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Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me … a nose job appointment?
Orthodox rabbis have concluded that cosmetic surgery is religiously acceptable in many instances.
April 2nd, 2012
06:46 PM ET

Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me … a nose job appointment?

By Jessica Ravitz, CNN

(CNN) - The problem for Orthodox Jewish singles, when it comes to meeting “the one,” might be right in front of them. Literally, as in staring them in the mirror.

So says a Miami plastic surgeon who recently announced surgery “scholarships” for single men and women in the Orthodox Jewish community.

Doing his part to help bring couples together, Dr. Michael Salzhauer launched this pro-bono campaign for his fellow Jews. Call it nose jobs for nuptials.

“A big nose worked for George Washington,” he said. “But there are standards of beauty that go across all cultures.” Like it or not, the stereotypical “Jewish nose” is a subject fraught with complex history.

No stranger to controversy, Salzhauer was behind a music video about nose jobs that recently gained lots of buzz. So he has no problem admitting that his offer of free surgeries is “very controversial, obviously.”

But if the goal for those in the dating pool is to marry and have children, Salzhauer says, getting noticed – or at least not overlooked – matters.

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Married with five kids and part of the religious community himself, Salzhauer, 39, knows how much family is valued in the Orthodox world. He also knows what it’s like to be ashamed of one’s schnoz.

“I had a big Jewish nose growing up. … Trust me, it was a doozy,” said the surgeon, who had his own rhinoplasty – and a chin implant – eight years into his marriage. “I enjoy noses. I identify with the operation.”

He says he completes about 250 nose jobs a year, and the news release announcing his scholarship program referred to him as “the Nose King of Miami.”

His business, and his offer of free surgeries for those in need, isn't just about noses, though. Does that mean a woman hoping to get noticed with new DD-sized breasts can simply stroll into his Bal Harbour practice and ask for financial nip-and-tuck aid?

Not even close, he says.

All applicants must be referred by their matchmakers, which are common in the Orthodox community. If they are younger than 18, they'll need parental consent. Financial need must be verified by a matchmaker or a rabbi. And each patient must meet criteria – medically, aesthetically and psychologically – before being deemed eligible for surgery.

How I learned to love my big nose

In a community where modesty reigns and tattoos are taboo, the idea of promoting cosmetic surgery may raise eyebrows – at least those on Botox-free foreheads.

Salzhauer understands the perceived disconnect, but he also has a ready answer.

“There are many leniencies for the purposes of marriage,” he said. “And as long as it’s done in a safe way, the idea of changing your body is not in and of itself against Jewish law.”

Hello, scalpel

Rabbinical scholars did not begin debating what Jewish law said about cosmetic surgery until the last half of the 20th century, according to Dr. Daniel Eisenberg, who wrote “A Jewish Approach to Cosmetic Surgery” in the June 2009 issue of the journal Jewish Medical Ethics and Halacha (Jewish law).

It was Rabbi Immanuel Jakobovits, described by Eisenberg as “the father of the discipline of Jewish medical ethics,” who first discussed the issue in 1961.

Jakobovits essentially concluded that cosmetic surgery should be forbidden unless it is medically recommended (after an accident, for example), can help “facilitate or maintain a happy marriage” or allows a patient to better contribute to society and make a decent living.

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A string of other go-to rabbis issued their own rulings in subsequent years. The general upshot: As long as cosmetic surgery doesn’t do harm and instead helps patients who are not driven by mere arrogance, pass the scalpel.

By the time rabbis began offering official opinions, however, the relationship between Jews and nose jobs already ran deep.

There was “a legacy of a long history of European denegration of the Jewish body, which was seen as flawed and inferior to the Christian body,” said Paul Root Wolpe, the director of the Center for Ethics at Emory University. “The Jewish nose was the strongest symbol of that inferiority.”

The idealized image perpetuated in the Western world stuck. Wolpe says that by the time “modern rhinoplasty first began in the U.S., it was significantly overpopulated with Jewish patients.”

That's because when experimentation with nose jobs entered the American surgical stage in the late 1800s, the “Jewish nose” made the list of those considered “desirable for improvement,” according to Elizabeth Haiken's “Venus Envy: A History of Cosmetic Surgery.”

Surgeons found a market and got to work, making the Jewish people the “first group of Americans to undertake surgical alteration of ethnic features in any numbers,” Haiken wrote.

It was a way to assimilate and ward off discrimination. But that didn't mean the procedures went uncriticized by others.

When Jewish actress, singer and comedian Fanny Brice unveiled amid “great fanfare” her new nose in 1923, Haiken wrote, Dorothy Parker – a writer, poet and critic known for her wisecracks – fired off a quip that Brice had “cut off her nose to spite her race.”

It was a charge Brice forever denied. She was proud to be Jewish, she insisted, and this wasn't about her origins. She simply wanted to improve the nose she had, which she described as “a sight in any language,” Haiken wrote. Even so, Haiken added, Brice's biographer acknowledged that Brice “must have hoped that the operation would make her look less Jewish. ... Ethnicity was definitely not fashionable in the 1920s.”

And it certainly wasn't fashionable or desirable during World War II, as anti-Semitism reared its hideous face not just abroad but also in America. President Franklin Delano Roosevelt's cousin, the wife of the U.S. commissioner of immigration, drove that point home.

Laura Delano spoke up in opposition to the Wagner-Rogers bill, which would have relaxed quotas to let 20,000 young German Jewish refugees into the country.

Delano’s words: “20,000 charming children would all too soon grow into 20,000 ugly adults.” This perspective, Haiken wrote, “was in many ways typical of American opinion in 1939,” and the bill was rejected.

If Hitler infamously obsessed over physical and racial differences, what does Salzhauer say to those who might think his fixation on the Jewish nose perpetuates that prejudice?

“If your vestiges of Judaism have receded so far away that all you're left with is your Jewish nose, that's not good news,” he said. “That's exactly the opposite of what should define people. Your Judaism should be based on internal beliefs, internal thoughts. We shouldn't be limited by any physical characteristics.”

Who's coming to the table?

In some American Jewish circles, rhinoplasty has been joked about as a rite of passage. Some women have no qualms admitting to their “sweet 16” nose jobs.

Knowing exactly how many Jews go under the knife or seek new noses is impossible to determine. It’s not like the American Society of Plastic Surgeons keeps those sorts of records. But the appeal today, for at least some Jews, remains real.

Already, Salzhauer says, he has 15 potential “scholarship” patients lined up. We hoped to talk to at least one of them, but the surgeon said plastic surgery is still stigmatized in the Orthodox community - which is partially driving his mission. The patients he invited to call CNN never did.

Salzhauer’s pro-bono service is one Rabbi Benzion Klatzko is fully behind.

He is the founder of Shabbat.com, a site that helps people – the bulk of them singles - find places to go for Shabbat, or the Jewish Sabbath. A section on the site is dedicated to helping singles find matches. In fact, the tagline on the site reads, “Helping people find their Challah,” both a reference to the bread eaten on Shabbat and a play on the Hebrew word for bride, kallah.

When he learned about Salzhauer’s offer, Klatzko says, he was “taken aback.”

“We all want to live up to our higher selves, and our higher selves don’t look at the size of a cheekbone or a nose,” he says. “But there’s a reality that exists,” and it’s one he’s all too aware of. He’s seen too many amazing women, for example, get overlooked by potential husbands at Shabbat tables. And like the surgeon, he’s all for helping singles gain confidence and find matches.

Salzhauer's offer makes sense to Emory University’s Wolpe.

“It is not surprising that someone should propose plastic surgery to try to enhance matrimonial chances,” he said. Faith, after all, doesn't leave people immune to “Western European standards of beauty.”

Still, when he heard about the scholarship plan, the ethicist's first thought was, “Oy.”

A Nose Job Love Song’

Last month, Salzhauer created another stir after he hired the The Groggers to write a song about nose jobs. The self-described modern Orthodox “Jewish pop-punk band with a comic twist” flew to Miami from New York to shoot a video for “Jewcan Sam (A Nose Job Love Song).”

The plot line is, in many ways, ripped from a typical high school playbook. Boy likes girl. Girl likes other boy. The reasons, at least at first, have everything to do with looks.

The song begins:

I want her, but she don't want what I am.
She says you got a beak like Jewcan Sam.
She says I only go with guys,
With perfect upturned noses, so cut yours down to size.

The video features lead singer L.E. Doug Staiman before and after his own rhinoplasty by Salzhauer.

What unfolded leaves the musician laughing.

When Salzhauer contacted the band about five months ago, Staiman scoffed at the surgeon's invitation, saying it was “the most ridiculous concept I ever heard.” He says he fired off a response, in jest: “Wanna give us all nose jobs?”

The surgeon said, “of course I'll give you nose jobs,” Staiman remembers. And as he got to know the doctor, the song idea grew on him. As for taking Salzhauer up on the offer of free surgery - Staiman was the only band member who did - he remained uncertain.

The video concept they all came up with, though, called for it.

“We wrote the script, and I wasn’t sure if I’d do it or not,” says Staiman, who’d grown into his original big nose, the one that was “pretty bad in high school.” And then, as the shoot crept up on them, he realized, “I either have to get a nose job or rewrite the script. … Laziness got the better of me. Rewrites are really tedious. So I thought, ‘The hell with it. I’ll get the nose job.’ ”

The song and video was all in fun, the singer and surgeon say.

It was created for less than $10,000, plus Staiman’s nose job, for social media purposes, Salzhauer says. It would be a new song for The Groggers, a band he likes and wanted to support, and his plan was simply to send it to existing patients and colleagues. The responses he got from people were overwhelmingly positive, he says, and peppered with LOLs.

Soon the video began to spread, as did the hype. Though a couple nasty notes came in, he says, plastic surgeons from across the country sent him kudos.

Then the media pounced. The video (which Salzhauer points out also mocks Oprah, Tom Cruise, high school crushes, the inappropriateness of student-teacher relationships and more) became a hot topic of discussion on shows like "Dr. Drew." The Anti-Defamation League weighed in, calling it “distasteful and offensive,” claiming it played on stereotypes, namely the caricature of Jews with hook noses.

“I find it hilarious,” Staiman said. “It’s bizarre that it got this far. I’m constantly in awe that anyone cares about this story.”

But care the American Society of Plastic Surgeons does. It’s called the video “inappropriate and offensive” and says it’s “initiated an investigation under its Code of Ethics which clearly requires ASPS members to uphold the dignity and honor of the medical profession.”

Because this is an “active investigation,” the society would provide no further details to CNN.

Salzhauer isn’t particularly fazed. He says he’s issued an apology, but the fuss befuddles him.

“The ASPS is ‘concerned’ that the video may set unrealistic expectations and ‘preys on the vulnerabilities of the human condition,’ ” Salzhauer wrote in an e-mail. “I’m not exactly sure how they got all that from a humorous self-deprecating video.”

While critics dissect what he's done, the surgeon will forge ahead with his latest plans, latex gloves on and tools in hand. He'll take recommendations from matchmakers, consult with rabbis and shrug off those who question his intentions.

It seems he won't be acting alone. A few days ago, he heard from another Jewish plastic surgeon who wants to help the cause.

But not wanting further American Society of Plastic Surgeons complications, Salzhauer is doing some pre-op work. He says he called the ethics committee to see whether his scholarship program would be considered a “contest,” something prohibited for surgeries. The committee told him it might, but if he creates a nonprofit, he'll be in the clear.

The Miami doctor plans to establish his nonprofit organization this week. The name he's going with: Operation Chuppah, a reference to the Jewish wedding canopy.

And – who nose? – perhaps someday soon he'll find himself dancing the hora at a scholarship-recipient's wedding.

- CNN Writer/Producer

Filed under: Ethics • Faith & Health • History • Holocaust • Judaism

soundoff (453 Responses)
  1. salmonrusty

    These Jews are not semitic, but white caucasians. The big noses are because of too much inbreeding.

    April 3, 2012 at 3:11 pm |
    • olcranky

      based on your comment, it sounds more like you may be the result of inbreeding. BTW – semites are caucasian so yes, Jews are semitic and caucasian

      April 3, 2012 at 3:15 pm |
    • rzzzll

      Oh really? So how did a genetic research study found 50% of Ashkenazi Jews are descended from 4 women from the Middle East over 1000 years ago? What about the Mizrahim, Jews who have lived in the Middle East and North Africa, as well as Israel? They speak Arabic and lived long before Islam existed, they think of themselves as Arab Jews. Keep hitting those whippits they're doing wonders for your intelligence.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:20 pm |
    • salmonrusty

      Arabs and Palestinians are semitic people. You are imposters getting away with Madoff style Land thieving.
      The Icelandic and Russian Jews are White Caucasians, they cannot be both middle eastern semites and Europeans.
      Europeans are white caucasians not semitic.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:22 pm |
    • salmonrusty

      You can use any trickery to steal land. 98% of human DNA is the same as apes; so maybe the Ashkenazi Jews could steal land in Uganda, which was one of the places for a Jewish homeland.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:27 pm |
  2. MyTake

    Looks like a discrimination suit waiting to happen ...

    April 3, 2012 at 3:10 pm |
  3. Leopold

    So then if the groom and the bride will have artificially smaller noses without knowing of the other's surgery, what will they think about where their children's noses came from.

    April 3, 2012 at 3:09 pm |
  4. John

    Big Jewish nose is for sniffing out those money saving deals and loose change!!

    April 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm |
    • Lady T

      LOL!

      April 3, 2012 at 4:11 pm |
  5. LIndy

    Let' see, if someone wanted to offer lip thinning to Africans, or kip thickening to Europeans, would CNN run the story?

    It's tasteless and ugly.

    April 3, 2012 at 3:07 pm |
    • olcranky

      they have run stories about black people and the ghastly "skin whitening"

      April 3, 2012 at 3:20 pm |
  6. Dad and Coach

    Really CNN? Could you be more racist or subtly attack an ethnic group than by posting this article? Then, since you already don't understand that media has a social responsibility, you also allow these pin-heads to spew their ethnic hate and vitriol towards the Hebrew faith. This stuff sounds like Nazi Germany circa 1939! You are the most pitiful example of a journalism platform EVER!

    April 3, 2012 at 3:06 pm |
    • GhostColin

      Dear Dad,

      The author of the article is Jewish and writes a lot of articles, columns and opinion pieces on Jewish culture. Peace out.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:08 pm |
    • The voice of reason

      I think that your anger that is directed toward CNN should be directed at the doctor that is telling single Jews that they need nose jobs.... use some common sense.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:11 pm |
    • kls817

      Agreed, CNN would not post a similar article if it were about some other minority group. Increasingly, anti-semitism is a liberal phenomenom, and of course, CNN is a liberal-biased company.

      April 3, 2012 at 3:19 pm |
    • jerry5555

      Wow, you're comparing this article to Nazi Germany???? CNN must be starting a new holocaust, everyone prepare yourselves!!!!!!!! I love how jews think they can just throw out stuff like this and actually be taken seriously.

      April 3, 2012 at 4:44 pm |
    • Dad and Coach

      Jerry5555, sorry to disappoint, I'm a Christian, not a Jew. But thanks for letting us know who you are. I was drawing a historical thread from Nazi Germany in a comparison where that society freely attributed all of its problems, economic woes, and short comings to small groups of people (Jews, Gypsies, etc.). What began as ignorant comparisons and prejudicial comments escalated into a holocaust.

      April 3, 2012 at 4:53 pm |
    • jerry5555

      Dad and Coach, sure you're not jewish!!! WINK WINK!! It's jewish people like you who always try to make your people look like victims. Yeah, now CNN sounds like nazi germany, (and the article was written by a jew!!!). Get a life.

      April 3, 2012 at 5:00 pm |
    • Dad and Coach

      Jerry, wrong again. Use your own advice. Thanks.

      April 3, 2012 at 5:05 pm |
  7. GhostColin

    Amusing article. It's not really the "Jewish Nose" that would make me overlook a woman, but more the borderline lunatic neurosis and guilt complex issues. Yeah, I went there. oi vey!

    April 3, 2012 at 3:05 pm |
  8. Hear Ye

    Now how are these vain ones supposed to sniff out other people's hard-earned money?

    April 3, 2012 at 2:56 pm |
  9. jerry5555

    I'm sorry Mr. Levy, I guess I should have stated the following – Thank you CNN, I really want to know when JEWS get free nose jobs. It's so important to the world at large and I am yearning for such news worthy information!!!

    Mr. Levy, does that make you happy now? Am I not a racist anymore? Get a life bud and stop using the race/bigot card when it's clearly not the case... it's getting very very old.

    April 3, 2012 at 2:55 pm |
  10. TDJ

    Can goys apply? I mean, really...

    April 3, 2012 at 2:54 pm |
  11. Atheism is not healthy for children and other living things

    Prayer changes things .

    April 3, 2012 at 2:53 pm |
    • Jesus

      ~`No it doesn't you are so full of crap and lies. You have NO proof it changes anything! A great example of prayer proven not to work is the Christians in jail because prayer didn't work and their children died. For example: Susan Grady, who relied on prayer to heal her son. Nine-year-old Aaron Grady died and Susan Grady was arrested.

      An article in the Journal of Pediatrics examined the deaths of 172 children from families who relied upon faith healing from 1975 to 1995. They concluded that four out of five ill children, who died under the care of faith healers or being left to prayer only, would most likely have survived if they had received medical care.

      The statistical studies from the nineteenth century and the three CCU studies on prayer are quite consistent with the fact that humanity is wasting a huge amount of time on a procedure that simply doesn’t work. Nonetheless, faith in prayer is so pervasive and deeply rooted, you can be sure believers will continue to devise future studies in a desperate effort to confirm their beliefs.!`

      April 3, 2012 at 2:55 pm |
  12. Rizengom

    This is such a bull-s**t article. So only jews have this problem? Jessica Ravitz how much you got paid for advertising such c r a p?

    April 3, 2012 at 2:49 pm |
  13. Roger Schulman

    Wonderful fodder for anti-Semites. How did a piece replete with phrases like "big Jewish nose" (even as a quote) and tin-ear jokes like "Jewcan Sam" (even as an excerpt) get past the copy editors? Inserting the word "stereotypical" once doesn't excuse the rest of the piece. And i could rationalize the whole thing as an easygoing humor piece if it were funny. It's not. CNN has succeeded in being defamatory and running a puff piece for a self-loathing cosmetic surgeon in one blow.
    If you must cover this marketing ploy, why not treat it seriously, as a piece about where our standards of beauty have taken us, or about how far a surgeon will go to promote elective procedures?
    If anyone else is offended, I wish they'd speak up in the comments.

    April 3, 2012 at 2:49 pm |
    • Moishe

      The concept is insulting to their grandparents and the children that they should have.

      April 3, 2012 at 2:54 pm |
  14. mary smith

    figures,,, jews helping jews... forget about those in need of cosmetic surgery for REAL medical purposes. why not offer them pro bono???

    April 3, 2012 at 2:49 pm |
    • olcranky

      how do you know he doesn't do other pro bono work, including medically necessary surgery for those who are un/underinsured?

      April 3, 2012 at 3:18 pm |
  15. Jonathan

    Why is this a headline?

    April 3, 2012 at 2:48 pm |
  16. James K.

    "...she wouldn't look Jewish at all."

    April 3, 2012 at 2:48 pm |
  17. Mike C

    They have big noses because air is free.

    April 3, 2012 at 2:43 pm |
    • Marcus

      And Mike, you have a big mouth because stupidity is free.

      April 3, 2012 at 2:48 pm |
    • really?

      What's wrong with you? Are you writing from under a rock?

      April 3, 2012 at 2:50 pm |
    • skinnymulligan

      Dude. Very wrong and very funny.

      April 3, 2012 at 2:50 pm |
    • heywood

      So Mike C, the only Jew you like is the dead one hanging on the wall of your church?

      April 3, 2012 at 3:42 pm |
  18. angel611

    Since they say they are God's chosen people, wouldn't their natural noses be God's chosen noses?

    April 3, 2012 at 2:39 pm |
  19. The Flamingo Kid

    If something is ugly it is ugly,whether it be a too big nose, thin lips, a lack of a chin, etc. Don't give me this "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" crap because it is utter nonsense – what's ugly is ugly. If someone has the opportunity to correct an unfortunate genetic imperfection in themselves then they should do it. There is nothing wrong with this Doc giving out free nose jobs.

    April 3, 2012 at 2:38 pm |
  20. Racine

    Is it just me or is this really insulting. Are they giving free nose jobs to the "Big Nose" offspring?....hmmmm

    April 3, 2012 at 2:37 pm |
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