My Take: Top 5 myths about American Muslims’ love lives
February 14th, 2012
01:25 PM ET

My Take: Top 5 myths about American Muslims’ love lives

Editor's note:  Ayesha Mattu, an international development consultant, and Nura Maznavi, an attorney, are the co-editors of "Love, InshAllah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women."

By Ayesha Mattu and Nura Maznavi, Special to CNN

A lot has been written about Muslim women, but very little of it has been written by Muslim women ourselves.

The sensational stories — child brides, forced marriages, honor killings — always get the headlines, but nowhere do we see the stories of the independent, opinionated and hilarious Muslim women we know.

We decided to change that.

Starting five years ago, we asked fellow American Muslim women to share their stories of searching for love. We chose the topic because love is a deeply intimate yet universal emotion — and one not usually associated with Muslims.

We received 200 submissions in response to our call for stories, which we broadcast via social media and email.

Twenty five of the best submissions form our new book, “Love InshAllah,” which means “God willing” in Arabic and expresses the idea that it’s only through the will of God that we attain what we seek in life.

Taken together, the stories offer a portrait of the millions of Muslims in America, which represents the most diverse Muslim community on the planet. It includes families whose roots go back to the founding of our nation and immigrants from every country imaginable.

While compiling the book, we ran head-on into lots of myths about the love lives of American Muslim women. Here are the top 5:

1. Muslim women marry men their parents choose for them.

While some women do meet their husbands through their parents, Islam gives women the final say over whether or not to marry that person. Family plays a strong role in the lives of many American Muslim women, but the majority who submitted contributions to our book did not meet their partners through family recommendations.

The women of “Love InshAllah” fall in love at college and work, online and through mutual friends. One writer, Angela Collins Telles, met a handsome and mysterious stranger while traveling in Argentina, had a whirlwind romance, got married and now lives in Brazil with her husband their two sons. Not exactly an arranged marriage.

2. All arranged marriages are loveless.

For many of us, the idea of marrying someone you are not in love with is shocking. It brings to mind images of a couple bound together for life by duty, not love. Aisha Saeed writes about meeting a young man on the recommendation of her mother and, within six weeks, deciding to marry him.

If that seems foreign, consider that she bases her decision on their mutual chemistry after discussing shared values, passions and goals. They’re the same factors most of us consider when choosing a lifelong partner, albeit usually over longer periods of dating.

Though Saeed may not have been “in love” with him in the conventional sense on their wedding day, a decade of married life later they are madly in love with each other, with a love that continues to grow deeper over time.

Saeed chose her partner on the lasting qualities of mutual respect and kindness and they have built a beautiful life together.

3. Muslim women who wear the hijab are repressed or asexual.

Throughout history, the lives and bodies of Muslim women have been politicized.

We are either hypersexualized — think belly dancers and harems — or thought to be desexualized, as though wearing a scarf on our heads extinguishes all feelings of love or desire, and our very agency over our lives.

In “Love, InshAllah,” writers who wear hijab challenge that notion. Whether they are recently divorced and miss the sexual intimacy of a relationship, single and tempted by their hot personal trainers, or discovering the joys of a new relationship through the sweetness of holding hands for the very first time, Muslim women who cover share the love and longing of all women.

4. There is no such thing as a gay Muslim.

Actually, there is. Not only are there gay Muslims, some of them are deeply orthodox, with faith playing a central role in their lives. Two of our writers relate very different experiences of being gay Muslims — one from a secular background, the other from an orthodox perspective.

The surprises don’t end there. The more secular writer comes out to her strict Muslim parents and is accepted, while the more orthodox woman has not yet come out to her non-Muslim family. In the end, a parent’s reaction has less to do with his or her family’s religious affiliation and more to do with individual family cultures, communication and dynamics.

5. Muslim women are unable to escape unhappy marriages.

Muslim women have had the right to divorce for the past 1,400 years. That is not to say it has always been easy, or that cultural or legal impediments have not existed. The same barriers that prevent many of us from moving on from a bad relationship – fear of being alone, children, or economic issues – come into play for Muslim women, too.

But many of the writers in “Love InshAllah” write openly about unhappy marriages and eventually leave them behind. They find love on the second — or even third — time around.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Ayesha Mattu and Nura Maznavi.

- CNN Belief Blog

Filed under: Islam • Opinion

soundoff (478 Responses)
  1. Josh

    Being Gay is death penalty and/or severe penalty in almost every single Muslim country.... don't know what these two Muslim girls are talking about....

    A friend of mine who is Christian met a Muslim girl at school, when the parents knew she was dating a Christian guy, they threatened the guy and told him to leave his daughter, otherwise they would kill him.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:29 pm |
  2. NJ

    LOL this article is to inform people of how "peaceful" and "loving" Islam is..... LOL only stupid people believe in this.
    Yes, there are few modern Muslims out there who are good, but the majority of 1.6 billion Muslims are all brainwashed and terrible. Just look at all Islamic countries (Turkey an exception)

    February 14, 2012 at 7:25 pm |
    • hj

      look at what muslim countries?? i grew up in the middle east -QATAR and now i live in India a secular democracy but i had the best time of my life ,growing up in Qatar,i think u should go and live there before making assumptions, its silly to bind all the countries together and dont rely too much on TV and newspapers for facts, if i take what i read about the us of a seriously i would never ever want to go there,the west does have enough evils of its own.......

      February 16, 2012 at 12:23 am |
  3. Tom

    Wow, earth shattering opinion piece written by a muslim.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:24 pm |
  4. Whitney Vang

    Okay, CNN, take this whole article and publish it in Arabic on CNN Arabic. Bloggers need to take this sentence: "There is no such thing as a gay Muslim. Actually, there is." – Translate it into Arabic, Urdu, Persian, etc. and post it online everywhere. No matter what anyone says, even if he/she uses a Quran quote, the sentence "There is no such thing as a gay Muslim. Actually, there is. is correct.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:24 pm |
  5. midogs2

    I went to the movie and watched 'The Vow' today. I don't see that here at this forum.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:21 pm |
    • David

      Great point.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:29 pm |
  6. Halo of Flies

    The vestiges of pagan religion in Christian symbolism are undeniable. Egyptian sun disks became the halos of Catholic saints. Pictograms of Isis nursing her miraculously conceived son Horus became the blueprint for our modern images of the Virgin Mary nursing Baby Jesus. And virtually all the elements of the Catholic ritual – the miter, the altar, the doxology, and communion, the act of "God-eating" – were taken directly from earlier pagan mystery religions.

    Nothing in Christianity is original. The pre-Christian God Mithras – called the Son of God and the Light of the World – was born on December 25, died, was buried in a rock tomb, and then resurrected in three days. By the way, December 25 is also the birthday or Osiris, Adonis, and Dionysus. The newborn Krishna was presented with gold, frankincense, and myrrh. Even Christianity's weekly holy day was stolen from the pagans.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:20 pm |
    • Josh

      You are a troll moron. What does Christianity have to do with this article?
      Go spread your false facts somewhere else !

      February 14, 2012 at 7:31 pm |
    • TrueReality

      Wow, all that is so far away from any reliable scholarship and reality itself that it's utterly laughable.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:36 pm |
    • Halo of Flies


      You do know that Muslims belief in Jesus too right? It applies to all religions, not just Christianity. Open your eyes to the truth if you want to. If you don't, you don't.

      You are funny, how can "facts" be "false"? And you call me a moron? What is false about what I wrote?

      February 14, 2012 at 7:38 pm |
    • Halo of Flies

      What points do you disagree with?

      February 14, 2012 at 7:39 pm |
    • TrueReality

      No, Muslims do not "belief" in Jesus the same way that Christians do. Muslims see Jesus as a prophet, but deny his divinity, which is the cornerstone of Christian theology.

      As for what I disagree with, all of it except the halo bit – that was a common iconographic device throughout Mediterranean cultures to indicate glory or deity in some way. And it is obvious that Christianity "Christianized" certain elements of pagan culture as it spread, such as designating December 25 as Christmas, as the real date of Jesus' birth is unknown. As for the rest, I challenge you to present one reliable source for any of it.

      Horus was not the son of Isis in any virgin birth, he was the son of Isis and Osiris. The Christian altar comes from Jewish tradition and the tabernacle/temple culture, not from pagan cults. Communion is likewise not from such cults; it is based on the traditional Jewish celebration of Passover, specifically the Seder dinner.

      As for everything you say concerning Mithras, Osiris, Adonis, and Krisha, I again challenge you to produce one credible source attesting any of that.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:51 pm |
    • Halo of Flies


      But.....you want credible evidence?? You want me to prove it? But I have faith that it is all true. Isn't that enough? My faith is strong! Why would I need any evidence when I have faith?

      February 14, 2012 at 7:56 pm |
    • TrueReality

      Oh, if you have faith in Mithras or Osiris, that's freedom of religion. But your answer is answer enough, that you're just talking complete nonsense to troll.

      Also, one crucial difference between all those you mentioned and Jesus: none of them have any sort of place in history. All those stories take place in the undefined depths of time. Jesus, however, was born when Caesar Augustus ordered a census, Quirinius was governor of Syria, and Herod the Great was king in Judea. He was crucified when Pontius Pilate was governor, Herod Antipas was tetrarch in Galilee, and Tiberius was emperor in Rome. This occurred in a specific time in history, not as an ambiguous god-myth. Jesus' life and the early growth of Christianity is attested to in sources other than the Bible, as well, including Josephus, Pliny, Tacitus, Seutonius, and the Talmud.

      February 14, 2012 at 8:06 pm |
    • Halo of Flies

      Sorry, I don't see your point. History that took place prior to Jesus does not count as history? Do you know how long modern humans have walked this planet??

      February 14, 2012 at 8:26 pm |
    • TrueReality

      The point is that we know when and where Jesus lived. You can't say that about any of those others you mentioned, or that they ever existed at all.

      February 14, 2012 at 8:39 pm |
    • Halo of Flies

      I know where and when my friends. neighbors, family, etc. live. SO?

      February 14, 2012 at 9:24 pm |
  7. FlanneryMaple

    More islam love from CNN. They speak harshly against all religions, with the exception of islam. They praise it, worship it, and try to make their readers worship it too. Why would you promote the worst religion of all of them, time and time again? Even non religious folks realize islam is the worst major religion there is. What garbage.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:10 pm |
    • Haas

      So what is your religion (I assume, you have the best one) ?

      February 14, 2012 at 7:23 pm |
    • FlanneryMaple

      None. Used to be, no longer, haven't followed a religion for years.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:27 pm |
    • David

      Interesting opinion.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:30 pm |
    • Asimj

      Agreed. Islam is the worst. Any other religion is at least 100 times better

      February 14, 2012 at 7:31 pm |
    • Portland tony

      You're sure? CNN has more articles addresing Evangelicals, Catholics and Mormons than any news source I've seen. Very few on the Muslim religion. After all, there are more than a billion three Muslims so they gotta write something about them!

      February 14, 2012 at 7:40 pm |
    • FlanneryMaple

      Yes I am positive, that is why I said what I said in my original post. They bash nearly every major religion, but never bash islam. I frequent the site hourly, and every day. If you do, you will see what I am talking about.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:49 pm |
  8. zzzz

    he he....liberal Muslim......

    February 14, 2012 at 7:05 pm |
  9. Jim Stanek

    What a condescending article. We are not all racist, ignorant white men with no cultural sensitivity. I seriously felt as if the authors thought readers of CNN.com were all boorish, brutish Christian Franks during the time of the Crusades. Someone should write a counter-article, about how most non-Muslims do NOT hold these stereotypes, or "myths" about Muslim women, contrary to the belief apparently held by many Muslim women. Albeit there are an awful lot of non-Muslims who do hold these stereotypes, but they sure as hell will not be swayed one iota by this article. Nor will they ever vote for Obama, because they are convinced he is a Muslim. Any good Muslim (or Christian, for that matter) would never publicly claim to be a member of one religion while secretly practicing another- it just goes against the basic tenets of their respective faiths. Obama claims every week to be a Christian, something that Osama bin Laden would NEVER have done. And I absolutely despise the authors' attempts to soften the blow of some of the topics they discuss. Instead of saying "arranged marriage" they refer to it as marriage "on the recommendation" of the woman's parents. Bull. Just tell it as it is, unless you are afraid that doing so will alienate even more non-Muslims. I have many Muslim co-workers, classmates, and friends, and have never, for the last 20 years, held these preconceptions about Muslim women in America. The authors' time would be better used to tell people, "make friends with a Muslim and GET TO KNOW THEM" rather than trying to change the readers' perceptions of Muslims via condescending, politically correct propoganda such as this article.

    February 14, 2012 at 7:04 pm |
    • Abdul Ravi

      I agree with you, Jim. Being a Muslim man in America, I find this article very offensive as well. It seems to imply that much of the world views American Muslim men in a negative light. This may be true, to some degree, but I don't need people like these authors trying to change people's minds. As you said, just GET TO KNOW ME, and you will see a big difference as to any preconceptions you may have had. I have a wife and three kids, I do not wear a beard, and work as a corporate lawyer in downtown Los Angeles. And p.s., I have no plans to blow up LAX. For God's sake, it's time for people to stop viewing us as victims and start getting to know us as people. This article does nothing to further that goal. May you be blessed, my brother.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:09 pm |
    • BG

      " condescending, politically correct propoganda..." vrs. what, the truth?

      For their purposes, propaganda would seem to be the wise choice. And better they avoid the whole 'honor killing' issue – that one's soooo hard to obfuscate without looking completely foolish.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:12 pm |
    • BG

      @ Abdul

      "it's time for people to stop viewing us as victims..."

      Trust me. Not a problem.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:16 pm |
    • Abdul Ravi

      @BG: and what is "the truth" in your opinion, BG? Can there be more than one in your opinion? I would like to discuss this further with you, but I am afraid you have already taken an antagonistic stance, and may not be open to "honest" dialogue. As Neitzche put it: “The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently.” I hope you would like to dialogue more, but understand well if you would not or cannot at this point in your life. May you be blessed.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:22 pm |
    • JustinFromNJ

      @Abdul Ravi "Being a Muslim man in America, I find this article very offensive as well.....And p.s., I have no plans to blow up LAX"

      The fact that you said this (and felt the need to say this) underlines the need for articles like this. In many parts of the nation, the average person, even though they in fact are good people, believes these things about Muslims. If some of these people read this and start to question their ill-founded beliefs that would be a great step forward for this country.

      Even though you live in California, which in general has a much higher level of acceptance of minorities (including Muslims) compared to the rest of the nation, you still said as a closing statement that you have no plans to blow up LAX.

      My point is that you should not have to justify your religious beliefs by saying that you are a Muslim who has no plans to attack America or its citizens. You shouldn't have to say, "I'm a Muslim.....but despite that fact I am not a terrorist".

      February 14, 2012 at 7:53 pm |
    • BG

      There is no point in dialogue other than to play the inevitable 'thrust and parry' of Muslim insincerity against objectivity, words against deeds, the contradictory against the obvious. Islam stands on it's own merits around the world. You want respect? Fix your religion. The problem is that this really isn't practical, is it? You're not allowed to establish 'denominations' of Islam. It's mandated to be an all or nothing proposition. Therein the real problem lies – beyond the camouflage of "peace and tolerance." What exactly is the 'real Islam?' Is it as the women in this article describe? It is allowed to be 'watered-down' so as to become palatable to western tastes? Of course not, but as it serves a purpose, so be it. The gullible will accept it at face value. Those of us that have listed to Ms's. Hirsi Ali and Sultan know otherwise.

      So please, Abdul – don't object, as your complaints would only be made transparent by the continued behaviors of your Islamic 'membership' both here and overseas. Their rhetoric is empty, and their objections insincere. Saudi money has infiltrated too many influential American insti tutions not to have had a demonstrably (ill) effect. "Creeping sharia?" Of course. Everywhere from Dearborn, Michigan to Columbia University and then back to Minnesota. Pushing Halal for everyone in schools, separate pool hours in public facilities, restriction of freedom of speech, Islamic toilets and foot baths etc... the list is very long, and it stinks of something we've seen before – apartheid.

      No, Abdul – I'm afraid we're way beyond 'dialogue.' There's no point, especially as I've developed this serious aversion to lies.

      February 14, 2012 at 8:20 pm |
    • Abdul Ravi

      @BG, you speak for yourself and much of the nation. May your heart find peace apart from racism, fear, insecurity and hate. And may you someday find peace in the life hereafter. Please stop fueling the stereotypes and hatred of Muslims throughout the Middle East and beyond by perpetuating your racism, bigotry, and hate-filled speech. "Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." Neitzsche.

      @JustinFromNJ: you are right sir. BG has proven your point and driven a stake through the heart for any Muslim's hope of a tolerant and open-minded America, at least on this message board. What a sad, spiritless person to feel the need to write the things he did. No wonder so many Muslims in the Middle East hate America. They must have heard of BG, or at least read his posts.

      February 15, 2012 at 7:46 pm |
    • BG

      "...you speak for yourself and much of the nation."
      I do what I can in my own modest way...

      "May your...racism, fear, insecurity and hate and racism, bigotry, and hate-filled speech... from a sad, spiritless person."
      Straight from the Muslim playbook; I'd expect no different a response. When you have no rational argument to offer in response to objective observations, you're relegated to character attacks. It's the same theme, applied repeatedly to those with whom you disagree, whether it be from bloggers such as myself, or the critiques of national commentators such as Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Wafa Sultan, Bob Spencer, or ~~ shudder~~ the biggest 'bigot' of them all, that 'hate-filled Jewess', Pam Geller.

      "Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." Neitzsche"
      That would be the same Neitzsche who was openly and exclusively critical of Christianity and Judaism? Sure, that's him... the syphilitic psychotic. One in the same.

      "BG has proven your point and driven a stake through the heart for any Muslim's hope of a tolerant and open-minded America, at least on this message board."
      Shucks. I think you're giving me far too much credit. I'm just another contributor trying to clear the air of the fog of Islamic propaganda. But thanks nonetheless.

      "No wonder so many Muslims in the Middle East hate America. They must have heard of BG, or at least read his posts."
      Burdening under the oppressive yoke of fame... yep, that's me alright.

      February 15, 2012 at 9:23 pm |
  10. Flex

    It's not gonna work folks......

    February 14, 2012 at 6:55 pm |
  11. HRPuckinfutz

    These women are relating information regarding Muslims in America. But what about Muslims in the rest of the World? Do those women share the same stories?

    February 14, 2012 at 6:55 pm |
    • Sarah

      Well, since Muslims make up 1 in 4 people in the world, roughly 1 in 8 people in the world is a Muslim women, it may be hard to generalize ALL of their views and romantic notions.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:09 pm |
    • noneofyobusiness

      Yeah biggest gap here. I coudl careless about the Muslims here. Most are the same as Christians/Mormons/Jewish etc. They all follow a religion as best they can, but get pulled back by their own urges. Duh that's called temptation and its mentioned in every book for a reason.

      I'd be much more interested to see how quickly a Saudi woman is put to death for saying any of these things. Even Iran woudl be interesting they are a bit more tolerant.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:21 pm |
  12. Eric

    OK I believe you. Now please all of you go back to the ancestral rock pile because we do not want you here. Go and live by yourselves in the Middle Ages and take your precious oil with you.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:54 pm |
    • collins61

      I really must agree.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:09 pm |
  13. akash

    Wrong, wrong wrong,this is all about wrong research and trying to underestimate the religion, trying to proof that there has no respect and right in islam for woman..totaly wrong !! before any coment we make we need to know the true islam ..true islam means need to know Quran deeply.. not to follow or giving example what some uneducated muslims does and how they treat muslims women..thats not the true face of islam.In my knowlegde as i know women has same right as man every part of their life .. love is the most and first condition of this religion , love your wife, love your kids ,love your neighbor, love and help poor even your enemy win their heart with love .remember God(Allah) created human with his love .Actually islam protect woman with marriage and family .There as no such a region said to sleep around before marriage .whatever those cruel islamic rules we see in these days , those all each indivitual muslim countries social structure and individual extrimist.so please don,t try to fabricated negative way to make this religion bad.. honesty all region for peace ..all religious respect woman. because all those religious and holy book sent by god time after time , look the history .Not the hate ,love and thats the word should be in this valentine day.and this is the beauty of being a human , because if you are all not live peacefully this god created world will not exits..

    February 14, 2012 at 6:49 pm |
    • BG

      Who, exactly, are you trying so hard to convince?

      February 14, 2012 at 6:53 pm |
    • yomama

      The only reason to go through the effort to understand the Quran or any religious text would be if there is some solid evidence that it is not just superstitious nonsense from ancient ignorant peasants.

      Supply the evidence.

      Otherwise, it would be as beig a waste of time as trying to deeply understand leprechauns – who have the same level of proof as Allah, by the way.

      Supply the evidence that your religion is true ans the others false. The Quran is not evidence, any more than the Bible or the Book of Mormon or the Ancient Egyptian Book of the Dead is.

      February 14, 2012 at 6:58 pm |
  14. LC

    Multiple wives – this story missed a point and this takes place in the U.S. My friend, who is an educated Sunni Muslim, was the only wife of her husband. But her friend -also in the U.S.- had her husband take a second wife here. While this is not legal by American law they did not file a second marriage license, only had the mosque perform the ceremony so the marriage is not recognized by U.S. law but is by their faith. The first wife sadly told us, "You know when you get a new dress? You don't want the old dress in the closet..." She and her children are now neglected by his absence and living with less while her husband keeps company in another house he bought to keep his new wife. She doesn't feel like she can say or do anything because according to their faith he is not unfaithful. I am deeply saddened for them and don't think that one husband can keep from playing favorites among wives, which has to be humiliating and painful. In some other cases the wives live together but do not get along – not exactly a consensual happy arrangement.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:48 pm |
    • Ally

      As a family law attorney, your story is off. The woman has full grounds for divorce her in the US, especially because she doesn't even need them since we have something called, "no fault divorce".

      Further, mormons? Sister wives?

      February 14, 2012 at 7:13 pm |
    • jackie

      uh...well...a book on the so called awfulness of polygyny is another book in and of itself, but goodness you generalize way too much and soon. read the book-there IS a story of polygyny; a perty one. 😉

      February 14, 2012 at 7:32 pm |
  15. martin

    more lies to feed to the stupid american public. 1 out of 10 muslim women in the world can even read! Total bs article, nothing but lies and propoganda! Islam is a disease and should be wiped off the face of the earth.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:46 pm |
    • JLS639

      So, 10% of Muslim women worldwide are illiterate? The worldwide illiteracy rate is about 15%... So if what you say is true, then Muslim women are more literate (90% rate) than the world population as a whole (85%).

      February 14, 2012 at 6:54 pm |
    • Gesus

      Well Martin...you CAN'T even write. I will say that the Iranian family across the street has cops at there house a couple times a year, and the wife is now moving back to Iran. She was a mail order bride a couple of years ago. Oh, and she is leaving both her kids here. So much for family first.

      February 14, 2012 at 6:56 pm |
    • THE POPE

      Ans you can't write , " 1 out of 10 muslim women in the world can even read" this sentence does NOT make sense in your comment.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:17 pm |
    • hj

      may ALLAH guide you.....ameen...

      February 16, 2012 at 12:36 am |
  16. ktown8

    Another article from CNN to try and convince Americans that Muslim are really just like us and don't want our values and lives wiped off this earth. Granted, there may be a very small sect of Muslims that love America, but I think it's safe to say the vast majority hate everything about us.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:46 pm |
  17. organically

    25% of America believes that President Obama is Muslim. He is Baptist. If you are in the 25%, you are knucklehead.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:40 pm |
    • Josh

      His father was Muslim..... Obama is to be honest secular non-Christian; he claim to be Christian otherwise he would have NO chance to be president.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:32 pm |
  18. yomama


    February 14, 2012 at 6:39 pm |
    • yomama


      February 14, 2012 at 6:47 pm |
  19. thes33k3r

    Good grief. Islam is arguably the most oppressive system of thought on the planet with regards to women and here we have brainwashed women defending it as if it is a beacon of Western enlightenment. Please. Here's an idea. Find real freedom by leaving your religious beliefs behind and joining the 21st century.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:38 pm |
    • organically


      February 14, 2012 at 6:41 pm |
    • thes33k3r

      @organic Is that it? Someone posts something critical about your cherished beliefs and your full argument is to call them a bigot? Relgion is evil and a force for destruction. Grow up and accept it.

      February 14, 2012 at 6:49 pm |
    • jackie

      arguably? honey, you'd lose that one when faced with both the holy scripture and numbers of western white people (supposedly the free-est and most envied in the world) choosing to join and 'submit' to Islam.

      February 14, 2012 at 7:34 pm |
    • nice

      Not having religious beliefs puts you in the minority not majority. It's completely natural to be a person of faith and unnatural not to. So you need to ask yourself what is it that you lack inside to know that their is a spiritual dimension to life that is outside of our own doing. You don't need religion to tell you there is a God after all everyone has a natural feeling that there is something bigger then them when they are born but it's culture, upbringing and information as apposed to knowledge that changes people. Even when the USSR fell they found 90% of the people actually believed in God despite the efforts of the government push atheism. If their is a God or force greater then us then then "what does he want" and "what is the purpose of creation" is a natural and easy to answer question that will come with that line of thinking. a good lecture on youtube answers that question in a easy and clear undisputed way for the educated. search" Purpose Of Life part 1 Khalid Yaseen " on youtube.

      February 14, 2012 at 8:06 pm |
  20. Guest

    The article says myths about AMERICAN Muslims' love lives. NOT all Muslims' love lives. I'm not sure why there are people trying to point out the discrepancy when the article clearly states that it is only talking about American Muslims.

    February 14, 2012 at 6:37 pm |
    • Singao



      February 14, 2012 at 6:45 pm |
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