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July 7th, 2011
03:26 PM ET

Weddings blend cultures as well as families

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(CNN) - When Kavi and David Moltz tied the knot in summer 2010, the multicultural couple - she's Hindu and he's culturally Jewish - tried to honor both their traditions.

"I had to ride in on a horse ... a giant Clydesdale adorned in Indian raiments," recalls David of the Hindu wedding tradition. "But we gave a nod to my culture, too," he says.

In Hindu culture, friends and musicians playing traditional Indian music accompany the groom's ride to the ceremony. Instead, David had his friends play drums, and he wore a traditional yarmulke and tallith (prayer shawl) that had been his father's and grandfather's.

The evening before, during the Mehndi party in which the bride and members of her party are adorned with henna designs (an impermanent skin ink) on their hands and feet, David wore a traditional Indian suit.

Read more on interfaith weddings
- CNN Belief Blog

Filed under: Interfaith issues • Traditions

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  1. Muneef

    Prophets and Messengers of God
    It's not right that God would reveal on his Messengers or Prophets different Religions that contradict each other in essentials. A messenger is a prophet who comes with abrogating some of the laws brought by the previous messenger or receives a new set of laws. But the religion is one, believing in the oneness of Allah.
    http://alsunna.org/Prophets-and-Messengers-of-God.html

    Those who follow the Apostle, the unlettered Prophet, Whom they find mentioned in their own Scriptures, in the Torah and the Gospel... (Holy Qu'ran: VII – 157; Translation: Yusif Ali)

    http://www.islamicity.com/mosque/muhammad_bible.htm

    July 12, 2011 at 4:47 pm |
  2. Muneef

    Daimondsky.
    Revised & Corrected;

    Let me remind you of one thing that you might have not thought of before.
    You must have read about the wars and killings between Catholics and Protestants when there were only Two of them Christian branches but since then you became to have more than Two in branches and each claims to be on right path or true Church...this was noted from the words of fights i was able to read within several posts on these Religion blogs ...

    Guess if you go back reading your history in Europe or in the MidEast you will remember that your ancestors were because of such wars and conflicts driven out or migrated in force measure to overseas for finding the land they were told that they can practice their religious or non religious beliefs and rituals...
    Since then from different continents for many years made of the few branches many more branches in Black and in White...

    Could you tell me why the majority or the extremists did not try to enforce their Beliefs and Church upon all as did in the previous lands...
    Although can be seen that they might be working as "Missionaries" towards converting more at overseas countries ?  

    Tell me why you have this fragile unity and democracy among you there on that land ?

    Guess old Islam was the first to be a cause for your unity from the dates of the crusaders... Then in modern history there came the "Nazi's" then came the "Communists" but today you have the  "New Islam"....they were those who united you and got you to abolish slavery and made of you equal as it is today  in Black and White  !? 

    Guess always having a "Boogeyman" has been the only modern Secular way to serve controlling masses since with out Bible teachings here to get people follow,they have made this "Boogyman system" since this makes it a security alert measures taken ... 

    The existence of Islam and Muslims is behind your unity as Branches and Secular systems...while secular systems might be behind the fragile unity of Islam Branches and Bloodlines.

    In such cases if we were enemies we should at least have respect towards each other after all we still in need of each other in business,trades,consumer market Goods...
    God knows what else for centuries that we might have exchanged no matter who were the real pirates or bandits to the other all through ancient and modern history...

    But guess population masses every where are just used and abused to look like a "Large Dairy Farms" that are controlled and milked regularly for "Dr.Who's" of each nation.
    Some farms are more modern than others, while you will find in the Third World as some African or Asian tribes "cattle owners" live on the Animal Milk and Blood as vampires do while keeping the animal alive unhurt...

    July 11, 2011 at 7:50 pm |
  3. Hana

    It seems that many people commenting in here are confusing the fact that Inter-Faith and Inter-Cultural marriages are two separate things. Many cases have both, but not all. You can have American Christians marrying American Jews. You can have American convert Muslims marrying Arab Muslims. Or like in the article, you can have American Jews marrying Indian Hindus.

    I know of many cases where all 3 options have been done successfully. However, each one offers different and unique challenges. So, it depends on the personality of the people involved, their mutual respect for each other and where that person is coming from (and desire to learn enough to understand), and the depth of their faith and the rules of that faith in regards to marriage outside of the faith.

    My own family is a mixed bag. My blood family is mostly your average white Protestant Americans. My cousin is married to an Atheist Jew. My grandfather is married to a Mexican Catholic. I am a Muslim convert married to a Syrian Muslim. Lets see, we have Buddhists, Thai, Filipino, Jehovah's Witness, Mormon, non-religious, and more... and that does not get into life-styles.

    And the people, at least in my family, who make religion a larger part of their lives, are more likely to marry someone of the same faith, though possibly not of the same culture.

    For me, I know that I specifically wanted a Muslim husband because I converted of my own choice years before. I knew then that I wanted that shared foundation of faith. Yes, Islam forbids Muslim women from marrying non-Muslim men. But, in reality, I live in the US, I could have gotten a J.P. ceremony and not a religious one if I really wanted it. But, I did not want that. I wanted a man that I connected with in faith. Not just any Muslim either, but of the same school of thought and basic interpretations. Because it is such a large part of my life. Plus, there is enough challenges in marriage, especially to someone of another culture, that I did not need my faith to add to it.

    July 10, 2011 at 1:03 pm |
    • Muneef

      Hana.

      Very nice indeed sister and may God bless you and all family with happiness for the love the sure with other cultures and faiths...

      But let me ask about one thing among your words that was not clear for me;
      You said your friend was an "Atheist Jew" ?! Wonder if the word Jew is a Faith or a Race?
      Would it work to say "Atheist Christian" an "Atheist Muslim"....?!? Then maybe you become as "Christian Muslim" because you converted !! Am not sure that is right at all...it is either or...and can't have them both....

      July 10, 2011 at 7:34 pm |
    • Hana

      Muneef, salam Brother, it is my understanding that being Jewish/Hebrew is both a religion and an ethnic group. So, in my statement, I was emphasizing that he was born of the Jewish ethnic group (maybe my use of the phrase is not accurate) and will even participate in some traditions with his family, but he does not really believe in God or religion. Similar in practice with someone like Bill Maher, though my cousins husband is much less political.

      July 11, 2011 at 2:32 pm |
    • Muneef

      Hana.

      Thank you for explaining sister although did not sound right...

      July 11, 2011 at 3:10 pm |
  4. DiamondSky

    Muneef, read the Bible, the whole text itself. If you don't, you'll never get out of your own primitive-ness.

    July 10, 2011 at 5:12 am |
    • Muneef

      Think the Bible is more primitive than the Quran since it is older than it, so maybe you can bring your self forward if had read the Quran....

      July 10, 2011 at 7:19 am |
    • DiamondSky

      Muneef, I read enough portions of Qu'ran to understand the Bible is far more profound. You never even read a single chapter of the Bible. The Bible is the oldest and the most intelligent Book on earth. It talks about your prophets. Read the Bible like an honest man. God never allows humans to change His Word; stop blaspheming against God's will and His power and read the Bible.

      July 10, 2011 at 9:37 pm |
    • Peter

      Bias and prejudice like yours diamond sky is appalling, you need to respect others that are different than you or we will never have world peace.

      July 11, 2011 at 9:00 am |
    • Muneef

      Peter.
      Thank you for your stand which reflects the purity you have within you...

      Diamond sky.
      I do have a copy of one the Bibles in Arabic given to me by a Christian Missionary in my country whom I made friends with but have been hesitating to read it for personal reasons...but now that this was your way of convincing people to read it, I will make sure that I never read it ever because of your accusations and att-it-ude ...so think now by that you got God and Jesus happy with your ways with that... Thanks all the same...   

      July 11, 2011 at 3:40 pm |
  5. DiamondSky

    @Muneef, it's no use. Your Islamic land needs freedom of conscience for all (rights to choose or change belief systems), human rights, the equal rights of women and children same as men, and complete honesty with infidels. You can'y say stuff against the West because they were the most intelligent, helpful, civil and humane over all civilizations because of the Christian religion, though the present de-christianized secular West looks more like a trash can.

    July 10, 2011 at 5:09 am |
    • Muneef

      We are fine the way we are and you can keep your freedoms for your self because it is total madness and less respectful....

      July 10, 2011 at 7:21 am |
    • DiamondSky

      Muneef, I don't think young brides in your culture would say you are fine. You don't even have decent literacy rate. It's different when madness is forced against one's own will and madness is a free choice. Not everyone is mad in the West. You can choose not to be.

      July 10, 2011 at 9:33 pm |
    • DiamondSky

      Muneef, Muslims can create a better democracy than the West, if you grant freedom to infidels and to women and provide literacy to all. Lack of concept of freedom and equality is where you fall behind as a bad guy. I think boredom is bad to human brains as well as illiteracy is; you know Westerners weren't like the present con-di-tion before. I really liked them when they were normal and not bashing their own superior heritage.

      July 10, 2011 at 10:26 pm |
    • Hana

      What "Islamic land" are you talking about?

      July 11, 2011 at 2:55 pm |
    • Muneef

      Diamondsky.

      Told you before we are at a secular Islamic country but extreme people like you are the ones who gives a hard time to every one else including moderate Muslims...
      About literacy I might have not had the chance to be as educated as you are in English but that is not it is all about since there are other many things that man should have other than education which seemingly you missed having...

      Another thing is that am today feeling depressed due political situation is prolonging here in my country and am forced to dismiss staff I had for many years working for me so you see am not in the mood tonight to write much because I do not want that effects me into going off line with you or any one else... Thank you.

      July 11, 2011 at 3:28 pm |
    • Hana

      Muneef, brother, where are you? Insha'allah things will calm down soon.

      July 11, 2011 at 3:33 pm |
    • Muneef

      Sister Hana.
      Am in Yemen...the supposedly "Arabia Felix"...
      Just hope inshallah all becomes well soon otherwise we will be having the worse "Ramazan Fasting" ever due lack of fuels and food stuff...guess even that this year "Zakat" paid out to the poor and needy will be so much less since businesses had a hard time from the beginning of 2011 till date...! Guess all we have to say is "Alhamedlilah" for every thing and hope for the best to come...

      July 11, 2011 at 3:50 pm |
    • Hana

      Muneef, brother, I will make dua for Yemen as well, insha'allah. I already have been keeping the Middle East (in general) in my prayers, but I will specify Yemen for you brother. I understand what you are talking about though. My husband is in Damascus, he is worried about things too. And I have good friends in Egypt. Just remember, Ramadan may have more meaning this year. It will be hard, but if you focus on the lessons rather than the challenge, you could find more depth to it. People cause chaos, Allah provides strength, al-hamdulillah.

      July 11, 2011 at 3:58 pm |
    • Muneef

      Hana.

      Thank you so much sister and wish you all the best over there inshallah...may God as well give you strength since what you have surrounding you and your faith might prove as much trouble makers...
      Any way as you said Alhamedlilah for every test that we might pass through adding to our strength.Amen.

      July 11, 2011 at 7:04 pm |
    • Muneef

      Daimondsky.

      Just hope you understand my poor literacy here which I tried my best of ability to make it understandable for you;

      Let me remind you of one thing that you might have not thought of before.
      You must have read about the wars and killings between Catholics and Protestants when there were only Two of then Christian branches but now that you have more than Two branches and each claims to be with the right or true Church as can be noted from the words fights within several posts on these Religion blogs ...

      Guess now if you go back reading your history in Europe or in the MidEast you will remember that your ancestors were because of such wars and conflicts driven out or as a force measure took to migration overseas for finding a land were you can practice your religious or non religious beliefs and rituals...
      Since then from different world continents all over the years made of the few branches many more branches in Black and in White... Could you tell me way the majority or the extremes did not try to inforce it's beliefs and Church upon all although might do working towards that at overseas countries "Missionaries"  converting locals ?  

      Tell me why you have this fragile unity and democracy among you there on that land ?

      Guess old Islam was first even before they were the "Nazi's" the the "Communists" but today it is today the  "New Islam" that keeps you unite,abolishing slavery and made equal as it is today in Black and White !? 

      Guess always having a "Boogeyman" has been the only modern Secular way to control masses since no Bible here to get people follow forcibly as a security alert measures ... 

      Our existence as Muslims is your Branches and Secular Unity.  Your existence  as well has been to bring some unity among Islam branches or bloodlines.

      In such cases enemies should at least have respect towards each other after all we still in need of each other in business,trades,consumer markets...God knows what else for centuries no matter were the real pirates or bandits there and then all through ancient and modern history...

      Guess masses are just like Large Dairy Farms that are controlled and milked regularly for "Dr.Who's"worldwide,some are more modern than others while in the Third World as some african and asian tribes of "cattle owners" live by it's Milk and Blood as vampires do while keeping the animal alive...

      July 11, 2011 at 7:15 pm |
  6. Muneef

    The Bible, the Quran, and Science
    by Dr. Maurice Bucaille
    THE HOLY SCRIPTURES EXAMINED IN THE LIGHT
    OF MODERN KNOWLEDGE
    Translated from French
    by Alastair D. Pannell and The Author

    In his objective study of the texts, Maurice Bucaille clears' away many preconceived ideas about the Old Testament, the Gospels and the Quran. He tries, in this collection of Writings, to separate what belongs to Revelation from what is the product of error or human interpretation. His study sheds new light on the Holy Scriptures. At the end of a gripping account, he places the Believer before a point of cardinal importance: the continuity of a Revelation emanating from the same God, with modes of expression that differ in the course of time. It leads us to meditate upon those factors which, in our day, should spiritually unite rather than divide-Jews, Christians and Muslims.

    The results of his research into the Judeo-Christian Revelation and the Quran are set out in this book.
    http://www.islam-guide.com/bqs/
    -----

    The Bible,the Quran and Science .
    by
    Dr. Maurice Bucaille

    ------

    July 9, 2011 at 8:09 pm |
  7. Muneef

    Let me think ;
    -Segregation and separation of lands between Muslims and Hindus.
    -Today's example is the Segregation and separation of lands between Muslims and Christians (South/North).

    July 9, 2011 at 7:42 am |
    • Muneef

      Guess the eyes now are on Egypt to divide it between Muslims and Christians...!

      July 9, 2011 at 8:23 am |
    • DiamondSky

      Muneef, Muslims don't allow infidels any peace.

      July 9, 2011 at 9:49 am |
    • Muneef

      Yes of course the Eyes are on Syria as well to divide as an Islamic state and Charistian state...

      July 9, 2011 at 4:45 pm |
    • Muneef

      What surprises me is that Kashmiri land was left in the mouth of two parties fighting in it over it while Kashmiiries suffer the the bloodshed and damage losses...corruptions....

      Why they are not granted the right to declare independence from India and from Pakistan as one state of multiculture & religion understanding.... Kashmiries are lovely people and lovely country as a peace of Heavens on Earth turned today as Hell on Earth...Visit and read their wishes (I Love Kashmir & Kashmiries);
      http://www.kashmiri.com/

      July 9, 2011 at 5:01 pm |
    • Muneef

      DiamondSky
      You said; Muneef, Muslims don't allow infidels any peace.

      Have looked up the word infidel in my Oxford thesaurus and found those words if you meant them;
      Unbeliever,disbelievers,non-believer,agnostic,atheist,heathen,pagan,idolaters,idolatress,heretic, freethinker,dissenter,nonconformist; chiefly archaic a person who has no religion or whose religion is not that of majority...

      God knows how many of those above take Religions as undercover for their wickedness and evil intentions...non is perfect...

      What ever discrepancies taking place now is a new wave from the 90's otherwise left peacefully for centuries before but foreign intervention in affairs has arisen the vast interest of the greedy some to make them selves through producing conflicts and separation of states either under the name of religion or some secular systems...

      OK, if looked at it the other way as well, say what happens between secular ruling or opposition parties between them,are they allowing each other any peace? Football or American ball teams and their fans are they giving each other any peace? 
      There will always be a reason for the breakup in hostility against each other...

      Many nations have lived together in times of prosperity in peace and brotherhood...it is only at times of wars,fears,poverty that these indifference's arises into taking survival measures to outlive alarming situations imposed upon them by foreign elements and global corruption...    

        

      July 9, 2011 at 5:40 pm |
    • Muneef

      Diamondsky.

      [Divisions in our world – Not the Result of Religion-Karen Armstrong talks German journalist, Andrea Bistrich]  .
      Western people have a responsibility for everybody who is suffering in
      the world.
      The divisions in our world are not the result of religion or of
      culture, but are politically based.
      The three religions of Abraham - Judaism, Christianity and Islam -
      can and should be viewed as one religious tradition that went in three
      different directions.  
      (http://www.just-international.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=4081:divisions-in-our-world-are-not-the-result-of-religion&catid=45:recent-articles&Itemid=123)

      July 9, 2011 at 6:23 pm |
  8. DiamondSky

    Blended cultures please only Hindus and secularists, not true Jews, or true Catholics, or any other true religious.

    July 8, 2011 at 3:59 am |
  9. Joe Blow from Idaho is Gay

    Joe Blow from Idaho wants to marry his long time male partner. Just go to NYC, Joe. Buy the tickets. We know you want to. Do it!

    July 8, 2011 at 2:01 am |
  10. Muneef

    So you mean mankind will look like rainbow colors or there would be one dominant color out of this mix?

    July 7, 2011 at 8:58 pm |
  11. frank

    In 500 years, everybody will be a Ugandan-Chinese-Bengali hybrid.

    July 7, 2011 at 6:35 pm |
    • Muneef

      Islam has made that mix long time ago between nations of Islamic empires, as one pot for races mix as Muslims or non Muslims living under one rule of a Holy Book....that has today been separated from the state changing the rules and laws of the book into laws that far from it's lessons given about nations that preceded us in the history of mankind...why still we disbelieve every thing that the Holy Books tell us...when Archaeology has always revealed all that mentioned and support it's...occurrence...

      July 8, 2011 at 5:15 pm |
    • Muneef

      Some others made pots through inv-a-sions or sla-v-ery or mass ra-p-es or intermarriages....integration..

      Guess all MidEast and Arab countries are already a living example of this mix bloods or half casts...we are as a rainbow of colors speak the same language and worship the same God even if we had our minor paths indifference's as People of the Book whether Jew,Christian,Muslims...and God knows what of beliefs but we all live under one flag on a marked land that was open long time ago for people to travel and immigrate openly with out the need of visa or passport or iden-ti-fic-ations in the lands and seas of God....and now those premixes think that they make a race or blood...God had repeatedly reminded us in the Quran that all nations are nothing but a one nation made up by the few families that survived the floods with Noah on the Ark...again we are one nation being the nations that were derived from Abraham and on the beliefs of Abraham as "The People of the Holy Books..

      July 8, 2011 at 5:42 pm |
  12. GSA

    @Reality – great point, your best post ever in my opinion.

    July 7, 2011 at 6:26 pm |
    • BG

      Right. It's the New World Order – now available at most delusional liberal minds near you.

      Be sure to include an 'As Seen on TV' logo. It'll give it at least a little credibility.

      July 7, 2011 at 8:27 pm |
  13. Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

    Gosh, I'll bet Adelina's head is spinning at warp speed.

    July 7, 2011 at 4:46 pm |
    • DiamondSky

      Tom, thanks, dear, for remembering me. My family is quite international you don't need to worry about me. It's a noble thing to dream to be one with God, but it must be done in God's way. Fithy humans should not determine the Way by filthy imaginations. India needs Jesus.

      July 7, 2011 at 10:30 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Where IS that idiot translator ring?

      July 7, 2011 at 11:59 pm |
    • DiamondSky

      Tom, I'm commenting on Hinduism as you wished. Jesus is the Divine Savior – God Himself – who deserves undivided faith, according to God's Word. Human imaginations and human merits such as Hinduism does not work for salvation.

      July 8, 2011 at 3:57 am |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      You're just blabbering more of the usual. You don't know anything about other religions, or you'd be able to discuss them in detail. And even if you did, you don't speak English well enough to write anything that is remotely clear.

      July 8, 2011 at 12:05 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Oh, you're quite 'international"? Then how do you explain this little gem you posted, you idjit?

      DiamondSky:
      Blended cultures please only Hindus and secularists, not true Jews, or true Catholics, or any other true religious.

      July 8, 2011 at 12:07 pm |
    • DiamondSky

      Tom, the point is all earthling need the Gospel and Christian education. I don't have wrong respect to false cultures and false religions like idiotic secular Americans do. You think the pagans' stupid, primitive, harmful customs are amusing; only Christians try to rescue them and restore thier humanity in the truth of Jesus.

      July 9, 2011 at 12:59 am |
  14. Reality

    As the world converges religions and traditions into one global melting pot!!! It also helps to strengthen the blood lines and reduce inheritable diseases.

    July 7, 2011 at 4:16 pm |
  15. Fidei Coticula Crux

    Just goes to show you that love has no boundaries.

    July 7, 2011 at 3:33 pm |
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