christianity' is as valid as any other label. There are those who claim it, but display zero understanding of what it is supposed to be. Those are the ones that we typically hear about. Those who claim to be Christians and actually live in accordance with its values are by definition not the most ostentatious about their faith. They're too busy living up to the standards set down in the bible.
    There are hundreds of potential problems with "Christianity". Chief among them is that actual 'Christians' don't fit the mold defined by those screaming the loudest about what "Christianity" means.

    Also, Atheists should show some consistency. Deriding any system of beliefs based on either a) lack of scientific evidence or b) poor regard/treatment of others is hypocritical at best

    Last time I checked, lack of proof is not accepted as proof under the scientific method. At best, you may be able to disprove certain stories in one religion. Kind of big leap to disproving a god. And the various hateful comments of self-claimed atheists in this comment thread kind of kill any supposed superiority as well.

    June 17, 2011 at 2:33 pm |
    • Justin

      This article was spot on. Well written, well intentioned, fair, and above all else very needed.

      Thank you to the writer and those commenters who are living proof of the kindness of humanity.

      Sorry for getting too wrapped up in the rants of trolls to mention that in my main post.

      June 17, 2011 at 2:37 pm |
    • David Johnson


      You said: "There are hundreds of potential problems with "Christianity". Chief among them is that actual 'Christians' don't fit the mold defined by those screaming the loudest about what "Christianity" means."

      No. The Chief Problem with Christianity is that it is a myth. Jesus may never have existed. If He did exist, there is no evidence that He is the Messiah or god incarnate.

      You said: "Also, Atheists should show some consistency. Deriding any system of beliefs based on either a) lack of scientific evidence or b) poor regard/treatment of others is hypocritical at best

      I base my rejection of the supernatural, based on 'a'. This is true of most (all) atheists.

      In the real world, any object that provides no evidence for its existence is classified as imaginary.

      You said: "Last time I checked, lack of proof is not accepted as proof under the scientific method. At best, you may be able to disprove certain stories in one religion. Kind of big leap to disproving a god. And the various hateful comments of self-claimed atheists in this comment thread kind of kill any supposed superiority as well."

      Actually, since it is the believers that are positing a god, it would be their burden to supply evidence that god does indeed exist.

      Extraordinary claims, requires extraordinary evidence – Carl Sagan

      No one can prove a negative. I can't prove that god does not exist. I also can't prove Santa Claus does not exist. But in life, we decide what is real and not real, based on what we feel is probable.

      I think we can rule out god, in the same way we rule out any other mythological creature. We can't prove vampires or werewolves or fairies don't exist. But, I bet you would agree, that they are not real. They just don't fit in with reality.

      So, we can look for attributes of god, that should provide evidence that He exists.
      If positive evidence is found, we should conclude that god probably exists.
      If positive evidence is not found, then we should conclude that the Christian God, beyond a reasonable doubt, does not exist. Just like Santa. Just like fairies. Just like vampires.

      One of the most compelling reasons for rejecting god, is the fact that there are so many versions of god(s). Some, not even human (The elephant-faced god – Ganesha etc.).
      Each religion, each denomination of each religion, defines god's wants differently. All of these religions cannot be right. But they can all be wrong.
      Perhaps man has not yet found the one true god, or perhaps He does not exist.

      Why would the Christian god leave room for confusion? If He exists, wouldn't He want everyone to know He exists and is the one true god?

      1 Timothy 2: 3 – 5 says the Christian god does desire this:

      3For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Saviour;
      4Who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.
      5For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus;

      1. If the Christian God existed, this fact would obvious.
      So obvious in fact, that EVERYONE, or nearly everyone would believe in His existence. There would be only worshipers of the one true god.

      2. The Christian God's existence is not, in fact, obvious.
      This fact is evidenced by the fact that ~ 68% of the world's population are not Christians.

      3. Therefore, the Christian God is very unlikely to exist.

      In the same vein as the above, notice how many denominations of Christianity there are (~ 34,000). Each denomination can show you scripture, that "proves" they understand the wants of Jesus/god.
      All of the denominations could not be correctly interpreting the bible. Many are contradictory.
      Many of these denominations believe only their members will be saved.

      If the Christian god exists, and He is all knowing and all powerful and all good, why didn't He provide a bible that could not be misinterpreted? That everyone's comprehension of His wants would be the same?

      ambiguity – a word or expression that can be understood in two or more possible ways : an ambiguous word or expression.

      1. If the Christian god exists, He would want everyone to know His wants, without ambiguity.
      Otherwise, why would He have bothered supplying man with a book of His will?

      2. The bible god provided, is ambiguous.
      This fact is evidenced by there being 34,000 different denominations of Christianity.

      3. Therefore, the Christian god is very unlikely to exist.

      Another reason to reject the idea of a god, is because there appears to be no need for one. Each hour of each day, science fills another gap in man's knowledge, that god once filled. So far, science has found no need for a god.
      We don't want to postulate what isn't necessary.

      John 3:16 – For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

      If the Christian god so loves the world, why does he allow / cause so much suffering? Disease, famine, floods, earthquakes etc. ad infinitum, ad nauseum. ?

      I can explain the existence of these horrors as being due to natural causes, and evolution but my explanation fails when I include an all loving Creator in the equation. I keep getting a "Can't divide by zero" error.

      Christians say their god is omnibenevolent (all good); omnipotent (all powerful); omniscient ( all knowing)

      1. If the Christian god is all knowing, He would be aware of all the suffering on earth.

      2. If the Christian god is all good, He would want to rid the world of suffering / evil.

      3. If the Christian god is all powerful, He would be able to rid the world of suffering / evil.

      4. Yet, evil persists.

      Therefore, The Christian god is very unlikely to exist.

      The Christian god is said to be omniscient and omnipotent. But these attributes are not compatible.

      If the Christian god is all knowing, if the future can be known, then even god would be bound by events in the future. Everything would be predetermined.

      1. If the Christian god, knows what will happen in the future, and does something else...then, He is not all knowing.

      2. If the Christian god knows the future and cannot change it, then He is not all powerful.

      3. The attributes attributed to the Christian god conflict with one another. The Christian god cannot exist.

      Evolution, with its evidence of transitional fossils, geological column, DNA evidence, vestigial organs etc., is very damning to the biblical Creation Story.

      If god created all the organisms on the planet, then He must have created even the diseases that have caused and are causing so much death and misery for humans and animals. He would have had to fashion the tick and the flea. The mosquito and blood flukes. And worms that bore into a child's eye.

      How could an all good god do such a thing? Why would He spend His time creating gruesome things to cause human suffering? Yet, these horrors exist. And if god didn't create them, who did?

      Evolution explains the diversity of the planet's organisms, including the pathogens and the parasites that have caused so much human death and misery.

      If the Creation Story is a fable, then Adam and Eve did not exist.

      If Adam and Eve did not exist, then there was no original sin.

      If there was no original sin, then it cannot be the reason god allows so much suffering in the world. We can dump the guilt trip.

      If there was no original sin, then there was no need for a redeemer.

      If there was no redeemer, then Christianity is a based on a false premise.

      If the Creation story is a myth, then there is no reason to believe any of the bible.

      If we evolved, there is no soul –> no afterlife –> no need of a heaven or hell.

      LOL, which is why the Evangelicals fight so hard against evolution.

      Evolution is the Christian god's Achilles' heel.

      The Christian god is no more likely to exist than unicorns, satyrs, fiery serpents, or talking snakes.


      June 17, 2011 at 6:19 pm |
    • JOregon

      @David Johnson
      Your reply was longer than the entire story, and not nearly as interesting.
      Couldn't torture myself to read much more than the first little bit.
      I do long posts sometimes but that was absurd.

      June 17, 2011 at 9:47 pm |
  11. Mirah Riben

    Adopting children from foster care is a wonderful, altruistic and noble thing to do.

    The problem occurs however, when this christian initiative is not clearly defined and the message from the pulpit is just ADOPT, to specifically: Adopt from foster care. Without that limitation, unwitting, well-intentioned Christians could be in fact supporting black market child trafficking or causing incidents like recently seem in Haiti.

    – FACT: 90% of children in orphanages worldwide are not orphans but have at least one living parent and/or extended family to reunite their family as was the case with the two children Madonna adopted. These people have no concept of – or desire for – permanent adoption of their children.

    READ: The Evangelical Adoption Crusade by Kathryn Joyce, The Nation, May 9, 2011 http://www.thenation.com/article/160096/evangelical-adoption-crusade and also: The Lie We Love by E.J. Graff at http://www.foreignpolicy.com/articles/2008/10/.../the_lie_we_love –

    – FACT: Many people all over the world are exploited for their ignorance, asked to sign papers they cannot read; told their children are going to the US Europe of an education.

    -FACT: In nations that have ceased IA because of corruption, the number of allegedly “abandoned” babies dropped to almost zero. When adoptions were resumed, the number of said “abandoned” babies rose back up again to meet the demand!

    -FACT: Many caring people wanting to adopt for purely altruistic reasons and chose reputable agencies have inadvertently adopted children who were stolen or kidnapped. Child traffickers label kidnapped children abandoned and it is virtually impossible to verify otherwise.

    -FACT: Children ARE stolen, kidnapped and trafficked for adoption in China, India, Nepal, Vietnam and Guatemala.

    -FACT: Children have been taken at gunpoint from loving mothers to meet a demand for babies to adopt!

    -FACT: Children who might benefit from adoption are ignored in US foster care and orphanages around the world because they are older, disabled or sibling groups while children are sought and coerced or stolen to meet the demand!

    -FACT: The tens of thousands of dollars paid by westerners to adopt prevent local residents from adopting within many nations because they cannot compete financially with fees set based on demand.


    Child trafficking disguised as adoption

    For-profit orphanages keep Haitian families apart

    Duped by Indian adoption agency, US family cautions couples


    Read Julia Rollings story at: http://bittersweet-story.blogspot.com/

    The works of David Smolin on child trafficking: works.bepress.com/david_smolin/1/

    Re China, read:








    Re Ethiopia: http://familypreservation.blogspot.com/2010/05/must-see-video-news-report-about-child.html

    Mirah Riben, author, THE STORK MARKET: America's Multi-Billion Dollar Unregulated Adoption Industry

    June 17, 2011 at 12:42 pm |
    • bridgmjm

      Good Lord! Tell me u cut and pasted this stuff.

      June 17, 2011 at 1:48 pm |
    • PRISM 1234

      How is it that those facts are not screamed through our airwaves and warnings shown on our TV's? Why is it that so many things that are going on are being hidden from average people? It is money, greed and corruption of our monstrous capitalist system, because there are always some crooks in whose interests it is that the facts are NOT known! We love to think of how great and noble country and society we are, but the things swept from under our dirty carpets always show what's really hidden underneath . There would be no certain criminals benefiting if there were not conditions in which their dirty work thrives!

      June 17, 2011 at 1:50 pm |
  12. mamato3

    As an Evangelical follower of Christ, I must say the author makes some valid points. I do not believe his goal is "christianity bashing" as some folks are doing. Rather, he intends to remind us of our divine mandate- to care for widows and orphans in their distress- this is your spiritual act of worship". We are mandated by God to care for others, and far too often folks in the American church have allowed themselves to ignore this mandate in order to pursue a more "comfortable" life for themselves. We broke this pattern when we adopted our daughter 5 years ago- we already had 2 kids and thought we were done, but God impressed upon us the importance of caring for his children. It has been a WONDERFUL blessing for us all- and not without cost, but I know it was as God intended. As a result, multiple families at our church have adopted or are in the process. Sometimes it just takes someone to be the first one. If more families took just one child in need, what would this world be like???

    June 17, 2011 at 12:26 pm |
  13. Samuel Warren

    You hit the nail on the head. Although there are quite a number of us still following that. For example, Rich Stearns, president of World Vision US wrote a book called "The Hole in our Gospel" which describes the missing connection between Christians in America and the "Good news."

    June 17, 2011 at 12:01 pm |
  14. Need a Home...

    Mr. Locy, well stated!

    Thank you! I have asked this question many times of my family who claim to be straight and narrow "christians". My sister and brother-in-law are examples. They are empty nesters, he's going through a mid life thing and claims that since the kids are gone he has no purpose. When I brought up fostering or adopting a child I was laughed at – "Why would we want to do THAT?" was my sisters exact words.

    I will NEVER claim to be a christian, haven't since I was a child and got a first hand look at the lies they tell each other and those around them. But, I do have a very strong relationship with God, the Creater, the Universe (what ever moral compass you follow) and we have opened our home multiple times to families in need. We have never taken in a child without a parent, but in the past 4 yrs. we've had 3 families (6 children and 3 adults) live with us for a time while they got back on their feet.

    After my youngest moves out, I hope to be able to become a foster parent... who knows that may lead to more children who call me mom, the thought is there and I'm not laughing at the idea like the christains around me...

    June 17, 2011 at 11:55 am |
    • chris

      a simple thank you from me, a stranger.

      thank you.

      June 17, 2011 at 1:30 pm |
    • PRISM 1234

      You said "I will NEVER claim to be a christian, haven't since I was a child and got a first hand look at the lies they tell each other and those around them. But, I do have a very strong relationship with God, the Creator, the Universe (what ever moral compass you follow)"

      It's tobad that you see Christianity filtered through what you've seen in Christians around you.
      Christianity's substance is not in looking/ imitating man, and following set of rules, trying to living up to them, and/or joining the church"club".
      It is Looking to Jesus who is the author and finisher of faith of those who have put their trust in Him and His finished work on the Cross. It is a relationship with God, through Christ, whom He sent to redeem us, fallen mankind, without whom no one can know God, nor have a relationship with Him. Do not let the things you see in those who say they are Christians, but take their commitment to Christ watered down, keep you from missing the real truth, and relationship with Him who IS THE ONLY WAY, THE TRUTH AND LIFE, and without Him there isn't any!

      June 17, 2011 at 1:36 pm |
    • David Johnson

      @Prism 1234

      Like all believers, you just prattle on. You have no proof for any of the words you posted. No proof that Christ even existed, let alone that He was god incarnate. All you have is a book written by ancient men who believed the earth was flat and that feeling in your heart, that you think is from your god. This feeling is felt by believers of every faith. You could worship a tea kettle and get the same feeling.

      Letting fence sitters hear the truth
      Uncle Dave

      June 17, 2011 at 1:48 pm |
    • Diane

      I understand how u feel about some Christians, but u should remember that no one is perfect. There are a lot of Christians out there who try to live like Christ did. What a lot of people who don't read the Bible don't understand is that satan doesn't tempt people that he already has, he works on people he is worried about Re: Christians. It is really hard to be a Christian or not to live in this world today. There is so much evil & corruption. People put down Chistians, but try to compare the good that the churches do, to the average person. They build schools, homes, hospitals, adopt plenty of children in the US& abroad (I see this first hand) & have booths set up constantly for people to sign up to sponsor a child or a whole family. I could go on & on. It really makes me upset when people judge & not know the facts. Lets just try to love one another as Christ loves us. Walk with love & forgiveness. God Bless:-)

      June 17, 2011 at 1:53 pm |
    • PRISM 1234

      LOL! a parrot who keeps just parrotting the same, telling me I'm prattling.... LOL!

      June 17, 2011 at 1:55 pm |
    • David Johnson

      @Prism 1234

      Parroting? Hmmm... If you are going to tell me the wants of your god, is it too much to ask ask that you first establish that He is real? There are about 34,000 different denominations of Christianity. Many are contradictory. Many believe only their members will be saved. Each, can show you bible passages that "prove" they're interpretation of the bible is correct. How do I know you are "preaching" the "truth"?

      Why did the Christian god give man a book of His will, that is ambiguous? Christians say their god is Omnipotent, Omniscient, Omnibenevolent. With these superlative characteristics, why can't god convince even the majority of humans (68% of the world's population, non-Christian), that He exists?

      So, Prism. I keep asking the same questions, pointing out the same problems, because you haven't supplied the evidence to quiet me.


      June 17, 2011 at 2:21 pm |
    • JOregon

      @David Johnson
      You have no proof there isn't a God. Just proof there isn't the God YOU want.
      There is no proof of the Big Kablooie, or Evolution.
      We have no proof there are other stars and galaxies, maybe it's God's slide show. "Kodachrome they give us those nice bright colors..." (my apologies Paul Simon)
      People believe their marriage will last forever, or they won't die if they smoke.
      There is no proof of many of the things we believe in.
      We all believe in things that don't have proof. You pick your belief system.

      June 17, 2011 at 9:58 pm |
    • David Johnson


      You have no proof there isn't a God. Just proof there isn't the God YOU want.

      I think I have shown the Christian god is no more likely than Santa Claus. That was what I attempted. *smile*

      You said: "There is no proof of the Big Kablooie, or Evolution."

      By Big Kablooie, I assume you mean the big bang. Actually, the big bang was not actually an explosion. More like an expansion.

      Evidence for the Big Bang:
      "The Big Bang is the leading theory that almost all astrophysicists believe explains the origin of the universe. This is because all observations so far made support the Big Bang theory; there are four main lines of evidence that are most-often used.

      First: The expansion of the universe. The universe is expanding now, so in the past it must have been smaller. If it were smaller in the past, then there probably was a time when it was infinitesimally small. One could ask why don't we think that it might be expanding now but it could have been shrinking before and we just don't know about it. The answer is that there is simply no mechanism that we know about that could accomplish this transition on a universal scale.

      The second line of evidence is the Cosmic Microwave Background Radiation (CMB) that was discovered in 1965 by Arno Penzias and Robert Wilson from Bell Labs. They were working with a microwave receiver, but were getting noise from every direction they pointed the receiver. It was coming from all over the sky at what seemed to be exactly the same frequency. This was the first evidence for the CMB, and they later shared a Nobel Prize for this discovery.

      The CMB is an "echo" left over from when the universe was approximately 300,000 years old, as predicted by the Big Bang model. As something becomes compressed, as matter was when the universe was young, it becomes hot. The actual "heat" comes from particles' movements – the faster they move, the more energetic they are, and so the more heat we see. The universe was so hot before it was 300,000 years old that atoms could not form. Because of this, photons – particles of light – could not move around, for they kept reacting with electrons.

      Therefore, during this period, the universe was effectively opaque. Once the universe had reached 300,000 years old, atoms could form, and electrons were now bound to a nucleus. Once this happened, photons could move about freely. This "first light" is the CMB, and its existence is a very strong indication that the Big Bang occurred.

      The third major pillar of the Big Bang theory lies in the abundance of the different elements of the universe. The theory predicts that certain amounts of hydrogen, helium, and other elements should be made. Observations have shown almost exactly the amounts that are predicted.

      The fourth piece is that the Big Bang theory is the only one that comprehensively lays down a framework for the eventual evolution of the universe as we observe it today."
      Source: burro.astr.cwru.edu/stu/cosmos_bigbang.html

      Evidence for Evolution:
      Transitional fossils
      Geological column
      DNA evidence
      Vestigial organs

      I will let you google each of the above.

      There is no evidence for Creationism. No evidence that any god exists. Believers want their beliefs and faith to be equal to evidence and logic. They are not. Faith and logic will never lead you to the truth.


      We have no proof there are other stars and galaxies, maybe it's God's slide show. "Kodachrome they give us those nice bright colors..." (my apologies Paul Simon)
      People believe their marriage will last forever, or they won't die if they smoke.
      There is no proof of many of the things we believe in.
      We all believe in things that don't have proof. You pick your belief system.

      June 20, 2011 at 2:36 pm |
  15. HollyAnn

    I am a Christian, mom to seven (4 adopted and 3 bio) and adoption agency director. You hit the nail on the head! The church does some, but we have to do more! As long as there are children in need, we have to have more Christians willing to put their money where their mouth is so to speak and be inconvenienced by the gospel. Thanks for using your access to a public forum to issue the challenge!

    June 17, 2011 at 11:01 am |
  16. Julie

    I know four single women that are struggling month to month to make ends meet. I am personally helping them with their every day needs such as living in my home for over two years, continued financial help, transportation, food, utility bills, rent and child care. Not one person in my church has offered one ounce of help yet they are so dedicated to the "prochoice" agenda. Makes no sense.

    June 17, 2011 at 10:17 am |
    • PRISM 1234

      That's the problem with much of American Christianity, in American churches. By aligning themselves with conservatist Republicans, they have lost the vision of Christ,whom they are supposed to follow. To rally behind leaders who say they stand for the rights of the unborn, but turn their heads and pretend that they don't see when the parents of the children's lives they "protect" are in need of basic human right as decent health care when they need it, and say nothing about the injustice imposed on them by system that leaches , robs and loads heavy burdens on people of this country, especially families who raise children... to see all that and pretend it's not happening, and to follow those hypocrites, rallying for them, and looking to them for leadership is worse then claiming no "moral values" . That;'s why you see churches like you';re talking about in your post. And to be rank, it is impossible to go to those kind of churches, and not to take up the stench of their hypocrisies!

      June 17, 2011 at 11:41 am |
    • David Johnson

      @PRISM 1234

      You said: "That's the problem with much of American Christianity, in American churches. By aligning themselves with conservatist Republicans, they have lost the vision of Christ,whom they are supposed to follow."

      Yes. My respect for you just went up! We must vote for the Dems in 2012.


      June 17, 2011 at 1:53 pm |
    • RealityChecker

      Julie... you claim that you are helping 4 women. Then you claim that no one in your church is helping them. Your first cliam refutes your second claim. You appear to be too stupid to understand how you contradicted yourself.

      June 18, 2011 at 12:17 am |
  17. Science>Bible

    The article's premise is clear: how can Christian-tards condemn gay adoption when they themselves refuse to adopt needy children? How? Because their silly life manual called the Bible tells them it's not only okay to do so, but that it is a divine mandate!!! How can intelligent, progressive people deal with such nonsense? I only wish that the Christian Right realize that they are contributing to the inevitable destruction of humankind with their (and all other religious beliefs). If you don't agree then just imagine what happens when Al-Qaeda gets a hold of nukes...don't think they'll use them? If religion never existed the world we be a far more peaceful place and many millions of people would have not died in the name of fairy tales. Period.

    June 17, 2011 at 10:15 am |
    • Mark from Middle River

      “Christian-tards “ ..is that the same as Athei'Fucs ? 🙂

      Sigh, gotta love when folks degrade their arguments down to simple name calling. And the “Period”, is also a great touch. Sorta like :


      It is interesting that you mentioned Al-Qaeda because just as they read the Koran, interpret what they have read and then decide that their view is the only view.... normally they end on a “period” as well. 🙂

      The world would have progressed just the same way it did. As person of Faith I believe that it would have been far worst but that is debatable. The first evolution of war or battle came the first time man went from simple hunter gatherers, settled into farming and became stationary on a piece of land. From that point on humans have always been a warlike species. It is why we are the bad-as top of the food chain, we really can fasten on any reason to kill. It might be because of Faith, it might be because of access to resources. As a person who lived through the gang wars of the 80's and 90s and the weekly drive-by and simple walk-up shootings, I know that the cycle of crime, hate, and murder have been with us since the beginning.

      Some folks use religion as a weapon or a reason to oppress. They read the Bible and say, “this is what I feel this text is saying to me.” ….. funny, sorta the same as you did.... Think of how many times Al-Qaeda states in their reading of Islam says: ..“premise is clear:” 🙂

      “....just imagine what happens when Al-Qaeda gets a hold of nukes...don't think they'll use them?”

      Hmm,.... Truthfully, as much of a Reagan Republican as I am, the little peace love and Berkley happiness, part of me would rather NOT A SINGLE HUMAN ON THIS PLANET... had nukes. 🙁

      You worry what would happen if Al-Qaeda got a hold of Nukes.... If you are here in the states then even though I feel we can justify the use … We did blow Hiroshima and Nagasaki basically off the map for a time. 🙁

      You see dude, there is always this part of humans that, if they desire to, they can and will justify killing.

      June 17, 2011 at 11:14 am |
    • David Johnson

      @Mark from Middle River

      You Said: "It is why we are the bad-as top of the food chain, we really can fasten on any reason to kill.

      No, we are at the top of the food chain, because natural selection has given us our highly developed brain. We are not as strong as most animals. Our senses not as keen. But, we can think! We can plan! We can even imagine a god.

      But, I understand where you are coming from.


      June 17, 2011 at 2:04 pm |
    • Doc Vestibule

      @David Johnson
      And don't foget these wonderful opposable thumbs!

      June 17, 2011 at 2:07 pm |
    • David Johnson

      Doc Vestibule

      You said: "And don't foget these wonderful opposable thumbs!"

      Yep! LOL


      June 17, 2011 at 2:31 pm |
    • Mark from Middle River

      "And don't forget these wonderful opposable thumbs!"

      Isn't it something to mainly due with the size of jaw muscle on the side of the human skull? I remember that the muscle hole on the side of the skull that the muscle goes through is substantially narrower in Humans. This allowed our brains to expand further than primates.

      June 17, 2011 at 4:10 pm |
    • JOregon

      The very cornerstone of evolution is the similarity of characteristics within certain species.
      We look at the ape and we look at man and we think we are so similar we must have come from a common ancestor.
      Using the similarities of traits is the very ROCK that evolution is based on.
      The Camera eye is a trait that is shared by Man, Octopus, and Box Jellyfish. The eye even develops differently in each creature showing they could not have come from a common ancestor.
      Evolution Theory 1: Animals have similar characteristics when they are related by a common ancestor.
      Evolution Theory 2: Animals have similar characteristics when they are NOT related by a common ancestor. “Convergent Evolution”.
      Great way to cover your bases.
      No evolution has ever been observed. Adaptability, yes. Evolution. no.
      Prime example:
      The Human Genome Project gathered samples from humans all over the earth. When studying samples from various isolated (possibly by as much as 200,000+/- years, by at least 125,000 years [according to scientists]) indigenous people it was discovered there was no evolution.
      We are all equally Human, 99.9% of our DNA is shared between all humans.
      Certainly there are adaptions, humans have about 25,000 genes. The average gene contains about 3,000 base pairs. Some people are short, some tall, some dark, some light, etc. In the end, NO EVOLUTION HAS HAPPENED, we are all still the same – Human.

      June 17, 2011 at 10:22 pm |
  18. James Black


    June 17, 2011 at 9:57 am |
  19. scieng

    More disinformation from a hater of Christians. The Baptists, and other Christian denominations sponsor and support hundreds of orphanages, adopt tens of thousands of children, and work to make adoption easier, faster, and less costly. What the author does not say is that many of these children cannot be adopted for a period of time (or at all) due to legal and emotional problems–some created by the meddling of liberal beaurocrats.

    June 17, 2011 at 9:46 am |
    • myweightinwords

      If you read the article, you'll realize that the author himself is a Christian and that he is talking very specifically about a group of children who already cleared and ready to be adopted. These are kids who have no obstacles between them and families who could adopt them.

      Yes, there are many out there who are not in that position, who have waiting periods and legal red tape. He doesn't deny that. He's simply speaking to a very select group of kids. Who are sitting and waiting. And far, far too many people are too busy worrying about who SHOULDN'T get to adopt them than who WILL adopt them.

      June 17, 2011 at 10:51 am |
    • Jill

      ^5 to myweightinwords!

      June 17, 2011 at 12:16 pm |
  20. Haime52

    I agree with the author. Today, too many self-proclaimed Christians are more modern day Pharisees than followers of Christ.

    June 17, 2011 at 9:39 am |
    • newsreel

      Yes, they adopt religion for themselves (ticket to the promised/fake heaven) rather than to do good to others.

      June 17, 2011 at 10:10 am |
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