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February 1st, 2012
02:41 PM ET

My Take: Inside our scary, society-destroying family

Editor’s Note: Marci Weis is the chief operating officer at a healthcare consulting and care management company in Washington.  She is pursuing a Masters in Divinity degree for ordained ministry in the United Church of Christ.  Weis and her lesbian partner have been together more than 20 years and they have two daughters.

Washington's Senate could vote as early as today on a bill that would allow gay marriage in the Evergreen State. A House vote is expected within days. If it passes both chambers, Gov. Christine Gregoire has promised to sign it into law.

By Marci Weis, Special to CNN

"Mama, if it doesn’t pass, will we still be able to be a family?"

Those were the words of my then-7-year-old daughter on the night of the 2009 election. Over the prior months, sides had been chosen, harsh words had been hurled from all fronts, battle lines drawn. Up for vote was a referendum on whether Washington state would allow gay and lesbian couples to have several of the rights and responsibilities of legally married heterosexual couples.

- CNN Belief Blog

Filed under: Christianity • Church and state • Homosexuality

soundoff (296 Responses)
  1. Monty

    I think any words can be twisted to a particular belief. I laugh at organized religion. I believe in my own god. I worship on my own, whenever I wish. What I dont do is bash others for not believing in MY god. I dont get on my soapbox and preach to a congregation and warn them they will go to hell if they do not believe as I do. If someone wants to be gay why does it matter to you? As an openly gay woman I could care less what others think of me. I am a warm caring, loving person and if you dont like me because I am gay, IT IS YOUR LOSS. There is too much hate and sadness in this world.

    February 26, 2012 at 8:08 pm |
  2. Portland tony

    I am not going to cite statistics, quote the lord, or an atheist etc....Just want to say after reading the entire article that these folks are just a loving family and we could do much worse in finding parents for these kids..Much worse!

    February 14, 2012 at 7:54 pm |
  3. Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

    Prayer changes things
    Prayer dispels doubters
    Prayer defeats disbelievers
    Prayer defies denial
    Prayer changes things

    February 2, 2012 at 7:09 pm |
    • Nope

      ~~The statistical studies from the nineteenth century and the three CCU studies on prayer are quite consistent with the fact that humanity is wasting a huge amount of time on a procedure that simply doesn’t work. Nonetheless, faith in prayer is so pervasive and deeply rooted, you can be sure believers will continue to devise future studies in a desperate effort to confirm their beliefs.~~

      February 2, 2012 at 7:11 pm |
    • stephen

      We have gone so far away as a nation from the truth that Jesus Christ alone has the power to save you. All other roads lead to Hell. the sad fact is many who die daily without becoming born again and surrendering their life to the lordship of Jesus are finding out as their souls are plunged into Hades. the place of torment and suffering. Then they wish they heeded the warnings of Jesus. Then they cry out for help. but they know there is no way out. It's too late. THey cannot return to life. The decision they made to to obey JEsus will be with them Throughout all eternity. Jesus came from heaven to earth to pay the price for sin. HE alone could satisy the Justice of God which required an pure innocent life for the guilty. HIs blood that was shed on calvary satisfied the Judgement. Please don't wait until it's too late. look up the life of JEsus Christ. Get the book the case for christ by lee strobel. Pray and ask God to reveal the truth to you. You can be forgiven for all your sins and begin a new life. Ask Jesus to forgive you. " if you confess that Jesus is lord and believe in your heart God raised him from the dead you will be saved. " we all have broken Gods commandments and the penalty is eternal death. But the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the Lord.

      February 6, 2012 at 2:45 am |
  4. Ni

    What happened to the rest of this article?

    February 2, 2012 at 9:32 am |
  5. Mike from CT

    CNN,
    What are you doing? You post a paragraph about a question asked by a 7-year old and pass it off as news worthy.

    February 2, 2012 at 9:18 am |
    • rick

      why does it bother you?

      February 2, 2012 at 10:25 am |
    • Mike from CT

      it just goes to the underlying sentiment in that CNN is more about creating / provoking reactions focusing on the involve portion more than the inform part of their mission statement.

      February 2, 2012 at 10:51 am |
    • rick

      Well, perhaps they are looking for participation.

      February 2, 2012 at 4:12 pm |
    • Ahem

      Mike from CT,

      This is the Opinion (/Belief) section - get it?

      Many newspapers and other news-related sites have them.

      February 2, 2012 at 4:18 pm |
    • Mike from CT

      Ahem,
      No I don't get it.... Are you really trying to say that the word Belief in Belief blog means opinion. I thought it was obvious that Belief referred to beliefs of faith (and yes that includes Atheism)

      February 3, 2012 at 8:17 am |
  6. Prior

    "Fear not the Ori, fear the darkness that would conceal the knowledge of the universe. Believe in the truth of all things, and you too may find the path to enlightenment."

    "Hallowed are we; hallowed are the Ori."

    February 2, 2012 at 9:03 am |
  7. Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

    Prayer changes things
    Prayer is talking with God
    Talk with God early and often
    Pray without ceasing
    Prayer changes things

    February 2, 2012 at 6:43 am |
    • Nope

      ~The statistical studies from the nineteenth century and the three CCU studies on prayer are quite consistent with the fact that humanity is wasting a huge amount of time on a procedure that simply doesn’t work. Nonetheless, faith in prayer is so pervasive and deeply rooted, you can be sure believers will continue to devise future studies in a desperate effort to confirm their beliefs.

      February 2, 2012 at 8:13 am |
    • jimtanker

      If you pray then make sure that you do it in your closet like the bible says:

      Matthew 6:5-6
      5And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.
      6But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.

      February 2, 2012 at 9:21 am |
    • Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

      Prayer changes things
      Prayer takes many Biblical forms
      Prayer is talking with God
      Prayer can be private
      Prayer can be corporate
      Prayer can be public
      Prayer can be political
      Prayer can be formal
      Prayer can be casual
      Prayer can be in public schools
      Prayer is not curtailed by the words of a man
      Prayer is never stopped by an unbeliever
      Prayer changes things

      February 2, 2012 at 2:37 pm |
    • Nope

      ~The statistical studies from the nineteenth century and the three CCU studies on prayer are quite consistent with the fact that humanity is wasting a huge amount of time on a procedure that simply doesn’t work. Nonetheless, faith in prayer is so pervasive and deeply rooted, you can be sure believers will continue to devise future studies in a desperate effort to confirm their beliefs.~

      February 2, 2012 at 2:37 pm |
  8. erussell

    Lesbian mommies are hot. I just whatched a show on skinamax about them. Theve got my vote.

    February 2, 2012 at 4:18 am |
    • RFBJR

      Really? Did you not see this chick's picture?

      February 2, 2012 at 1:46 pm |
  9. Bo

    The problem with atheists is: they want God to think the way they do; because they think they are wiser than God. If Atheists could gain complete control, the whole world would go to hell in a hand-basket–really quick! Pardon the intended pun. I believe that if it were possible to give atheists a country all their own, without any religious influence what so ever, they would destroy themselves rather quickly. They got’a remember there can be no LOVE for one another, because God is the author of love. And, by the way, it wouldn’t take a very big country.

    February 2, 2012 at 2:41 am |
    • Bo Hits The Nail Right Between The Eyes!

      Classic Bo idiocy: "atheists want the thing they don't believe in to think the way they do." That's some pretty fancy thinking you done there, Bo!

      "they think they are wiser than the thing they don't think exists." Bo is really on a roll with his brane-thunking stuff!

      "I believe that if it were possible to give atheists a country all their own,like Sweden or Denmark, without any religious influence what so ever, they would destroy themselves rather quickly, like Sweden and Denmark have, uh like they, uh, okay, they are advanced and prosperous with low rates of crime, but that is hell in a hand-basket if I ever heard it." Bo never fails to impress.

      "They got’a (sic) remember there can be no LOVE for one another, because God is the author of love, even though the Bible never says anything of the sort and there are lots of atheists in love and atheists whose love of humanity leads them to significant acts of charity, but nevermind that! Bo said it, so it must be true, no matter how incredibly ridiculous it sounds!"

      Praise be Bo and his amazing enlightenment! Clear as mud and half the calories!

      February 2, 2012 at 3:09 am |
    • TRH

      "If Atheists could gain complete control, the whole world would go to hell in a hand-basket–really quick! "

      You need a very long, serious session with some history books, my friend, specifically the history of the Catholic, and later the Protestant church in Europe. Start at about 380 CE when Christianity was made the state religion of Rome. You might also look at some recent history such as 9/11. It was not a group of atheists who flew those planes into the twin towers.

      I could make this response to your very unintelligent and ill-informed remark so long it would choke CNN's server. But I will only hope that you truly try to gain some knowledge about the world, humanity, and try common sense and tolerance while you're at it.

      Have a nice day.

      February 2, 2012 at 4:13 am |
    • rick

      bo: how can a person be smarter than a being which does not exist? perhaps you need to go home and get your shinebox

      February 2, 2012 at 9:31 am |
    • cmxsmitty

      Bo – atheists don't believe in God. Therefor, they don't think that God should think like them. Get it? They don't believe in God at all.

      Please read books other than your Bible. You're scaring us and something tells us that you've populated the earth.

      February 2, 2012 at 11:43 am |
    • sam

      The problem with christians is: they want God to think the way they do; because they think they are wiser than God. If christians could gain complete control, the whole world would go to hell in a hand-basket–really quick! Pardon the intended pun. I believe that if it were possible to give christians a country all their own, without any athiestic influence what so ever, they would destroy themselves rather quickly. They got’a remember there can be no LOVE for one another, because God is the author of love. And, by the way, it wouldn’t take a very big country.

      Douch.e

      February 2, 2012 at 3:56 pm |
  10. The Phist

    Religion destroys lives.

    February 2, 2012 at 12:42 am |
    • peggy

      True but God helps lives.

      February 2, 2012 at 1:19 am |
    • Atheism is not good for people who want to pretend they have an invisible friend in the sky

      Prayer helps delusions

      February 2, 2012 at 1:30 am |

    • Prayer changes things
      Prayer changes lives

      February 2, 2012 at 1:34 am |
    • Atheism is not good for people who want to pretend they have an invisible friend in the sky

      All the prayers on 9/11 stopped the carnage

      All the prayers by cancer patients stopped the disease

      Prayer works, if you are psychotic enough to believe it

      February 2, 2012 at 1:40 am |
  11. Reality

    Only for the newbies:

    "Abrahamics" believe that their god created all of us and of course that includes the g-ay members of the human race. Also, those who have studied ho-mo-se-xuality have determined that there is no choice involved therefore ga-ys are ga-y because god made them that way.

    To wit:

    o The Royal College of Psy-chiatrists stated in 2007:

    “ Despite almost a century of psy-choanalytic and psy-chological speculation, there is no substantive evidence to support the suggestion that the nature of parenting or early childhood experiences play any role in the formation of a person’s fundamental heteros-exual or hom-ose-xual orientation. It would appear that s-exual orientation is biological in nature, determined by a complex interplay of ge-netic factors and the early ut-erine environment. Se-xual orientation is therefore not a choice.[60] "
    "Garcia-Falgueras and Swaab state in the abstract of their 2010 study, "The fe-tal brain develops during the intraut-erine period in the male direction through a direct action of tes-tosterone on the developing nerve cells, or in the female direction through the absence of this hor-mone surge. In this way, our gender identi-ty (the conviction of belonging to the male or female gender) and s-exual orientation are programmed or organized into our brain structures when we are still in the womb. There is no indication that social environment after birth has an effect on gender ident–ity or s-exual orientation."[8

    See also the Philadelphia Inquirer review “Gay Gene, Deconstructed”, 12/12/2011. Said review addresses the following “How do genes associated with ho-mose-xuality avoid being weeded out by Darwinian evolution?”

    Of course, those gays who belong to Abrahamic religions abide by the rules of no adu-ltery or for-nication allowed.

    And because of basic biology differences said monogamous ventures should always be called same-se-x unions not same-se-x marriages.
    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    February 2, 2012 at 12:38 am |
    • ......

      reality response? hit report abuse

      February 2, 2012 at 6:41 am |
  12. Nick

    Wow, I can't believe the world hasn't grasped this. The Bible FORBIDS being gay. What is the problem here? Just because it isn't politically correct doesn't mean it's not religiously correct. My mind goes to Dietrich Bonhoeffer and his anger at politics and religion becoming one. Romans 1:26-27. You have to ask for forgiveness.

    February 1, 2012 at 11:34 pm |
    • O.S. Bird

      Wow, I can't believe there are those who cannot accept the fact that very, very many people aren't Christians and don't give a hoot about what Christians believe. You'd think Christians invented religion and ideals like "Be good to people" and "Don't nail people up on trees"

      February 2, 2012 at 12:25 am |
    • EndTheHate

      Romans 2:1
      1)You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.

      February 2, 2012 at 2:29 am |
    • bigot

      "The Bible FORBIDS being gay. What is the problem here?"

      The problem is that the bible was written by fallible human beings and not god. The fact that you follow the words of humans and believe that those are gods words is laughable. Thank you for your bigotry

      February 2, 2012 at 8:54 am |
    • rick

      You ask for forgiveness, Nick, we are not bound by your arcane stories

      February 2, 2012 at 9:43 am |
    • rick

      Do you decry politics and religion becoming one? If so, why do you wish that government has it's hand in determining who gets married?

      February 2, 2012 at 9:47 am |
    • myweightinwords

      The world is not Christian, Nick.

      In fact, even the US is not Christian, Nick.

      Those of us who do not believe as you do are not affected by what you believe. My faith teaches that all acts of Love are divine and sacred. My Gods bless the unions of men and women, men and men, women and women.

      If your God doesn't, that's your problem. Not mine.

      February 2, 2012 at 10:31 am |
    • Yo!

      Yo Nick guess what they added the word homosexual later to that section, it was really about male prostitution. So your bible doesn't condemn gay people.

      February 2, 2012 at 1:58 pm |
    • sam

      Wow, it's hard to believe that not everyone is subject to that very old tome...that is misquoted all the time.

      February 2, 2012 at 3:58 pm |
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