A rabbi, a Mormon and a black Christian mayor walk into a room...
The worlds of Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, left, Michael Benson, center, and Mayor Cory Booker collided 20 years ago. The unlikely trio has maintained a friendship ever since.
June 23rd, 2012
10:00 PM ET

A rabbi, a Mormon and a black Christian mayor walk into a room...

By Jessica Ravitz, CNN

Newark, New Jersey (CNN) – Mayor Cory Booker waits in his wood-paneled city hall office for his next visitors. His life, even on a Sunday, is tightly scheduled. He checks the time on his cell phone and lets the ribbing of his two friends, who are now late, begin.

“Jewish time is even worse than black time,” he says, “although I should never drag all the Jewish people down with Shmuley.” And then, about the other guy: “I thought Mormons were always 15 minutes early?”

If the friendship between these men – a black Christian mayor, a rabbi running for Congress and a Mormon university president – wasn't so real, this would sound like a bad joke. Instead, it’s a reflection of how three men from profoundly different backgrounds met 20 years ago, connected and changed one another.

So when this unusual trio got together for a rare meeting this spring, we jumped at the chance to join them.

But before the others arrive, let’s introduce the players.

There’s Booker, the 43-year-old Democratic mayor of Newark, a rising political star and headline grabber, a man who was recently lauded for saving a neighbor from a burning building and grilled for his perceived off-message remarks on a Sunday talk show. He was raised by parents who fought in the courts to integrate the northern New Jersey suburbs where he grew up.

Mayor Cory Booker takes a break on a Sunday from running Newark to dish about his old friends – two men from profoundly different backgrounds. (Shaul Schwarz/Getty Images for CNN)

The two men he’s waiting for are no schlubs themselves.

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, 45, is a TV personality, former radio host, prolific author - his books include “Kosher Sex” and “Kosher Jesus” - and now Republican congressional candidate in New Jersey. He was also an unofficial spiritual adviser to Michael Jackson. He was raised by a single mom in Miami.

And Michael Benson, a 47-year-old political scientist and president of Southern Utah University, comes from Mormon and Utah royalty, of sorts. His grandfather is the late Ezra Taft Benson, secretary of agriculture under President Dwight D. Eisenhower and the 13th prophet and president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

With his wife and two young children in tow, the Mormon shows up first.

“Brother Benson,” Booker booms, addressing his friend in Mormon-speak as he stands to give him a big hug.

The last time these two had seen each other was five years ago, when they both helped celebrate the rabbi’s 40th birthday in New York. The massive party, as described by the mayor, was “a mosh pit of yarmulkes and sweat.”

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Boteach, who lives in New Jersey and sees the mayor often, rushes into the room on this Sunday a half-hour late.

“Let the record reflect, the Mormon got me lost,” he says by way of hello. The rabbi then glances down at Benson’s two little ones, who sweetly peer up at him.

“They’re a little too Mormon perfect,” he quips. “When Mormons walk into a hurricane, does their hair move?”

Booker, whose nearby desk features a stack of religious texts including the Bhagavad Gita and the Quran, watches as a crowd streams in behind Boteach. The mayor has box seats for this afternoon’s Cirque du Soleil performance of “Michael Jackson The Immortal World Tour,” and he wants his friends and their families to join him. But first he demands to know of the rabbi, “How many people are with you? … They just multiply.”

“Are you kidding?” Boteach shoots back. “We have 30 kids.” Actually, he only has nine.

Long before he became an author, TV personality and now congressional candidate, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach ran a popular student organization at Oxford University, which is where he met Benson and Booker. (Shaul Schwarz/Getty Images for CNN)

The three men and their very different worlds collided in the early 1990s at Oxford University in England, where they overlapped for two years. Booker was there on a Rhodes scholarship; Benson on a Rotary scholarship - "but if I slurred, it sounded like Rhodes,” he says. Boteach was there as an emissary for Chabad Lubavitch, a Hasidic movement in Orthodox Judaism.

The first one to arrive at Oxford was Boteach, in 1988. His official mission was to serve as a rabbi to the students, but by 1990 he’d broadened his outreach by establishing the all-inclusive L’Chaim Society, a campus organization to promote the universal values of Judaism while celebrating differences. The society, whose Hebrew name means “To Life,” became the second largest student group on campus, surging to 5,000 members – no more than 800 of them Jewish.

The Mormon arrived in 1991, having spent six months in Israel at the Brigham Young University Jerusalem Center. Benson, who earned a doctorate at Oxford, would write his dissertation on President Harry S. Truman and eventually write a book about the Jewish influences in Truman's life and his contributions to Israel’s founding. (The “Mormon perfect” son in the mayor’s office, it turns out, is named Truman.)

Shortly after Benson arrived at Oxford, a Jewish friend told him about Boteach, saying, “You have to meet this rabbi.”

Boteach admits his previous impressions of Mormons had been pretty negative. Then Benson walked into the L’Chaim Society – and the rabbi’s life – one Friday evening. “Not a hair was out of place,” a slightly disheveled and wild-bearded Boteach says, remembering when they met. “I was fascinated.”

Benson never budged from his own religious beliefs, but he became a devout member and officer of the L’Chaim Society, which held legendary Friday night dinners.

Michael Benson, a grandson of the 13th prophet and president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, helped change how his friends – and countless others – view Mormons. (Shaul Schwarz/Getty Images for CNN)

Booker arrived on campus a year later. He first met Benson through basketball - they both played for the Oxford Blues - then got to know Boteach with the help of a woman who stood him up for dinner. Booker was supposed to meet her outside the L’Chaim Society; when she never showed, he moseyed inside on his own to check out this mysterious place with a name he couldn’t pronounce.

Inside, hordes of people – many of them drunk – were dancing around with sacred scrolls containing the first five books of the Hebrew Bible. They were celebrating Simchat Torah, a holiday that marks the end of the annual Torah-reading cycle.

“I felt like I walked into a scene from ‘Yentl,’” Booker says.

Booker would go on to become president of the now-defunct organization, taking on tasks like lighting a Hanukkah menorah with Mikhail Gorbachev when the former Soviet leader visited Oxford.

Like Benson, Booker doesn’t drink; together they became allies as well as teammates. At the end of holidays like Simchat Torah or Purim – another raucous Jewish festival where celebrators often get drunk - they bonded as sober men in the room. They also led the Oxford Blues to win a British collegiate championship.

“I was their mascot,” boasts Boteach, whose friends tower above him.

The rabbi and Mormon say the mayor's humanity and heart inspire them. Booker says these two faithful men taught him to love and respect different religions, while helping him deepen his own beliefs and sense of awe. Likewise, both the mayor and Boteach say Benson changed how they and hundreds of others view Mormons.

Booker has been known to have his driver pull over when he spots young Mormon missionaries walking in pairs. He understands they’re often financially strapped, so he gives them some money for food and thanks them for being in his city.

“That’s something I never would have done if I hadn’t met Mike,” the mayor says.

And Booker certainly wouldn’t have pulled all-nighters studying Jewish texts before meeting Boteach. There’s a tradition, the rabbi explains, for a father to stay up and study the night before his son is circumcised. It was the middle of exams at Oxford when the rabbi first roped Booker in to join him the night before his first son Mendy's circumcision. Boteach came back again 11 years ago after the birth of Yosef, to which Booker responded, “Shmuley, you’re killing me” before he agreed to take part.

But the last time the rabbi issued his all-night study decree, Booker wasn’t having it.

“Forget it. Don’t even ask. I’m running for mayor,” the then-candidate told his friend six years ago, after Dovid Chaim was born. At 1 a.m., though, there was a knock on Boteach’s door. “You have 60 minutes. That’s it,” the mayor said as he rushed inside.

“Cory and I see each other whenever he needs advice,” the rabbi likes to say of Booker. And it's comments like this that prompt the mayor to retort, “He needs to get his head examined by a proctologist.”

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach rushes in for the reunion, and a hug from Booker, 30 minutes late. Michael Benson looks on, laughing as Boteach blames him, “the Mormon,” for making him late. (Shaul Schwarz/Getty Images for CNN)

All kidding aside, these three look out for each other's interests. After leaving Oxford for Yale Law School, Booker became a self-appointed kosher police officer, alerting the rabbi when he heard about Jewish L'Chaim Society members who had stopped keeping kosher. “You really need to do something,” he'd tell the rabbi.

Ever since Boteach learned that Benson’s older brother, Pulitzer Prize-winning editorial cartoonist Steve Benson of The Arizona Republic, had shrugged off religion, the rabbi has said he’s on a mission to bring the older Benson back to the LDS Church.

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The Mormon can’t help but marvel at the rabbi’s chutzpah, but he’s happy to let him give it his best shot. So far Boteach has only e-mailed with the older Benson, but he looks forward to a face-to-face meeting so he, the Jew, can give the ex-Mormon the proper Latter-day Saint sell.

Boteach has fallen for the national parks of Utah, where the LDS Church is headquartered. He has lectured a handful of times at universities where Benson has been affiliated. Benson has led the way in scrambling to find kosher food for the rabbi before the two have headed out for weekend hikes.

Booker reflects on his old friends and says, “I love the fact that those two have kept such a good friendship. They’re very different. Mike is humble and soft-spoken; Shmuley is loud and bordering on obnoxious.”

Noticing the time, Booker rushes off to squeeze in a meeting before Cirque du Soleil.

The mayor's friends, at home in his office, take their time leaving. They stroll down the empty and echoing hallways toward the exit of Newark City Hall. The Mormon throws his arm around the rabbi's shoulder.

“I have to get back to Utah soon,” Boteach says. “It's been too long.”

“This time, we'll get you baptized,” Benson tells him.

The suggestion of a Mormon conversion, even in jest, might stop other rabbis in their tracks. But Boteach doesn’t skip a beat: “If it'll get me votes, fine.”

- CNN Writer/Producer

Filed under: Christianity • Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints • Interfaith issues • Judaism • Politics • Race

soundoff (941 Responses)
  1. Seyedibar

    Three dimwitted people walk into a room...

    June 24, 2012 at 11:31 am |
    • Sean

      No need to insult your mother, father, and brother, sir.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:33 am |
  2. yaaan

    Group hug

    June 24, 2012 at 11:27 am |
  3. Moby Schtick

    I can't wait for the day where if you believe in stupid fairy tales you can't hold public office. Not because there'll be a law against it, but because the people won't trust or vote for people who sincerely believe such stupidity.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:25 am |
    • Edwardo

      They don't believe it. It's used as a money making, people controlling tool.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:30 am |
    • kevin

      move to China. Problem solved.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:33 am |
  4. rla

    Great– at least someone in the libeal democratic party get tolerance!!! I even have to give praise to CNN for running this story... It must have been a close call as it dosent't fit the White House/progressive story line!

    June 24, 2012 at 11:24 am |
    • Sean

      Silly. Do you ever get tired of the role of "internet political warrior"? Give it a rest; it takes no great intellect to yell "Fire" in a crowded theatre. Wake up? How about "Settle Down".

      June 24, 2012 at 11:32 am |
    • Edwardo

      I will never tolerate religion. The brain washing of children, the persecution of anyone who does not submit to their religion, the lies that spewed from the pulpit, the useless religious rituals.. Religion is the scurge of humanity.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:32 am |
  5. Moses

    Shmuley Boteach must not have been paying attention in rabbi school...otherwise he'd NEVER associate himself with the likes of the Republican party.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:24 am |
  6. DM

    Great, great, story, CNN! We need less prejudice and more real open minds in this society.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:20 am |
  7. Rick

    CNN's campaign ad for Booker is worth two days as the front page leading story ?!?!?!?
    Wake up folks!

    June 24, 2012 at 11:20 am |
  8. angie b

    this story represents tolerance and unconditional love for others...all should learn from this.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:20 am |
    • open-mind

      or it could represent convergence in uncritical thinking by shameless self-promoting cult leaders

      June 24, 2012 at 11:47 am |
  9. Brett

    Such a great article! Thanks CNN. Made my Sunday.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:14 am |
  10. jpw2010

    I think the jews believe in their stupid rituals and observations than they do god and the mormon religion is nothing more than an idiotic cult.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:08 am |
    • DM

      This article teaches us an important lesson of education and open-mindedness. You obviously lack both.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:18 am |
  11. Mark

    A great story of love and friendship but some have to turn it into a political statement.................this conservative won't.

    June 24, 2012 at 11:06 am |
    • Sean

      Thank you Mark.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:27 am |
    • Sean

      Amazing how people can "tilt" a story that's about nothing more than a genuine friendship across stratified social/religious lines, to fit whatever agenda (anti-liberal, anti-religion, anti-CNN, whatever) they're trying to push.

      Appreciate a good article for what it is, and more importantly, the relationships that are the subject of the article.

      So many waste their time being petty and foolish.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:30 am |
  12. .

    Great story. Thanks CNN!

    June 24, 2012 at 11:01 am |
  13. spacefla2012

    Best read in a long, LONG time!

    June 24, 2012 at 10:59 am |
  14. ted

    Dumb story

    June 24, 2012 at 10:58 am |
  15. Bishal

    Hallo Hay Bay Bay

    June 24, 2012 at 10:56 am |
  16. disgustedvet

    Refreshing story for a Sunday morning. Thanks CNN.

    June 24, 2012 at 10:48 am |
  17. Joseph Smith

    Mormons are wolved in sheep's clothing...no matter how nice they look or sound. Their non-biblical "scriptures" (Book of Mormon, etc.) have occult origins and have been proven grand fiction at best.

    June 24, 2012 at 10:46 am |
    • Jesus Christ

      They all have occult origins. Trust me on this one.

      June 24, 2012 at 10:49 am |
    • disgustedvet

      Bah humbug.

      June 24, 2012 at 10:49 am |
    • Eric

      The Church of Jesus Christ invites all to come unto Christ. The church of Jesus Christ has been restored and will continue to go forward despite people like you who try to belittle it.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:03 am |
    • DemMarcus

      This obviously is spoken in ignorance. Have you read the Bible? Have you read the Book of Mormon? How was the Bible compiled? How was the Book of Mormon compiled? -That is right, MEN! How was the Catholic Church started? How was the Baptist Church started? How was the Mormon Church started? -That's right, MEN! What do all of these churches teach? -To be better people and life wholesome lives.

      This article teaches us an important lesson of education and open-mindedness. You obviously lack both. If you were educated, you would see that even this "cult" of a religion has a welfare program that serves millions of people worldwide that are not even associated with the religion. The Mormon faith has strong service roots and believes in living like Christ. Now I am not a Christian, but it is obvious, neither are you. Christians teach to not judge others. Not only do you judge without knowledge, but you judge incorrectly. Whatever faith you are or are not, you are an embarrassment to your faith, God, and your family. Who could raise a person in such IGNORANCE save it be someone of equal ignorant nature.

      As a minority, who respects diversity and love, I would rather vote for a Mormon than a member of Jeremiah Wright's congregation. One religion speaks of loving one another and counting blessings, while the other speaks hate and embraces negativity. What would you know? -Obviously nothing.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:05 am |
    • TJeff1776

      To SMITH....everybody's religion is a no-go. His own counts ONLY. A true BIGOT in his own right.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:09 am |
    • DM

      "This article teaches us an important lesson of education and open-mindedness. You obviously lack both." [2]

      June 24, 2012 at 11:18 am |
    • Brian

      Did you ever watch Raiders of the Lost Ark? Remember the scene when the High Priest opens the Ark and he has the funny out fit, with the hat and the breastplate? Wasn't that a bit occultic? Well, guess what buddy, it's all in the Bible.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:25 am |
  18. Lilith

    So, are the rabbi and Morman white?

    June 24, 2012 at 10:45 am |
    • DemMarcus

      Because their parents were. Hmm.....

      June 24, 2012 at 11:06 am |
    • Lilith

      DemMarcus ?? The headline stated one was a black christian, why didn't they list the other 2 as white? The point of the question was why they felt the need to label the christian as black.

      June 24, 2012 at 11:15 am |
  19. julie

    Forgot to add that it looks written by the Romney campaign manager.

    June 24, 2012 at 10:42 am |
    • DemMarcus

      Why would that be? Because it's not bias to either political party? Booker is a Dem who is open-minded and not trying to buy votes. He is a decent man who doesn't point fingers. If anything, this is our party who is writing this. Many Mormons are Dem as well as Rep.

      Amazed by ignorance. Oh, maybe we should have invited Jeremiah Wright. Then it would've been interesting. Booker is a good man and I am sure Romney would agree. He is a moderate like Clinton. He would embrace open-mindedness and honesty. -Wait, maybe this is written by the Romney campaign. LOL!!

      June 24, 2012 at 11:11 am |
  20. Hypatia

    Is the GOP having another convenstion?

    June 24, 2012 at 10:42 am |
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