My Take: Contraception politics makes good works difficult
The author has struggled to get contraception coverage from her Catholic employer.
March 16th, 2012
12:12 PM ET

My Take: Contraception politics makes good works difficult

Editor’s note: The writer was granted anonymity because of concerns this piece could jeopardize her employment.

By Anonymous, Special to CNN

I love the good works my job at a Catholic nonprofit group enables me to do, advocating for the poor, hungry, sick and homeless.

My passion for these issues comes from Catholic social teaching. From my Catholic grammar school to my Catholic high school, I absorbed these teachings into my DNA. As I came into adulthood at a Catholic university, my commitment to social justice guided me.

The most profound declaration of faith I can make is practicing the Catholic teachings about human dignity and about what my faith calls the “preferential option for the poor” in my everyday life.

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My work brings attention to people who don’t have corporate lobbyists representing them in government. I advocate for people too often talked at or about, not to, and never with, by the elite and powerful.

But I’ve come to realize that women are excluded from the Catholic notion of social justice, specifically the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops’ understanding of social justice.

The bishops don’t understand women or biology. They understand power and control. They have become lobbyists in robes exerting influence in Washington and every state capital.

They are detached from the real life challenges facing women who sit faithfully in their pews, serving their churches, and millions like me who’ve rejected their power and control in order to keep the most important parts of our faith.

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The politically powerful bishops want to control access to contraception, portraying themselves as victims of the new federal healthcare law’s policy that provides free birth control coverage to women.

My work brings me in touch with people for whom the word “victim” has real meaning. The bishops aren’t victims. They’ve created a political charade based on invented threats to religious liberty.

What about my religious liberty and that of my co-workers? Real religious liberty gives everyone the right to make personal decisions, including whether to use birth control, based on our own beliefs.

And what about our health? When a colleague with a cancer-causing condition at my Catholic nonprofit needed contraception for her treatment last year, she didn’t know where to turn. Our employer doesn’t provide access to contraception, and she couldn’t afford the medication. Her condition got worse.

After months of waiting for permission from our employer, she was finally granted contraception coverage, and her condition improved. But she suffered needlessly in the interim.

Another co-worker, we learned, was paying $90 a month out-of-pocket for the contraception she needs to treat her polycystic fibrosis. That’s a significant monthly expense, especially considering “the pill” is the most commonly prescribed drug for women.

HR told us we had to ask permission of the agency’s CEO on a case-by-case basis. It reminded me of when I first got my period at age 12. My cramps were so bad that my pediatrician recommended contraception.

I had to ask my father’s permission. The only difference today is my colleagues and I aren’t young girls; the CEO isn’t our father.

Recently, I learned that I needed contraception for dysmenorrhea, and I thought my work helping my colleagues get contraception coverage meant I would have an easier time.

Instead, I had to explain my personal medical situation to a man in HR, which is embarrassing for any woman.

When I received special permission from the men in control to get medication to take care of my health – to live according to my beliefs – I requested that the agency develop protocols so no one else would have to go through the same humiliating process. The powers that be refused.

In rejecting the Obama administration’s compromise on contraception coverage – which mandates that insurance companies, not religiously affiliated employers, provide free contraception coverage – the church and the bishops find themselves out on a limb politically.

They have twisted religious liberty to mean they can impose their beliefs on others, and it’s taking a toll. The bishops’ rigid thinking caused me to leave the Catholic Church two years ago.

I could do the church’s good works advocating for others, but the only way I could advocate for myself was to leave the church.

I was no longer nourished spiritually. Instead, the spoken and unspoken messages about sexuality, the body and women – especially our inability to serve as clergy – forced me to leave.

Just like the people I advocate for, within the church hierarchy women are talked at and about, not to, and rarely with.

I’m deeply proud of my work representing the poor and dispossessed. I love my job, and the faith I’ve found through my work after leaving the church. I don’t like the thought of having to leave that behind, too.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of the author.

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soundoff (576 Responses)
  1. tnfreethinker

    Great job Anonymous! It takes a really uninformed person to believe that this mandate violates religious freedom.

    The right to religious freedom is an individual right. As each WOMAN will have the right to choose whether or not SHE will use birth control, HER religious freedom has not been violated.

    If this keeps up, we'll being seeing Muslims before Congress arguing that Sharia Law should be respected in honor of religious liberty. Or Mormons demanding the right to legally have multiple wives.

    Congress shall make no law respecting the establishment of religion.

    No greater freedom
    No debate
    Keep separate
    Church & state

    March 16, 2012 at 4:11 pm |
    • CMoses

      The mandate allows for every free drug approved by the FDA, including many who achieve high success rates because they induce abortions if their first role of ovulation prevention and cervical mucus fail. This has been the case since high estrogen pills were replaced with a reduced dose of estrogen and mixed with a dose of progestin. It's not about stopping someone from putting on a condom because the Church believes it's against God's design. The Catholic Church has been at the leading edge of the fight against abortions in this country since Roe v. Wade was passed, and the government has now issued a regulation requiring all employers, including the Catholic Church, those sponsored by the Catholic Church, and those businesses owned by faithful Catholics, to pay for drugs that routinely cause abortions as a part of their function. The Catholic Church has every right to be up in arms about this.

      March 16, 2012 at 5:24 pm |
    • J.W

      The Catholic church is the leading fighter against abortions? Catholics supports abortions more than anyone considering a third of abortions are from Catholics. Catholics get more abortions than atheists do.

      March 16, 2012 at 5:38 pm |
    • HawaiiGuest


      I think you should really revise your comment. For one, the Catholic Church itself, as well as other churches, are exempt from this policy. Two, if the church wants to be affiliated with a public insti.tution, then it should be subject to all the laws that affect those places. Third, the thought that contraception also induces abortions by not allowing an egg to attach to the uteran wall is merely an opinion of some, as there is no medical consensus on when a fertilized egg is classified as a human.

      March 16, 2012 at 6:54 pm |
  2. Reality

    A recommended handout at the next bishop or Obama news conference.

    Guidance for women on how to care for themselves:

    FIRST-YEAR CONTRACEPTIVE FAILURE RATES- From the Guttmacher Insti-tute

    Percentage of women experiencing an unintended pregnancy (a few examples)


    Pill (combined)……… 8.7
    Tubal sterilization ……0.7
    Male condom ……….17.4
    Vasectomy…………… 0.2
    IUD (Copper-T).............1.0
    (Masturbation mono or dual).............. 0

    Periodic abstinence.. 25.3 (RCC approved)
    Calendar.................... 9.0 (RCC approved)
    Ovulation Method....... 3.0 (RCC approved)
    Sympto-therma.......... 2.0 (RCC approved)
    Post-ovulation............. 1.0 (RCC approved)

    No method................. 85.0" (RCC approved and important to women wanting to get pregnant)

    (Abstinence)................... 0 (RCC approved)

    March 16, 2012 at 3:36 pm |
  3. Reality

    For the author of the topic i.e. Anonymous

    Going to the nitty gritty of the situation:

    The reality of contraception and STD control: (from a guy who practices intelligent se-x)

    Note: Some words hyphenated to defeat an obvious word filter. ...

    The Brutal Effects of Stupidity:

    The failures of the widely used birth "control" methods i.e. the Pill ( 8.7% failure rate) and male con-dom (17.4% failure rate) have led to the large rate of abortions and S-TDs in the USA. Men and women must either recognize their responsibilities by using the Pill or co-ndoms properly and/or use safer methods in order to reduce the epidemics of abortion and S-TDs.- Failure rate statistics provided by the Gut-tmacher Inst-itute. Unfortunately they do not give the statistics for doubling up i.e. using a combination of the Pill and a condom.

    Added information before making your next move:

    from the CDC-2006

    "Se-xually transmitted diseases (STDs) remain a major public health challenge in the United States. While substantial progress has been made in preventing, diagnosing, and treating certain S-TDs in recent years, CDC estimates that approximately 19 million new infections occur each year, almost half of them among young people ages 15 to 24.1 In addition to the physical and psy-ch-ological consequences of S-TDs, these diseases also exact a tremendous economic toll. Direct medical costs as-sociated with STDs in the United States are estimated at up to $14.7 billion annually in 2006 dollars."

    And from:

    Consumer Reports, January, 2012

    "Yes, or-al se-x is se-x, and it can boost cancer risk-

    Here's a crucial message for teens (and all se-xually active "post-teeners": Or-al se-x carries many of the same risks as va-ginal se-x, including human papilloma virus, or HPV. And HPV may now be overtaking tobacco as the leading cause of or-al cancers in America in people under age 50.

    "Adolescents don’t think or-al se-x is something to worry about," said Bonnie Halpern-Felsher professor of pediatrics at the University of California, San Francisco. "They view it as a way to have intimacy without having 's-ex.'" (It should be called the Bill Clinton Syndrome !!)

    Obviously, political leaders in both parties, Planned Parenthood, parents, the "stupid part of the USA" and the educational system have failed miserably on many fronts.

    March 16, 2012 at 3:27 pm |
    • CMoses

      Well said.

      March 16, 2012 at 5:26 pm |
  4. Think for yourself

    Well written article. It's nice to hear from someone who will actually be affected by the decision.

    March 16, 2012 at 3:26 pm |
  5. PrimeNumber

    As a father who has raised three daughters I can't help noticing ANONYMOUS' comment about the men in robes making decisions not according to her needs (or taste). I seem to remember 1973. That's the year women cut men out of the picture. A man was or was not a father entirely according to her taste. A father's opinion was ignored when the woman wanted to abort his children. Now, some women are feeling ignored by the bishops. Maybe some women are just eating what they served up for themselves back in '73.

    March 16, 2012 at 3:22 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      The Roman position on BC is fundamentally at odds with it's own Moral Theology. According to their Catechism, one's intention is the crux/deciding factor in a moral choice.
      All those using NFP, are choosing, INTENTIONALLY, to attempt to prevent a pregnancy. Catholics have a really dumb god. They think she doesn't know what they're up to.
      And you can stop you're whining any time. Use a condom, and take some responsibility for yourself, old man.
      Ever since Mary Magdalene and Tekla, were marginalized, Christianity has been uncomfortable with powerful women.

      March 16, 2012 at 3:29 pm |
    • PrimeNumber

      @ Four Jumps Here's the rest of the story.... Junior. My three daughters are the joy of my life. But here's a question: have you ever looked at a dirty diaper without puking out you guts?

      March 16, 2012 at 3:49 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      I see. No argument, just some wildly wrong guesses. Well, "I guess" it hit home.
      I've changed more diapers than you will EVER see, BTW.
      The fact that YOU are happy with 3, has NOTHING to do with anything. Good for you. Now tell the old men in purple dresses to stop trying to control women.

      March 16, 2012 at 4:03 pm |
  6. Russ

    last 5 paragraphs of the article:
    "I'm a bitter former Catholic whose chosen to keep working for the Church I'm angry with."

    Something doesn't add up. There are other groups out there that do this type of work.
    If you really care, why not just find a job with an employer whose convictions you support?

    March 16, 2012 at 3:21 pm |
    • Reality

      Some nitty-gritty:

      "Twenty-one states offer exemptions from contraceptive coverage, usually for religious reasons, for insurers or employers in their policies: Arizona, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Hawaii, Illinois, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan (administrative rule), Missouri, Nevada, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, Oregon, Rhode Island, Texas and West Virginia."



      The Catholic hierachy do not believe in artificial birth control so why do they employ those like Anonymous who do? Did not the Supreme Court recently decide that religious organizations have the right to decide who they hire and fire? Bottom line: To reduce health insurance costs and to not be subject to Obama care regulations about supplying contraceptives, Catholic groups should simply not hire those in need of contraceptives and fire those who demand such coverage.


      There are different opinions as to what a religion really is or what a non-profit is and therefore all non-profits should file Form 990's. At the moment, religious groups are exempt. To be fair therefore, there should be no tax-exemptions for any group and that includes the Democratic and Republican Parties. Faith and community initiative grant monies should also be cancelled and there should also be no tax deductions for contributions made to charities and non-profits.



      "The government must stay out of hiring and firing decisions by a religious organization, even if a minister sues for employment discrimination, the Supreme Court ruled on Wednesday.

      Religious freedom groups praised the decision, and especially the fact that it came from a unanimous court."

      Next topic !!!

      March 16, 2012 at 3:30 pm |
    • Russ

      I see Cap'n Cut & Paste has arrived...

      March 16, 2012 at 4:10 pm |
    • J.W

      What if it was the only place that was hiring? What if it was the only play in town that did this kind of work? Many people work jobs that they are not completely happy with. It is not that easy just to pick up and go somewhere else.

      March 16, 2012 at 5:00 pm |
    • SPA Knight

      J.W. – Then you just accept the job and the limitations it comes with until something better comes along. Those who are employed make compromises all the time. You can't have everything unless of course you choose to live off of others good will.

      March 19, 2012 at 1:13 pm |
  7. PrimeNumber

    Tell us, ANONYMOUS. How did you feel about the nine men in bathrobes.....

    March 16, 2012 at 2:58 pm |
    • PrimeNumber

      ...infallibly interpreting the C*o*n*s*t*i*tution when R v Wade was signed in? How was your Catholic conscience then?

      March 16, 2012 at 2:59 pm |
    • Primewonk

      SCOTUS decided Roe based on the right to privacy inherent inthe consti.tution. The Catholic Chuchs seeks to subjugate women based on bronze-aged mythology.

      March 16, 2012 at 3:18 pm |
    • Reality

      A recommended handout at the next bishop or Obama news conference.

      Guidance for women on how to care for themselves:

      FIRST-YEAR CONTRACEPTIVE FAILURE RATES- From the Guttmacher Insti-tute

      Percentage of women experiencing an unintended pregnancy (a few examples)


      Pill (combined)……… 8.7
      Tubal sterilization ……0.7
      Male condom ……….17.4
      Vasectomy…………… 0.2
      IUD (Copper-T).............1.0
      (Masturbation mono or dual).............. 0

      Periodic abstinence.. 25.3 (RCC approved)
      Calendar.................... 9.0 (RCC approved)
      Ovulation Method....... 3.0 (RCC approved)
      Sympto-therma.......... 2.0 (RCC approved)
      Post-ovulation............. 1.0 (RCC approved)

      No method................. 85.0" (RCC approved and important to women and men wanting to get pregnant)

      (Abstinence)................... 0 (RCC approved)

      March 16, 2012 at 3:35 pm |
  8. Hey

    and so I ask... why not do the same great work in some secular organization and ditch the religious stuff.

    March 16, 2012 at 2:46 pm |
    • J.W

      Maybe she lives in a small town with only one organization and it is religious. It is easier said than done just to go find somewhere else.

      March 16, 2012 at 3:12 pm |
  9. Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

    Prayer works. Here is the God-fearing Christian band DEVO to show you the correct method of praying if a song of praise.


    March 16, 2012 at 1:52 pm |
    • I'm The Best!

      Well if a band wrote a song about it, then it must be true!
      (i know its hard to tell but that was sarcasm. Praying to god gives the same odds as me praying to my phone. It's useless.)

      March 16, 2012 at 2:03 pm |
    • boocat

      Are you still beating that dead horse about prayer?

      March 16, 2012 at 3:08 pm |
    • Poe's Law strikes again

      Uh, really people? DEVO is New Wave/Punk. "Praying Hands" is about masturbation.

      March 16, 2012 at 4:41 pm |
  10. GodPot

    So how many of you Catholic's think you shouldn't have to pay taxes for our roads and highways? It's those same roads that women use to get to planned parenthood or the pharmacy to buy contraceptives you know...

    Should you all stop shopping at Walgreens/CVS? They make a prophit selling contraceptives. Boycott your 7-11? I see con doms behind the counter... What about cigarettes? Have all catholics quit smoking? It's known to cause birth defects.. oh, wait, you don't care about that as long as something gets born...

    It's often hard for the hypocrite to see their own hypocrisy.

    March 16, 2012 at 1:42 pm |
  11. Ken in Texas

    I don’t really care too much to read an article by “Anonymous”. Especially when it becomes a hatchet job with comments such as “The bishops don’t understand women or biology. They understand power and control.” And “But I’ve come to realize that women are excluded from the Catholic notion of social justice, specifically the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops’ understanding of social justice” as well as “The politically powerful bishops want to control access to contraception, portraying themselves as victims”

    But to address a valid point that was mentioned, I do agree that there should not be an issue with prescribing contraceptives to treat a real medical condition. This writer is correct when they said that contraceptives are used to treat many conditions other than being used strictly for birth control. In those cases, it should treated just like any other medication and if needed, provided.

    March 16, 2012 at 1:36 pm |
    • gerald

      The fact is the Church does allow for the use of the pill for other medically related issues. You can do a search for Archbishop Dolan's interview on youtube and it will tell you exactly that.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:46 pm |
    • Primewonk

      Ken, perhaps instead of just proclaiming the article is a hatchet job, you could expound on why she is wrong? Because to many of us, she nailed it. She not only nailed it, she hit it out of the park,

      Also it's so nice that YOU have decided when a woman should be allowed to get contraception. Will you be providing this service for all women? Can we assume that in the spirit of fairness, you will allow random women to decide what prescription medications you can have?

      March 16, 2012 at 2:01 pm |
    • Primewonk

      So Gerald, like I asked Ken, do you get to decide which woman is allowed to use contraception? Should a panel of these cretins like your Bishop get to decide?

      March 16, 2012 at 2:18 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      Their use of the pill for "other reasons" is just as "unnatural" as it is for contraception. Your god gave them the diseases, according to her "plan". They are trying to thwart the plan. Also how many Ca MEN, take Viagra. THAT is just as "unnatural".

      March 16, 2012 at 3:36 pm |
    • Ken in Texas

      Primewonk: You ask that I expound on why I think this is a hatchet job? Did you read the examples of what was written? You exclaimed “She not only nailed it, she hit it out of the park,” This indicates to me that you are closed minded and it would do no good to try to explain what I was thinking.

      As far as me trying to decide if a woman should be allowed to get contraceptives, I didn’t say anything about it one way or the other. I was commenting about this being used to treat diseases, nothing else. But being a smart a.s.s. that you are, you just jumped right in an accused me of trying to decide about what a woman should or shouldn’t do. Pull your head out of your own a.s.s and read what someone says before running off at the mouth.

      March 16, 2012 at 4:35 pm |
    • Ken in Texas

      gerald,,,,, I had always thought that the church allowed it as well. I was commenting since the author said that she knew women who had to jump through hoops to get coverage, which should not be the case.

      March 16, 2012 at 4:42 pm |
    • CMoses

      @Four Jumps to Insanity:
      It's simple biology. Viagara is a medication used to restore a malfunctioning human organ to it's proper function. Contraception, when taken AS A CONTRACEPTIVE, is intended to take a perfectly functioning organ and make it perform in an exact contradiction to its function.

      March 16, 2012 at 5:35 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      If your god says your wiener isn't supposed to salute, taking a medication to make it do so is contrary to god's will.

      March 16, 2012 at 7:05 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      I wonder, do you also approve of in vitro fertilization? After all, it's intended to make a uterus function for its 'intended purpose'. What do you make of all those embryos that aren't implanted and are disposed of as medical waste? Is that what your great wizard commanded? How about 55-year-old women undergoing extreme treatments to allow themselves to give birth? Do you approve of that, too?

      Why should Viagra be hunky dory for some geezer who can't get his willie to work when the woman he's boinking can't conceive anyway?

      March 16, 2012 at 7:10 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      S'ex has MANY "functions". Reproduction is only one of them.

      March 16, 2012 at 8:26 pm |
  12. Bo

    Some day this nation is going to wake up and discover that the church [Papacy] has more control than contraceptives in the lives of more than just Catholics.

    March 16, 2012 at 1:20 pm |
  13. D in Chicago

    Thank you, Anonymous, for this touching and important article. I hear you, and will share your article widely, especially among my Catholic friends and at my parish.

    March 16, 2012 at 1:12 pm |
    • Gerald

      Why don't you just get out. You're not Catholic anyway. You're leading others to hell.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:13 pm |
    • WASP

      @gerald: you're leading the way with your judging others. another old saying "devil get behind me".............so he can push you in first. 🙂

      March 16, 2012 at 1:25 pm |
    • Primewonk

      Gerald – 98% of Catholics use or have used contraception. I guess that means your group is much much much smaller than you think.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:42 pm |
    • gerald

      Have used.... big difference. I have used it myself. Fortunately we have confession. Fortunately God forgives.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:47 pm |
    • gerald

      Wasp...Those who are obstinate against church teaching have already separated themselves from her. Unless they repent they are in peril. God of course is the final judge.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:49 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      DO USE. Most Catholic women, of childbearing age DO use BC. Therefore THE church, (which is NOT the unelected bishops..yes, in the REAL tradition, bishops were elected), the Mystical Body of Christ, DOES approve BC.
      John Paul I, the day before he died, signed the papers to reverse the ban. Why do you think they "off'd" him ?

      March 16, 2012 at 3:40 pm |
    • Ridiculous

      "Have used.... big difference. I have used it myself. Fortunately we have confession. Fortunately God forgives."

      this is way too funny!

      Try putting the word 'murder' in there! "Have murdered .. big difference." You can murder one day and on Sunday be forgiven. Lame junk this 'get out of jail' confessions! Too stupid.

      March 16, 2012 at 3:41 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Bravo, Ridiculous!

      March 16, 2012 at 7:10 pm |
    • Keith

      Did you watch the news tonight? Did you believe every word of it?

      March 16, 2012 at 7:16 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Do you? Or do you believe there's a conspiracy everywhere, Keith, and disbelieve everything you see?

      Really, honey, get help.

      March 16, 2012 at 7:21 pm |
  14. Gerald

    The fruits of contraception are a 50% divorce rate, 40% of children in single parent homes with no father in the home, rampant promiscuity and STD's, and 1 million abortions a year, not counting those do to RU486. And this author says MORE, MORE! Pope Paul VI predicted all this would happen in his 1965 Encyclical, Humman Vitae. No the Catholic Church is far wiser than this author on the issue of contraception.

    March 16, 2012 at 12:57 pm |
    • JohnQuest

      How exactly does contraception fit into the divorce rate?

      March 16, 2012 at 1:01 pm |
    • J.W

      Contraception also leads to more advanced technology. We may not even have computers if it wasn't for contraception.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:04 pm |
    • TruthPrevails

      Actually the Catholic Church is stupid. If they would learn that what goes on in the bedrooms of people is not their business. this issue wouldn't be an issue!

      March 16, 2012 at 1:08 pm |
    • Gerald

      Too many ways to list them all but I will note a few. First it makes infidelity a much more attractive option (i.e. removes the consequence of a pregnancy) for both men and women and so cheating, which is a leading cause of divorce, has increased greatly. Secondly, contraception has greatly increased cohabitaion. Cohabition makes it more difficult to committ in relationships and once the relationship becomes a marriage it is MUCH more likely to end in divore. 85% of marriages in which cohabitation has been a part of the relationship end in divorce. Also women and men who have had multiple partners before marriage are much more likely to divorce. This has much to do with psychological impacts and the bonding that takes place, especially for the woman, during s-x. Contraceptives causes a suppresion of some of the womans chemisty so that a man and a woman who normally would not get married due to incopatable ferimones (this is a recent scientific discovery) end up getting married. When the woman goes off contraceptives and the ferimones start working again the man is unattracted to her. Could go much deeper in to these things but they are true. Much more could be said as well.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:10 pm |
    • Gerald

      JW – How many genius's have been aborted do to contraception? Any idea? Perhaps one who would have cured cancer buy now? Steve Jobs was a prime candidate for an abortion but his mother gave him up for adoption. So much for your prediction about computers. Think about it.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:12 pm |
    • WASP

      @gerald: you are soooooo off. divorce isn't caused by contriception it's caused by closed mind, domineering, jerks like you. women get tired of being controlled and told what to do and what not to do,tired of being beat and belittled by you religious fruitys and to you contreception is the problem? that's the least of your problems. the 40% split home, is also due to ignorant male shovensts like you, a woman gives birth to a child and you chickens run at the first sign of her being unbreakible and not willing to bend to your male dominated bull.....old saying if there is a problem in the home look at yourself first.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:14 pm |
    • JohnQuest

      Gerald, I think your logic is flawed, I think you are asserting a cause and effect relationship where there is none. I don't think access to contraception can cause an honorable person to cheat nor the absent of contraception can cause a scoundrel not to cheat.

      I assume that you do not cheat on your spouse, If someone were to give contraceptives would it make you cheat?

      March 16, 2012 at 1:23 pm |
    • JohnQuest

      Gerald, again you are flawed in your reasoning: How many "Hitlers", Stalins", and so forth were avoided by abortions? I would submit that both questions are irrelevant.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:26 pm |
    • Kepster

      Well said. Sometimes the truth does hurt.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:26 pm |
    • J.W

      I was actually being sarcastic. If contraception caused all those things then contraception has caused everything else that happened too.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:48 pm |
    • Doc Vestibule

      My partner and I have found a wonderful way to avoid becoming a divorce statistic.
      In all our years together, raising our happy and healthy family, we never got married – and we never will.
      Both of us had multiple partners before finding each other, and it impacts our relationship not one whit – excepting that we each know what we like in bed and spend no time wondering about the grass on the other side of the fence (if you get my meaning).
      Contraception is an important part of our happiness becuase we don't want any more children. Having an IUD doesn't make her promiscuous, nor does it affect our ability to bond due to hormonal imbalances.
      Me having had a vasectomy doesn't make me want to go out and schtup anything with two bumps and a wiggle.
      You see, our love is based on more than biological imperatives – it is about mutual respect and understanding, in and out of the bedroom.
      That respect doesn't come from a clergy officiated ceremony in which we proclaim our undying fealty to each other – it comes simply from being compassionate humans who understand that love is the state in which one's own happiness is contingent on the happiness of the other.
      No ceremony, vows, clergy or religion required.

      March 16, 2012 at 2:05 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      Gerald, you are so ridiculous it's impossible to say anything that would discredit you more than your own goofy posts.

      March 16, 2012 at 6:43 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      There is NO proof that contraception has CAUSED any of that crap gerry. The fact that "b" follows "a", does not prove "a" was the cause of "b". YOU have NO PROOF of a causal relationship of any of your nonsense.

      March 16, 2012 at 8:29 pm |
    • Four Jumps to Insanity

      OMG gerry,
      WHAT THE HELL is a "incopatable ferimones" ?
      (this is a recent scientific discovery)
      Yeah right. So is your brain.

      March 16, 2012 at 8:33 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      OMFG. "incopatable ferimones"? He WROTE that?! OMFG, he did.

      BWHAHHAHHAHHAHHAHHAAAAAAAAAAa a a a a a a ahahhahhhahhhahhah!

      Yeah, I'm gonna take THAT to the bank.

      What a friggin' moron.

      March 16, 2012 at 9:05 pm |
    • SPA Knight

      Those who are criticizing Gerald have not read Humanae Vitae Encyclical by Pope Paul VI. If you truly have an open mind and want the truth, then I suggest you read it and you will come to understand that all he predicted would happen as a result of contraception has in fact come to be. If you refuse to read about this truth, then you cannot be intellectually honest when you discard the claims.

      March 19, 2012 at 12:19 pm |
  15. WASP

    sounds like a woman that understands first hand about this issue. now i have also seen the reverse, women mindlessly following male dominated indoctrination condemning women for standing up for themselves. i say it's about time for women to do another protest like back in the 70's, just this time no funtime for men until they are truly treated equally. see how long men hold out then. 🙂

    March 16, 2012 at 12:51 pm |
    • Primewonk

      Just as a point of order, I'd like it duly noted for the record that not all of us Y chromosomers are misogynistic cretins. I remember marching for ERA in Chicago back in the late 70's. Interestingly, in one march, the folks next to us were all from Catholic Worker House.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:30 pm |
    • PrimeNumber

      @WASP "...no funtime for men until they are truly treated equally. see how long men hold out then." Before the pill, a woman would hold out for a wedding ring. After the pill a woman could perform for any jerk who came down the alley. With no fear of consequences, mr. jerk could use her and walk away. And now women are truly equal. Now, men don't treat women with any more respect than they do each other.

      March 16, 2012 at 4:23 pm |
    • Tom, Tom, the Piper's Son

      So before the pill, there were no 'shotgun weddings'? There were no abortions, legal and otherwise? There were no sudden trips out 'west' to 'visit relatives' for girls who had 'accidents'?

      You are delusional.

      March 16, 2012 at 9:07 pm |
  16. Portland tony

    Ask any Catholic priest what it means emotionally to breast feed one's child and the answer will be as meaningful as his opinion on a woman's right to contraception!

    March 16, 2012 at 12:44 pm |
  17. Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

    Prayer changes things

    March 16, 2012 at 12:40 pm |
    • Ykcyc

      I am praying that CNN lets me post a response, but for some reason, it is not working.
      My post is not going through. Is it the filter? Is it my prayer? Or is it me?
      Any help with the prayer or filter is appreciated. As far as "me", well that's a foregone conclusion.

      March 16, 2012 at 12:56 pm |
    • Helpful Hints

      Ykcyc, Maybe this will help:

      Bad letter combinations / words to avoid if you want to get past the CNN automatic filter:
      Many, if not most, are buried within other words, so use your imagination.
      You can use dashes, spaces, or other characters to modify the "offending" letter combinations.
      ar-se.....as in ar-senic.
      co-ck.....as in co-ckatiel, co-ckatrice, co-ckleshell, co-ckles, etc.
      co-on.....as in rac-oon, coc-oon, etc.
      cu-m......as in doc-ument, accu-mulate, circu-mnavigate, circu-mstances, cu-mbersome, cuc-umber, etc.
      cu-nt.....as in Scu-ntthorpe, a city in the UK famous for having problems with filters...!
      ef-fing...as in ef-fing filter
      ft-w......as in soft-ware, delft-ware, swift-water, drift-wood, etc.
      ho-mo.....as in ho-mo sapiens or ho-mose-xual, ho-mogenous, etc.
      ho-rny....as in tho-rny, etc.
      hu-mp… as in th-ump, th-umper, th-umping
      jacka-ss...yet "ass" is allowed by itself.....
      ja-p......as in j-apanese, ja-pan, j-ape, etc.
      koo-ch....as in koo-chie koo..!
      o-rgy….as in po-rgy, zo-rgy, etc.
      pi-s......as in pi-stol, lapi-s, pi-ssed, therapi-st, etc.
      p-orn… as in p-ornography
      pr-ick....as in pri-ckling, pri-ckles, etc.
      ra-pe.....as in scra-pe, tra-peze, gr-ape, thera-peutic, sara-pe, etc.
      se-x......as in Ess-ex, s-exual, etc.
      sp-ic.....as in desp-icable, hosp-ice, consp-icuous, susp-icious, sp-icule, sp-ice, etc.
      sp-ook… as in sp-ooky, sp-ooked
      ti-t......as in const-itution, att-itude, ent-ities, alt-itude, beat-itude, etc.
      tw-at.....as in wristw-atch, nightw-atchman, etc.
      va-g......as in extrava-gant, va-gina, va-grant, va-gue, sava-ge, etc.
      who-re....as in who're you kidding / don't forget to put in that apostrophe!

      There are more, some of them considered "racist", so do not assume that this list is complete.

      March 16, 2012 at 12:58 pm |
    • WASP

      troll troll troll.......troll

      March 16, 2012 at 1:07 pm |
    • Helpful Hints


      I trust that you are not speaking to me, since I have the post directly above yours?

      It's helpful to distinguish to whom you are speaking.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:12 pm |
    • WASP

      @Helpful Hints: nah when i first tried to post it was only "prayer changes nothing" on here, sorry it was targeted at that troll not you. i have truly seen him/it on every blog on cnn. it's crazy.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:23 pm |
    • Ykcyc

      @Helpful Hints
      Would you believe, the word was grati-tude?

      March 16, 2012 at 1:24 pm |
    • Ykcyc

      @all those who “think” that prayer “works” for them.
      It is hilarious, with a touch of insanity, when some of these delusional, insignificant, irrelevant, soon to be rotting corpses, elevate and talk themselves into believing that by simply talking to Eternity and Infinity, they can actually get what they want. They deserve it, simply because they’ve been a “good” little boy / girl. Get that?! What a mind-pluck! By simply asking, these “special cases” can make the Universe bend over and pop out a Ferrari! They can make God himself (yes, it’s a “he”) do and not do things. It appears that their version of “god” is some sort of puppet on a string. If that is not blasphemy, then I don’t know what is. If what they say was true, there would be no more wars, tsunamis, beheadings, pain or suffering! People! Please join me and rejoice in grati-tude for these very “special” mammalian specimens that think that just because they think and believe something to be true, therefore it must be true! Santa is real! Elvis is alive! Ferrari anyone?

      March 16, 2012 at 1:25 pm |
    • WASP

      @Ykcyc: first i love your first post, it was hilarious. second gotta love that nannybot. i have re-read posts i've written that were botted so many times looking for anything that wouldn't get through that i almost can pick them out in seconds now.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:29 pm |
    • Helpful Hints


      Thanks for your reply. I have been yelled at by folks who just take one look and think that I am posting a bunch of nasty words (I actually left off all of the no-brainer naughty words) .

      I agree with you about the troll - it does open the door to some interesting rebuttals, though.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:29 pm |
    • Primewonk

      Ykcyc – wait until you try and comment on the 1st amendment and you can't use the word const-tution! Or comment on a story about gay marriage, and you can't say se.x or ho.mose.xual

      March 16, 2012 at 1:35 pm |
    • Ykcyc

      I don't know, man.
      My post finally went through.
      Some may think it was not because of Helpful Hints, but because my "prayer" was finally answered.
      Who Knew?
      I just got a message that I am posting my comments too quicky %)
      What does that mean? Spo-ooo-ky!

      March 16, 2012 at 1:37 pm |
    • Jesus

      The statistical studies from the nineteenth century and the three CCU studies on prayer are quite consistent with the fact that humanity is wasting a huge amount of time on a procedure that simply doesn’t work. Nonetheless, faith in prayer is so pervasive and deeply rooted, you can be sure believers will continue to devise future studies in a desperate effort to confirm their beliefs!!! ............

      March 16, 2012 at 4:02 pm |
  18. TheRationale

    Because a group of old virginal men are in the best position to say how women should conduct their bodies.

    Support for this writer.

    March 16, 2012 at 12:32 pm |
  19. J.W

    This person seems to understand this issue. Good article.

    March 16, 2012 at 12:25 pm |
  20. Chris Perry

    CNN-why is this issue and article in the belief blog every single day????

    March 16, 2012 at 12:24 pm |
    • Sonoma

      Because, CNN stands for 'Contraception News Network'

      March 16, 2012 at 12:28 pm |
    • momoya

      Because it's a hot button issue.. Most people find it interesting.. The news in america is made to entertain, not inform.. It's a natural process in our entertainment-driven capitalist society.

      March 16, 2012 at 1:19 pm |
    • Primewonk

      The reason is because various groups seek to control and dominate women based on their perverted religious beliefs.

      Get these Nimrod to step into the 21st century, and you wouldn't see these stories anymore.

      Sound like a plan to you?

      March 16, 2012 at 1:22 pm |
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